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The Power of One The Power of One Leading with Civility, Candor, and Courage Natasha Bowman, J.D. First published 2022 by Routledge 605 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10158 and by Routledge 2 Park Square, Milton Park, Abingdon, Oxon, OX14 4RN Routledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business © 2022 Natasha Bowman T he right of Natasha Bowman to be identifi ed as author of this work has been asserted by her in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. A ll rights reserved. No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced or utilised in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publishers. T rademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identifi cation and explanation without intent to infringe. I SBN: 978-1-032-21060-5 (hbk) I SBN: 978-1-032-21059-9 (pbk) I SBN: 978-1-003-26655-6 (ebk) D OI: 10.4324/9781003266556 T ypeset in Garamond b y Apex CoVantage, LLC This book is dedicated to my love, my best friend, my Power of One— Kent. Contents About the Author ..............................................................xiii Introduction ....................................................................... xv Author’s Note ...................................................................xxiii 1 Asleep at the Wheel: The Dangers of the Default Mode ...........................................................1 Stuck in Default .................................................................. 3 Wake Up and Drive ............................................................ 7 Conclusion .......................................................................... 9 2 The Power You Don’t Think You Have ..................11 Do You Have the Power? ..................................................13 A Distinction That Makes All the Difference ....................14 Conclusion .........................................................................18 Note....................................................................................20 3 For Such a Time as This ........................................21 Something Better Than an Ally.........................................22 From Allyship to Ourship ..................................................23 Owning and Spending Your Power ..................................26 Conclusion .........................................................................27 Notes ..................................................................................28 4 The Three C’s of Infl uence ....................................31 Infl uence and the Power of One ......................................32 The Shape of Powerful Infl uence .....................................33 vii viii ◾ Contents Civility: Human Beings in Corporate Space .....................34 Candor: Getting Clear on What It Means to be Transparent ....................................................................36 Courage: Being Courageous .............................................38 Conclusion .........................................................................39 Notes ..................................................................................40 5 What Is Civility? .....................................................41 C ivility and the Power of Citizenship ...............................42 W hat Civility Looks Like ....................................................44 A re You Really Civilized? ...................................................46 C onclusion .........................................................................48 Notes ..................................................................................49 6 Incivility and the Impact of Bad Citizenship ..........51 T he Cost of Incivility .........................................................51 W hat Makes for a Bad Corporate Citizen? ........................53 B iased Citizenship and the Danger of a Single Story .........54 T he First, the Only, and the Power of One ......................59 C onclusion .........................................................................61 Notes ..................................................................................62 7 How to Become a Model Citizen ............................63 L ooking for Civility in an Uncivil World ...........................64 R ecovering the Virtue of Civility .......................................66 P racticing Virtue: How to Become a Civil Person ...........67 T en Practices for Cultivating Civility .................................68 C onclusion .........................................................................69 Notes ..................................................................................71 8 Creating a Culture of Civility .................................73 D efi ning Civility and Pursuing It Together .......................74 E xercise: Draft Your Civil Constitution .............................76 T he Promise of a Civil Culture at Work and in the Community.....................................................................77 C onclusion: A Plea for Civility ..........................................79 Notes ..................................................................................79 Contents ◾ ix 9 What Is Candor? .....................................................81 What Is Candor?.................................................................82 T he Case for Candor ..........................................................83 T he Tension: Civility or Candor? .......................................86 C onclusion .........................................................................89 Notes ..................................................................................90 10 Nothing Good Grows in the Dark .........................91 O ut of the Church and into the Corporate World ...........92 D arkened and Darkening Habits ......................................94 Candy-Coated Feedback...........................................95 Fungal Growth ..........................................................95 The Untouchables.....................................................96 Litigation “At Will” .....................................................96 C onclusion .........................................................................97 Notes ..................................................................................98 1 1 How to Let Your Light Shine .................................99 Candor Starts with Honesty about Ourselves ................100 S hining a Light on Our Privilege ....................................102 R ecovering the Virtue of Candor ....................................105 P racticing Virtue: How to Become a Candid Person ..............................................................107 T en Practices for Cultivating Candor ..............................108 C onclusion .......................................................................109 Note..................................................................................110 1 2 Creating a Culture of Candor ...............................111 W oody, Buzz, and the Braintrust ....................................112 F rom Cartoons to Cultures ..............................................113 M odel Candor ..................................................................115 I nvite Candor ...................................................................116 P rotect Candor .................................................................117 Create Venues for Candor .......................................117 D evelop Relationships ............................................117 E stablish Guidelines ................................................118 E xpect the Truth ......................................................118