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Texting Mastery Everything a guy needs to know to succeed with women via texting By : Street Attraction 1 Texting Mastery Intro So you’ve been getting telephone numbers, but many of them are flaking and not actually leading anywhere. The aim of this guide is to help you convert more numbers into hot dates. First let's get real and acknowledge that each element of game is interconnected. If you’re constantly being rejected for dates, it might not necessarily be your poor texting, but the fact you have poor quality interactions during your pickups. You might have not created enough attraction or rapport for the girl to want to meet up with you afterwards. You may just be hustling the girl; forcing a number close, instead of concentrating on building solid connections. This guide will assume that your pickup was solid enough. For pre-number close pickup advice refer to our other resources on Street-attraction.com or arrange a one to one session with us. Pickup is full of potential traps and text game is no exception, this guide will help you avoid falling into those traps so you can increase your chances of turning telephone numbers into dates. Street Attraction 2 www.street-attraction.com Contents NUMBER CLOSING 4 USING NICKNAMES 5 THE FIRST TEXT 6 When to send the first text? 6 How to correctly send a first text 8 The Short and sweet basic first text should include: 8 The fun/flirty first text 9 The Conversation continuation text 9 The tease followed by a question text 9 Call back humour text 10 3 Key things to remember when writing the first text: 10 20 Important Rules to follow when texting 12 Inviting her out for the date 16 The Invite Text 16 UNCLEAR & INDECISIVE TEXTING 18 If she responds with a counter offer 19 If she cancels for next week 20 If a girl replies to your date offer with 'I'll let you know' 20 CONFIRMING THE DATE 22 If she doesn't pick up 23 How to respond if she flakes/cancels 24 If you need to cancel the date 24 PING TEXTS 26 Examples of poor ping texts 26 The right way to send a ping 26 Humorous Pings 28 Picture pings 28 The ping gauges her enthusiasm 29 THE DEAD NUMBER REVIVAL JEALOUSY TEXT 30 Other, more high risk dead number revival texts 31 Other Pings for girls that have fallen off 32 High risk cocky funny pings 32 3 Texting Mastery NUMBER CLOSING Before we delve into texting, these are the Street Attraction steps for getting her number. Before you go for the number, make sure you initiate the end of the interaction. Example of how to end a pickup You; “Listen I gotta dash, I have a meeting to attend/ need to rejoin my friends/ whatever but you know what, it’s been fun speaking with you” Then go on to qualify her (it might not be the first time you qualify her). You; “Not only are you cute/stylish but you’re cool/interesting too.” You should then invite her out and ask what her number is. Don’t ask ''can I have your number'' instead assume that she’ll give it to you. Your frame should be “why wouldn’t she give it to me? I’m such a cool guy, of course she'd like to see me again'' You; ''Let’s grab a coffee/bubble tea/ cocktails tomorrow evening, what’s your number?'' Deliver this in a cool relaxed tone, without pauses, and have your phone ready assuming that she’ll give you her number without hesitation. Pass her your phone towards her chest and let her enter her number. When she hands it back say… You; ''I’ll give you a missed call so you have mine'' There’s nothing more frustrating than having a great interaction with a hottie and not saving the number properly (it’s especially easy to make errors with long foreign numbers). This is why you should give her a missed call. On many occasions a girl will text you first. She won't have that opportunity if she doesn't have your number. Make sure that when you’re giving her a missed call that you do it in a nonchalant manner. You do not want to give off the vibe ‘I’m giving you a missed call because I’m so used to girls giving me fake numbers that I feel insecure that you’ll do the same’. Have a neutral expression on your face that communicates that this is all very normal and routine for you. Street Attraction 4 www.street-attraction.com USING NICKNAMES After saving her number you can say: You; “I need something to remember you by, how about ‘Sarah Crazy Eskimo girl?” Nicknames keep it fun and accelerate a sense of intimacy. Have fun coming up with something together, create an inside joke. Come up with something a little bit more specific which is not just generic like 'Sarah hot' or 'Sarah beautiful'. Nicknames depend on the girl and what she can take. Some girls are very prudish, in which case it's best to use something sweet and light. Some examples of nicknames that I’ve used in the past: 1. Anna the Silly German 2. Sugar buns Samantha 3. Petra sweet midget 4. Strawberry shortcake 5. Little miss pretty face 6. Snow White 7. Goofy For example if a girl was dressed in sexy black clothing with the name Dominique, you could give her the nickname ‘Dominatrix'. Use the nickname when you send the first text, this way she'll remember you and the fun playful vibe you two had when you met. The nickname also helps your text to stand out a little amongst the typical boring texts she gets from other guys. If you don’t give her a nickname, don’t worry it’s not a big deal. 5 Texting Mastery THE FIRST TEXT Whenever texting a girl, keep in mind that it is not like a face to face interaction, where you are able to use your face and body language to soften and add nuance. Remember small errors in what you text will be magnified, everything is on steroids. Just like in the pickup, text game is a constant balancing act. Let’s start with examples of the usual ordinary first texts most guys use. We want to avoid falling into these traps. “Hey Dorothy, how are you”? “Hi Martha, how is your day going?” These are low quality boring texts that offer no value to the girl and hide your sexual interest in her. You; “Do you remember me? It’s Dave from last night” This demonstrates low value and implies you’re used to girls not remembering you. You; “Hey babe, nice meeting you yesterday, want to meet tonight?’ You've put a lot of pressure on her straight away. Also, it's a non-specific date which can come across as scary to a girl. When to send the first text? You should send the first text within 24 hours of meeting a girl. The reason why you don't want to wait too long before sending the first text is to do with her emotions and maintaining momentum. The more time you allow to pass by, the more her memory and positive emotions associated with you will fade. Play it cool and she may lose interest. The shorter the interaction was, the less time you should wait before sending the first text. If she is staying in your city for a day or two, you don’t have any time to waste, send it within an hour, trying to Street Attraction 6 www.street-attraction.com set up a same day date that will hopefully lead to a same day lay. There is no time for multiple dates so you have to work much quicker. The following text is an actual first text sent by a guy we know after he number closed a girl on Oxford Street. “Hey Sara it was a pleasure to meet you on Oxford street this eve :) I would love to try those cool underground shisha places: I only know of a few :) It was great to know your passion for the arabic language I was pleasantly surprised :) I promise not to test your written skills, i will settle with you speaking nice things about me, not that I will know lol !!! Gosh I took so much of your time but it was really nice talking to you, I wouldn’t have minded staying longer as time passed so effortlessly :) Let me know which evening you are free and I will try and move my diary around to prioritise a catchup, but do let me know soon. P.S you have amazing dress sense seems that outfit attracts some attention but its all good perhaps a lucky outfit :)) PSS. cant believe that guy came by twice lol !!! have a good night :) This combines many of the errors highlighted above. It’s too long, too needy, shows a lot of availability and there is too much investment. It is mostly just kissing the girl’s ass, which is something to avoid falling into the trap of throughout your game. You won’t be surprised to know the girl didn’t respond in the end. 7 Texting Mastery How to correctly send a first text The Short and sweet basic first text: Hi Jessica, good running into you tonight :) Eddie - Leicester Sq. Hey Jessica, cool meeting you yesterday like that :) Eddie - Leicester Sq. It's a text you can send if you got her number in a rush or if there was no sexual escalation during the pickup. It is just an acknowledgement text, you’re not asking her any questions, it’s very non needy and doesn’t even really require a response. She will however respond if she likes you. This helps to screen her interest level so you can calibrate your future game accordingly. If she is interested she will usually respond within a few hours or less with something like “yes it was nice meeting you too…”. You can be quite certain that she is into you if she doesn't make you wait too long before replying. Also, if her message is longer than yours, this is another good indicator that she is keen. The Short and sweet basic first text should include: 1. Her name: Use the girl’s name (or even better, her nickname) in your first text. This feels personal and reassures her that you’re talking to her. 2. A goodwill statement letting her know that you’re glad to meet her - It establishes communication, creates rapport and is confirmation that you like her and remember her. Sometimes guys take girls’ phone numbers and never text or call at all. Girls can get stuck wondering if you really liked her. Giving her a short, single sentence goodwill statement will set her mind at ease. 3. A smiley face - conveys warmth and good feelings. 4. Your name - Sometimes girls forget your name, no matter how much they like you and how deeply you connect. It has been known that a girl will sleep with you perhaps on several occasions before confessing that she doesn’t remember your name, it's an extreme example but it does happen! Forgetting your name can be downright embarrassing for them – so much so sometimes that they will avoid replying. Signing your name at the end of that first text allows them to save face and gives them your name just in case they forgot it. Also it prevent the whole "who’s this?" text exchange. Think of this experience: you send your initial text to a girl, then she responds with “who is this?” It gives you a feeling of low self worth. 5. Location - mentioning where you met, again will help her remember you better. Street Attraction 8 www.street-attraction.com The fun/flirty first text If the pickup went well and there was a spark of sexual energy when you number closed her, you might want to send a text like the ones below: “Hey Kooky Norwegian girl with the braids, random but cool bumping into you :) Eddie - Leicester Sq.” “Is this the cute wacky Persian girl who owes me a thumb wrestle rematch? Eddie - Leicester Sq.” The Conversation continuation text If you shared a joke or built rapport over a certain topic, recall it in your first text, essentially picking up the conversation from where you last left it. “Hey Julia, just googled that thingy you mentioned, we need to discuss. Eddie - Leicester square” ''Hey Donna, after all that craziness last night had to ask if you made it to Heathrow? '' The tease followed by a question text The playful tone of the tease balances out what might otherwise be a boring question on its own. “Hey feisty Russian girl, how did your night eventually end? Eddie - Leicester Sq.” “Hey nutty painter girl, did you end up finding your muse? Eddie - National Gallery” 9 Texting Mastery CALL BACK HUMOUR TEXT With call back humour, make sure to add specific details that remind her of something silly or fun that occurred during the pickup. You essentially get her to call back the emotion associated with that specific memory. She will in turn associate that positive emotion with you. “Nice to meet you earlier… hope your ears have recovered after being exposed to all that audio sewage!” ''Eating my ice cream and chuckling to myself, remembering how you slipped down the stairs like that'' 3 Key things to remember when writing the first text: 1. Keep it short, don’t over invest. 2. Don’t give a long explanation how the two of you met. 3. Don’t invite her out straight away, if she’s really interested, invite her out in the second text. If she does respond (especially if she replies quickly) you should assume that she’s attracted to you, at least a little. You can start thinking about inviting her out on a date pretty soon. For the girls that don’t reply to your first text, wait a few days before sending them a ping text; more on how to deal with unresponsive and flakey girls later. Street Attraction 10 www.street-attraction.com