Mapping Intimacies: Relations, Exchanges, Affects

269 Pages·2013·1.59 MB·English

by  Tam Sanger

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PalgraveMacmillanStudiesinFamilyandIntimateLife
Titlesinclude:
GrahamAllan,GrahamCrowandSheilaHawker
STEPFAMILIES
HarrietBecher
FAMILYPRACTICESINSOUTHASIANMUSLIMFAMILIES
ParentinginaMulti-FaithBritain
ElisaRoseBirch,AnhT.LeandPaulW.Miller
HOUSEHOLDDIVISIONSOFLABOUR
Teamwork,GenderandTime
AnnBuchananandAnnaRotkirch
FERTILITYRATESANDPOPULATIONDECLINE
NoTimeforChildren?
DeborahChambers
SOCIALMEDIAANDPERSONALRELATIONSHIPS
OnlineIntimaciesandNetworkedFriendship
RobbieDuschinskyandLeonAntonioRocha(editors)
FOUCAULT,THEFAMILYANDPOLITICS
JacquiGabb
RESEARCHINGINTIMACYINFAMILIES
StephenHicks
LESBIAN,GAYANDQUEERPARENTING
Families,Intimacies,Genealogies
ClareHoldsworth
FAMILYANDINTIMATEMOBILITIES
RachelHurdley
HOME,MATERIALITY,MEMORYANDBELONGING
KeepingCulture
PeterJackson(editor)
CHANGINGFAMILIES,CHANGINGFOOD
RiittaJallinojaandEricWidmer(editors)
FAMILIESANDKINSHIPINCONTEMPORARYEUROPE
RulesandPracticesofRelatedness
LynnJamieson,RuthLewisandRoonaSimpson(editors)
RESEARCHINGFAMILIESANDRELATIONSHIPS
ReflectionsonProcess
DavidMorgan
RETHINKINGFAMILYPRACTICES
EriikkaOinonen
FAMILIESINCONVERGINGEUROPE
AComparisonofForms,StructuresandIdeals
RóisínRyan-Flood
LESBIANMOTHERHOOD
Gender,FamiliesandSexualCitizenship
SallySales
ADOPTION,FAMILYANDTHEPARADOXOFORIGINS
AFoucauldianHistory
TamSanger
TRANSPEOPLE’SPARTNERSHIPS
TowardsanEthicsofIntimacy
TamSangerandYvetteTaylor(editors)
MAPPINGINTIMACIES
Relations,Exchanges,Affects
ElizabethB.Silva
TECHNOLOGY,CULTURE,FAMILY
InfluencesonHomeLife
LisaSmyth
THEDEMANDSOFMOTHERHOOD
Agents,RolesandRecognitions
YvetteTaylor
EDUCATIONALDIVERSITY
TheSubjectofDifferenceandDifferentSubjects
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AlsobyTamSanger:
Hines,D.andSanger,T.(2010)TransgenderIdentities:TowardsaSocialAnalysisofGenderDiversity
NewYorkandLondon:Routledge.
Sanger, T. (2010) Trans People’s Partnerships: Towards an Ethics of Intimacy Basingstoke: Palgrave
Macmillan.
AlsobyYvetteTaylor:
Taylor,Y.(2007)Working-classLesbianLife:ClassedOutsidersPalgraveMacmillan.
Taylor, Y. (2009) Lesbian and Gay Parenting: Securing Social and Educational Capital Palgrave
Macmillan.
Taylor,Y.(2012)FittingintoPlace?ClassandGenderGeographiesandTemporalitiesAshgate
Taylor,Y.(ed.2010)ClassedIntersections:Spaces,Selves,KnowledgesAshgate.
Taylor,Y.,Hines,S.andCasey,M.(eds.)(2010)TheorizingIntersectionalityandSexualityPalgrave
Macmillan.
Hines,S.andTaylor,Y(eds.)(2012)Sexualities:ReflectionsandFuturesPalgraveMacmillan
Taylor,Y.(ed)(2012)EducationalDiversity:TheSubjectofDifferenceandDifferentSubjectsPalgrave
Macmillan
Taylor,Y.andAddison,M.(eds.)(2013)QueerPresencesandAbsencesPalgraveMacmillan
Taylor,Y.(ed)(2014)TheEntrepreneurialUniversity.PublicEngagements,IntersectingImpactsPalgrave
Macmillan
Mapping Intimacies
Relations, Exchanges, Affects
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Contents
SeriesEditors’Preface vii
Acknowledgements ix
NotesonContributors x
Introduction 1
TamSangerandYvetteTaylor
Part I EmbodiedExchanges:Choice,Risk,Value
1 TheTiesThatBind:Intimacy,Class,Sexuality 15
YvetteTaylor
2 TransnationalIntimacies:ExamplesfromCambodia 35
HeidiHoefinger
3 LesbianLoveandtheTroublesomeSpermDonor:Intimacy,
NormalityandMoralityinNewStoriesaboutConception 54
PetraNordqvist
4 DiscoursesofFemale-to-FemaleSTITransmission:OftheDent
inIdentityandMomentsofFixing 73
AnneRudolph
Part II (Dis)orderingRelations:Violence,Violation,
Volition
5 OnPuttingDownandDestroying:AffectiveEconomiesofa
Women-OnlyClubinIstanbul 95
EvrenSavcı
6 QueeringCareinLaterLife:TheLivedExperiencesand
IntimaciesofOlderLesbian,GayandBisexualAdults 112
AndrewKingandAnnCronin
7 ‘SheExpectedHerWomentobePretty,Subservient,Dinneron
theTableatSix’:ProblematisingtheNarrativeof
EgalitarianisminLesbianRelationshipsthroughAccountsof
Woman-to-WomanPartnerAbuse 130
RebeccaBarnes
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8 BlueRinseBlues?OlderLesbians’ExperiencesofDomestic
Violence 150
MeganTodd
Part III Intimacies:AffectiveProximitiesandDistances
9 TransPeople’sPartnerships:RethinkingtheLimitsofRelating 171
TamSanger
10 PolyamorousIntimacies:FromOneLovetoManyLovesand
BackAgain 190
MegBarker,JamieHeckertandEleanorWilkinson
11 IntimacyinTimesof(De)normalisation:Same-SexRelational
RecognitioninPortugal 209
AnaCristinaSantos
12 ‘Non-Normative’FamilyLives?MappingMigrantYouth’s
FamilyandIntimateRelationshipsacrossNationalDividesand
SpatialDistance 228
TraceyReynoldsandElisabettaZontini
Index 248
Series Editors’ Preface
The remit of the Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life
seriesistopublishmajortexts,monographsandeditedcollectionsfocusing
broadly on the sociological exploration of intimate relationships and fam-
ily organisation. As editors, we think such a series is timely. Expectations,
commitmentsandpracticeshavechangedsignificantlyinintimaterelation-
ship and family life in recent decades. This is very apparent in patterns
of family formation and dissolution, demonstrated by trends in cohabita-
tion, marriage and divorce. Changes in household living patterns over the
last 20 years have also been marked, with more people living alone, adult
children living longer in the parental home, and more ‘non-family’ house-
holds being formed. Furthermore, there have been important shifts in the
wayspeopleconstructintimaterelationships.Therearefewcomfortablecer-
tainties about the best ways of being a family man or woman, with once
conventionalgenderrolesnolongerbeingwidelyaccepted.Thenormative
connectionbetweensexualrelationshipsandmarriageormarriage-likerela-
tionships is also less powerful than it once was. Not only is greater sexual
experimentation accepted, but it is now accepted at an earlier age. More-
over,heterosexualityisnolongertheonlymodeofsexualrelationshipgiven
legitimacy. In Britain as elsewhere, gay male and lesbian partnerships are
nowsociallyandlegallyendorsedtoadegreehardlyimaginableinthemid-
twentieth century. Increases in lone-parent families, the rapid growth of
different types of step-family, the de-stigmatisation of births outside mar-
riage,andtheriseincouples‘living-apart-together’(LATs)allprovidefurther
examples of the ways that ‘being a couple’, ‘being a parent’ and ‘being a
family’havediversifiedinrecentyears.
Thefactthatchangesinfamilylifeandintimaterelationshipshavebeen
sopervasivehasresultedinrenewedresearchinterestfromsociologistsand
otherscholars.Increasingamountsofpublicfundinghavebeendirectedto
familyresearchinrecentyears,intermsofbothindividualprojectsandthe
creation of family research centres of different hues. This research activ-
ity has been accompanied by the publication of some very important and
influential books exploring different aspects of shifting family experience,
in Britain and elsewhere. The Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Inti-
mate Life series hopes to add to this list of influential research-based texts,
therebycontributingtoexistingknowledgeandinformingcurrentdebates.
Ourmainaudienceconsistsofacademicsandadvancedstudents,thoughwe
intendthatthebooksintheserieswillbeaccessibletoamoregeneralread-
ershipwhowishtounderstandbetterthechangingnatureofcontemporary
familylifeandpersonalrelationships.
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viii SeriesEditors’Preface
We see the remit of the series as wide. The concept of ‘family and
intimate life’ is interpreted in a broad fashion. While the focus of the
series is clearly sociological, we take family and intimacy as being inclu-
sive rather than exclusive. The series covers a range of topics concerned
with family practices and experiences, including, for example, partnership;
marriage;parenting;domesticarrangements;kinship;demographicchange;
intergenerational ties; life course transitions; step-families; gay and lesbian
relationships; lone-parent households and also non-familial intimate rela-
tionshipssuchasfriendships.Wealsowishtofostercomparativeresearch,as
wellasresearchonunder-studiedpopulations.Theseriesincludesdifferent
forms of book. Most are theoretical or empirical monographs on particu-
larsubstantivetopics,thoughsomemayalsohaveastrongmethodological
focus.Inaddition,weseeeditedcollectionsasalsofallingwithintheseries’
remit, as well as translations of significant publications in other languages.
Finally, we intend that the series has an international appeal, in terms of
both topics covered and authorship. Our goal is for the series to provide a
forum for family sociologists conducting research in various societies, and
notsolelyinBritain.
GrahamAllan,LynnJamiesonandDavidMorgan
Acknowledgements
Tam:ThankyoutoYvetteTaylorforherenthusiasmandhardwork,seeing
this book through to fruition. Thank you also to all the authors who have
worked hard to meet deadlines and shared their fascinating research with
usinsuchengagingandenjoyableways.Alsotoeveryonewehaveworked
withatPalgravewhohavehelpedmakethisassmoothajourneyaspossible.
Immense thanks to the ‘Enduring Love?’ team for making me feel so wel-
comeandre-inspiringme,andtoeveryonewhohasbeensoopenwithme
abouttheirrelationships.Asalways,Iappreciatethesupportandpatienceof
mypartnerDonnaWorbywhohasbeenbymysidethroughmanystresses
anddeadlinesovertheyears.
Yvette:ThankstoTamSangerforsustainedefforts,enthusiasm–andforall
careful checks! Phew! Thanks to the British Sociological Association (BSA)
FamiliesandRelationshipsstudygroupwhichI’vehadthehappyopportu-
nitytoco-convenewithValGillies,alsobasedattheWeeksCentreforSocial
and Policy Research, London South Bank University. I have found many
newandvaluedrelationshipsandinspiringcolleaguesattheWeeksCentre,
including Jeffrey Weeks, Janet Holland, Tracey Reynolds, Elaine Bauer,
ChamionCaballero,YvonneRobinson,NicolaHorseley,EmilyFalconerand
Francesca Stella (and many others including our valued visiting scholars).
My PhD students Jaya Gajparia, Ellis Ciruelle and Jill Wilkens continue to
fill me with optimism, as do now (almost post) PhDs Victoria Mountford
andMichelleAddison–allnamestowatchoutfor!And,ofcourse,echoing
sincerethankstoallauthors.
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