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Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Get Out Of The Friend Zone And Into The F**k Zone in 30 days Or Less www.Seduction.com Copyright © 2009, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author. Disclaimer The Speed Seduction® Coaching Program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or Seduction.com (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used. Ross: Welcome to my special live video broadcast, “From Buddy to Bedmate: How to Get Out of the Friend Zone and Into the F**K Zone in 30 Days or Less,” using 10 totally stealthy, undetectable methods that don‟t rely on language patterns. I just want to set up a few expectations for this event. First of all, whether you‟re watching the live broadcast or the replay, please understand that these methods I‟m going to present don‟t require you to use language patterns. Bear in mind that I love language patterns. I have no problem with language patterns. They are still the central core of what I do. However, many of you have said to me over the years, “I‟d like to start using Speed Seduction® on some female friends, but I‟m afraid if I start changing my language, they‟re not going to like it, they‟re going to notice it, and it‟s going to seem weird or different.” I actually found that not to be the case. Since I do like to please my audience, I‟ve come up with this stuff. You are part of my laboratory. Some of what I‟m going to present to you will seem very counterintuitive, particularly Techniques 3 and 4. You will see that they do work. The other thing before we get into the actual 10 techniques is this. This depends on having a certain attitude. The attitude is basically, “Let‟s have some fun.” Try this stuff, and see what happens. If you come at this from a desperate attitude or an attitude or perspective that says, “I‟ve got to make it work. I‟ve got to get the girl,” then it‟s going to significantly degrade the power of these things. De-crushing yourself is perhaps a subject for another 1 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com broadcast. Nonetheless, it‟s really important that we approach this from the right frame of mind. Before we get to the slides, let me also say that from time to time, all of us have heard the terrible words, “Let‟s just be friends.” I know when I was in college, and then later after college, I had so many women and it‟s not that I only wanted to f**k them. I really liked these girls, but no matter what I did, I was stuck in the friend zone. Women do tend to slot us men into certain categories. They will make up their minds. I don‟t believe they make up their minds in minutes. At least within a few days, they‟re going to put you in a certain category. Once they put you into that category of the buddy, friend or big brother, it‟s f**king hard to get out. Believe me. I have been there. I don‟t even want to go into my personal horror stories. Here we go with the instructional video module, “From Buddy to Bedmate: Ten Easy Ways to Get Out of the Friend Zone and into the F**K Zone in 30 Days or Less.” Let‟s get to Technique 1. I call Technique 1 angles. It‟s very important when you‟re spending time with a woman who has up until this moment thought of you as a friend that you present yourself at a certain angle. The ideal angle, whether you‟re walking, sitting or standing, is to be side by side with that woman. You‟ll notice that couples who are really, deeply into each other don‟t sit across from each other. I tend to observe couples now, just as a professional thing and for fun. I was out and I noticed a couple sitting across from each other, and the table separating them was at least 6 feet long. There‟s no way 2 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com they could touch each other or lean into each other. I just saw it was a bad situation. They‟re clearly not into each other. It‟s really important as you get out of the friend zone that you begin to establish a different angle with that woman. Whether you‟re sitting, walking or standing, you want to be side by side as much as possible. Remember, with all of these techniques I‟m going to share with you, please don‟t call attention to it. Don‟t say, “Do you notice we‟re sitting side by side?” That ruins the whole thing. This is something they pick up on unconsciously. It‟s a sub-communication, not something you want to talk about. I hope that‟s evident and you guys understand that. If you cannot sit side by side, then at the very least, sit at a 45- degree angle so you‟re diagonal to her. All you have to do is turn your head and see her, and she can turn her head a little bit and see you. The principle here is that people tend to feel emotionally about others based on the way their bodies relate. This is a pretty simple idea. Of these 10 techniques, some of them you‟re going to do once in awhile, some you‟re going to do frequently, some you‟re going to do once, and some you‟re going to do all the time. Pretty much, you can start doing the angles thing all the time. If she calls attention to it and says, “What are you doing? Why are you sitting that way?” or whatever, just say, “I like to people watch. I‟ve just decided that I‟m going to do more people watching, and it‟s 3 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com more fun to people watch side by side than it is across from each other. We can see the people much more easily.” Angles are very important. You can add into this. If, for example, you want to add in a little people watching to justify the sitting in angles or side by side, you can do that, too. One of the games I‟ve been playing lately is to sit side by side with a woman in a crowd and to pick out people. The game I now play is “What‟s His Line.” I‟ll point out a guy say, “What‟s his line? What do you think his favorite chat-up line is? I know.” Then, I‟ll lift her hair and whisper in her ear, “If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?” I‟ll just share corny lines, and then I‟ll pick out a girl and say, “What‟s her excuse? What do you think her favorite excuse is for cancelling a date? I think it‟s, „I‟ve got to wash my hair.‟” Now you‟re sitting side by side and playing a little game, making fun of other people. If you can add in that little game to the angles when you‟re sitting side by side, it makes it even better. Technique 2 is the relaxed lean. There‟s been so much said in the seduction community about this concept of Kino. You want to get kinesthetic with girls. That‟s all good. I‟m all in favor of it. I like that. The thing is that there‟s a unique thing in beginning to test the waters with how she responds to being touched. Here it is. I say lean your body into hers when you‟re standing or sitting side by side. The key element here is to relax your body. There‟s something in the social contract that says it‟s okay to lean up against a stranger if you‟re in a crowded subway or some 4 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com crowded area where you can‟t avoid it, but you‟re not allowed to relax your body. If you‟re on a subway, train, bus or whatever it is, you‟re really crowded, and you can‟t avoid touching the other person, that‟s okay. The unwritten social contract says that you have to keep your body tense. The minute you relax your body and muscles against the other person, that means you‟re enjoying the contact. What I would instruct you to do is lean into the girl, but stay relaxed. Relax your body and lean into her for maybe a count of five, six or seven. See how she responds to that, and then take it away. This is one of the techniques you‟re not going to do all the time. You‟re just going to test it. If she leans back in a relaxed way into you, that‟s good. Stay there for about 20 seconds, and then pull it away. Again, don‟t call attention to it. If you call attention to any of these techniques and say, “Wow, isn‟t that cool? We‟re leaning into each other,” then you‟re going to be f**ked. Don‟t do that. Here‟s Technique 3. This technique and the next one are counterintuitive. They rely on creating a little bit of discomfort. I know that‟s not something I would normally teach or something you would normally think of, but you‟ll see it‟s important. We‟ve all had the situation with women we‟ve had crushes on and women we really want to impress where there‟s an uncomfortable silence. We are so eager to fill that gap. We‟re so eager to be witty, entertaining and invested in making sure this conversation really goes somewhere that we‟re the ones to break that silence. 5 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com What I would like you to do is, not deliberately create a silence, but when the invariable silence comes about as it will, rather than thinking of something to say, just sit there and be perfectly fine with nothing being said by you. Here are the reasons why this is powerful. Reason 1 is that it breaks the pattern, so she begins to see you in a different way. Reason 2 is that it may make her think you‟re actually a little bit bored with her. Reason 3 is that it may make her feel judged. All of these may cause her to reassess her take-it-or-leave-it attitude toward you. Even more importantly, I‟ll get to something else. The person who breaks the silence is really showing that they‟re the most eager to keep the conversation going. It‟s a way of getting her to invest in the interaction with you by moving away from her discomfort. It‟s very counterintuitive. I would only do this once or twice during the period of time when you‟re going to be working your plan to turn her into your bedmate. Technique 4 is uncomfortable eye contact. Again, we all have those moments, and this is part of the silence too, where the eye contact is held and one of you looks away. When you look away first, you sub-communicate subordination and submission. This is important, especially in the context of being in the friend zone. When we‟re in the friend zone, almost invariably, we‟re doing everything for that girl. We‟re so eager to please her. We‟re overgenerous, we buy too many gifts, and we give her too much validation or contact. 6 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com The thing is that with many women, particularly younger women, if you‟re very generous, kind, loving and giving and if they‟re not already hot for you, they will unconsciously interpret that as you being subordinate or submissive to them, and that will kill the attraction. If she‟s already hot and bothered for you, that‟s fine. If she‟s not hot and bothered for you, and you‟re being kind, loving and generous, which we‟ll get to because you want to cut back on that too, you‟ll communicate that you‟re subordinate. You need to be able to hold her eyes and let her be the one to break eye contact. The one who breaks eye contact is the one who‟s showing submission. This is really important. Again, use it sparingly, maybe once or twice. Here‟s a really good one. Technique 5 is having a neutral topic, but a sexual tone and vibe. I don‟t want you to directly sexualize the conversation yet. I don‟t want you to start bringing up sexual topics. Some of you have managed to do this. Some of you have used quotes and gotten a female friend into bed. That works. You can tell a dirty joke or quote what a friend said that a guy said to her. Remember, part of this is premised on the fact that we‟re not going to be using language patterns as we do this. The way that would work is that you would talk about a neutral topic, like the train station or the subway, but you put a little bit of sexual tone into it. You‟d say, “It‟ very interesting. I was looking at the train schedules the other day,” and then go back to a regular tone of voice. Put in a sexual tone and vibe with a neutral topic. 7 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com Technique 6 is dominant, leading touch. I‟ll tell you a story about this one. My nephew, Gideon said this. This was a few years back before he started dating his now ex-girlfriend, who is a smoking hot girl. They‟d been hanging out for a while, and he said, “Uncle, I know Tina likes me, but I just can‟t get out of the friend zone. What can I do? I don‟t want to do language patterns because she knows what you do for a living. I‟m afraid of getting caught. What do I do?” I said, “With a girl like Tina, you have to be a little bit more dominant and you have to do it subtly. Here‟s what you do. The next time you‟re out with her doing anything, just take her under the arm very lightly and just move her on the dance floor or somewhere, very subtly or slightly. That‟s what I want you to do.” He did that. The very next day, he got an email from her saying, “There‟s something subtly more commanding about you. I like it.” The next night, they were f**king. Use a slight, dominant, leading touch. When I get back on the air and show the video, I‟m going to show you what that looks like. Technique 7 is a really clever technique. It takes some time to explain, so bear with me. I call this the double-blind random ignore. Remember, one of the things here is the pattern interrupt. We want to interrupt the pattern of expectations that you set with this girl. You want to do it truly randomly so even you yourself don‟t know when it‟s going to occur. Here‟s how this is going to work. You‟re going to get a pair of dice. Every time she calls or texts you, up until the time you f**k, instead 8 Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction® From Buddy to Bedmate Transcript Copyright  2010, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com