The Angry Therapist: A No BS Guide to Finding and Living Your Own Truth

162 Pages·2017·7.87 MB·English

by  John Kim

PRAISE FOR THE ANGRY THERAPIST
“When it comes to getting to the heart of the matter, John Kim’s straight-to-
the-point approach addresses issues that are often neglected with an
honest, no nonsense attitude.”
—Chris Spealler, CrossFit Park City/IconAthlete
“The best thing John does is to get me to honestly and truthfully assess
myself and my situations by simple and uncomplicated statements. Then I’m
able to take healthy actions built off those assessments! Thank you John!”
—Bill Grundler, Crossfit coach, athlete, commentator, gym owner
“Not only was John approachable and unique in his technique, he had a raw
honesty that made me feel like we were in this journey together. My entire
worldview shifted as a direct result of John’s insight and encouragement. I
needed his unique methods combined with my hard work in order to
experience my rebirth. The result: I know my worth, what it feels like to
actually love myself, and that gives me fearlessness in my personal and
professional life. The kind of change and hope that John is actively engaged
in bringing to people is the kind of radical change that most only talk about.”
—Amy Chaffin
“John Kim is an amazing visionary! His methodology to life coaching is
unique, refreshingly irreverent, and catalytic. His book is bound to be a
masterpiece. It smashes conventional or outdated forms of psychotherapy.
You can’t help but connect to his work at the deepest level. This book will
touch thousands more lives. Thank you John Kim!”
—ChaCha
“John frames complex ideas into powerful words that relate to us all. John
lives the life, walks the talk and experiences the nectar he seeks. His words
and energy inspire thousands of others to do the same. The community he
has created and the lives he has directly and indirectly impacted are
immeasurable.”
—Beth Derrick
“I am a behavior therapist, and even though I enjoy my job a lot, I have
“I am a behavior therapist, and even though I enjoy my job a lot, I have
always sensed a lack of accomplishment in my life. I work with autistic
children, which is amazing, but something was missing. And then, through a
friend, I discovered The Angry Therapist and his raw honesty made me want
to be as honest in my life. I am a child again, playing around, jumping in
puddles. It’s not that The Angry Therapist has brought something new and
exciting into my life, but John Kim helped me see how I could live in a way
that, every day, I finally feel at peace with the little boy in me.”
—Jean-Louis Ghazi
“You cannot ignore John Kim. He lets you know the real, raw details in the
hope that you, too, will listen and see who you are, own it, say it, and use it
for good. So you keep reading. You may laugh when he shares something
personal, or you may cry. His story is compelling. But he’s not stopping there.
Be ready to look at your own shit. Now that you’ve been introduced to John
Kim, you cannot ignore yourself.”
—Julie Schilling
“I read John’s book and it was a complete game changer for me. It was an
incredible eye opener that I will never forget. Every other page was an a-ha
moment. I’d never read a ‘self help’ book like it. His tools are refreshing,
realistic, and most importantly, attainable. He comes to the table with a
positive outlook that is inspiring, energetic, funny, and completely human. He
has gifted me with the tools I need to repair my own cracked container, and
has enabled me to build strong, healthy, mutually valuable, fulfilling
relationships with others.”
—April Policani
“As the Angry Therapist, John Kim manages to cut to the heart of the issues
with a playful, no-BS angle. I have recommended his books and social media
tribes to dozens of my yoga students. Within his work, I am held accountable
to my own sense of purpose and happiness without feeling selfish or
misrepresented. Many of Kim’s simple quotes support me to not only
celebrate my essence, but to inspire me to be the best version of myself
while living my truth. And he cracks me up.”
—Vanessa Running
“When I first discovered John, life was a hot mess for me. I was depressed
and looking for a way out. The first quote I saw from him was ‘Unfuck
Yourself.’ That put me into a whole new perspective and allowed me to see
that I am not as alone as I thought I was. He always has my gratitude for
that.”
—Jewlz D’Andrea
“In a digital age where everyone’s busy connecting to Wi-Fi and tuning out
the world; John Kim has flipped the script on what social media means to so
many. He’s forged a path to create a disruptive approach to coaching,
therapy, and living well, bringing together people from across the globe like
no one else has.”
—Lauren Ault
“For thirty years I wandered around as a victim of my own thoughts, never
able to see the bigger picture. I thought all I needed was myself. Pulling
myself up by my bootstraps seemed to get me by. Finding The Angry
Therapist helped me see that I wasn’t alone in needing to learn self-love and
to show up for myself. All thanks to him. John Kim is a fantastic person,
counselor, friend and human.”
—Christie Mayo
“Being exposed to John Kim has completely changed my life. I have gone
from someone who felt like they lost themselves in a previous marriage, who
was afraid to speak up for fear of making others angry, to someone who is
now confident and living as my authentic self. By being our authentic, raw
selves, we offer others hope and courage so that they too can live a life of
authenticity. I can’t thank John Kim enough for providing a safe container.”
—Christa McDermott
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© 2017 Cover art by Josh Michels Cover art and text design by Josh Michels Author photo © Ja Tecson
Thank you to David Brooks and Marsha Shaw at Mission Grafica, Mission Cultural Center for Latino Arts,
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Ebook ISBN 978-1-94152962-1
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CONTENTS
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Epigraph
Preface
Introduction
The JK Method
Chapter One
My Fucking Feelings
Chapter Two
The Power of Transparency
Chapter Three
Creating Your Stance
Chapter Four
Container
Chapter Five
Maintaining Your Safe Container
Conclusion
Notes
About the Author
This book is dedicated to anyone who has followed me on social media, read
a post, watched a video, or liked a photo, and to anyone who has done a
session with me—whether it was once or twenty times, via webcam, in a
coffee shop, or around a lake. Without you, this book would not have been
possible. You have given me more than likes. You have given me purpose,
and for that I am forever grateful.