The Rules of Everything

268 Pages·8.522 MB·English

by  Richard Templar

THE
RULES
OF
EVERYTHING
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THE
RULES
OF
EVERYTHING
A complete code for success
and happiness in everything
that matters
RICHARD TEMPLAR
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ISBN: 978-1-292-43212-0 (print)
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Contents
Acknowledgements xiii
Introduction xv
How to use the Rules xix
The Rules of Work 2
1 Get your work noticed 6
2 Never let anyone know how hard you work 8
3 Set personal standards 10
4 Carve out a niche for yourself 12
5 Under promise and over deliver 14
6 Know what you want long term 16
7 Don’t gossip 18
8 Put things in perspective 20
9 Never disapprove of others 22
10 Get people to assume you have already made the step 24
The Rules of Management 26
1 Get them emotionally involved 30
2 Accept their limitations 32
3 Encourage people 34
CCOONNTTEENNTTSS vv
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4 Be very, very good at finding the right people 36
5 Respect individual differences 38
6 Train them to bring you solutions, not problems 40
7 Work hard 42
8 Be proactive, not reactive 44
9 Have principles and stick to them 46
10 Go home 48
The Rules of Life 50
1 Keep it under your hat 54
2 You’ll get older but not necessarily wiser 56
3 Accept yourself 58
4 Dedicate your life to something 60
5 No fear, no surprise, no hesitation, no doubt 62
6 It’s OK to give up 64
7 Don’t dwell on the past 66
8 You’ll never understand everything 68
9 Know when to let go – when to walk away 70
10 Find a new rule every day – or occasionally at least 72
The Rules of Wealth 74
1 Anybody can be wealthy – you just need to apply yourself 78
2 Decide on your definition of wealth 80
3 Most people are too lazy to be wealthy 82
4 Decide what you want money for 84
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5 Understand that money begets money 86
6 It’s harder to manage yourself than it is to manage your money 88
7 Only by looking wealthy can you become wealthy 90
8 Know yourself – solo, duo or team player 92
9 Don’t try to get rich too quickly 94
10 Know when to stop 96
The Rules of Parenting 98
1 Relax 102
2 Look pleased to see them 104
3 Treat your child with respect 106
4 Use praise wisely 108
5 Make sure they know what’s important 110
6 Schooling isn’t the same as education 112
7 Remember Newton’s Third Law 114
8 Don’t look under the mattress 116
9 You can’t fix everything 118
10 Don’t guilt-trip them 120
The Rules of Love 122
1 Choose someone who makes you laugh 126
2 You can’t change people 128
3 You can’t make someone love you 130
4 Be nice 132
5 Allow your partner the space to be themselves 134
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6 Be the first to say sorry 136
7 Your partner is more important than your kids 138
8 Contentment is a high aim 140
9 Never be too busy for loved ones 142
10 The more you put out, the more you get back 144
The Rules to Break 146
‘Success is a good job earning lots of money’
1 Success is what you say it is 150
‘The world is against you’
2 You’re responsible for your own life 152
‘We all have an absolute right to be respected’
3 There’s a balance between the right to respect, and tolerance 154
‘A place for everything, and everything in its place’
4 It’s not morally superior to be tidy 156
‘The best people will be there for you for life’
5 People come and go, and it’s OK 158
‘You can’t help how you feel’
6 You feel what you think 160
‘Some people are just asking for it’
7 Keep the moral high ground 162
‘No one is perfect’
8 Be on the side of the angels, not the beasts 164
‘Let people know when you’re right’
9 Never say ‘I told you so’ 166
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‘Guilt tells you where you’re going wrong’
10 Don’t do guilt 168
The Rules of People 170
1 People believe what they want to believe 174
2 Banter isn’t teasing 176
3 If they feel small, they’ll big themselves up 178
4 Everyone else is insecure too 180
5 Teenagers hate you because they love you 182
6 Some weirdos are great people 184
7 Listen to what they don’t say 186
8 Loneliness is a state of mind 188
9 Credit people with your own ideas 190
10 Say thank you properly 192
The Rules of Thinking 194
1 Take control 198
2 Focus on other people 200
3 Be in the present 202
4 Think outside your head 204
5 Loosen up 206
6 Don’t settle for your first answer 208
7 Facts are neutral 210
8 Spot the box 212
CONTENTS ix
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