Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life: A Kick-Butt Approach to a Better Life

256 Pages·2004·1.11 MB·English

by  Larry Winget

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Shut Up,
Stop Whining,
and
Get a Life
A Kick-Butt Approach
to a Better Life
LARRY WINGET
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Shut Up,
Stop Whining,
and
Get a Life
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Shut Up,
Stop Whining,
and
Get a Life
A Kick-Butt Approach
to a Better Life
LARRY WINGET
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Copyright © 2004 by Larry Winget. All rights reserved.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publications Data:
Winget, Larry.
Shut up, stop whining, and get a life : a kick-butt approach to a better life / Larry Winget.
p. cm.
ISBN 0-471-65465-5 (cloth)
1. Life skills—Handbooks, manuals, etc. 2. Conduct of life. 3. Success. I. Title.
HQ2037.W57 2004
646.7—dc22
2004005529
Printed in the United States of America.
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I lovingly dedicate this book to all of the crap that ever
happened to me. It has made me what I am. It caused
me to read, to search, to pay attention, to learn, to
detach, to accept, to gain perspective, and to create the
life I have always wanted.
Without all of the crap that ever happened to me, I
would be like 99.9 percent of the world: leading a life of
mediocrity, full of blame, resentment, and whining.
I needed the crap to happen to me because without
it, there would be no book for you to read and you
would have no reason to listen to me.
So for every crappy thing that ever happened to me,
I give thanks!
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Contents
Preface ix
Acknowledgments xv
About the Author xvii
Before You Start xix
Chapter 1 Shut Up! 1
Chapter 2 Stop Whining! 9
Chapter 3 Get a Life! 18
Chapter 4 How to Live by Design, Not by Default 28
Chapter 5 Slaughtering the Sacred Self-Help Cows 42
Chapter 6 Your Beliefs Determine Your Outcome 61
Chapter 7 The Enjoyment Factor 66
Chapter 8 Fitness, Fatness, and More 77
Chapter 9 Everyone Screws Up 92
Chapter 10 Religion Versus Spirituality: Whose Side
Is God On? 98
Chapter 11 Get Smarter 107
Chapter 12 Stress: Who Needs It? 114
Chapter 13 Learn to Relax 117
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