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Know all About Manners & Etiquettes Know aU About Manners & Etiquettes A Comprehensive Guide on the Subject Ram Partap Verma ABHISHEK PUBLICATIONS CHANDIGARH-17 All rights reserved.No part of this book may be reproduced, trans lated or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or me chanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher/copyright owner. © Publisher First Edition: 2009 Published by Abhishek Publications SCO 57-59, Sector 17-C, CHANDIGARH-17 Ph.: 0172-707562, Fax: 2707562 e-mail: [email protected] www.abhishekpub1ications.com Printed at: Shiva Offset Press, Naveen Shahadra,Delhi Contents Preface vii l. Introduction 1 2. Work Etiquette 22 3. Interview Etiquette 35 4. Table Manners 49 5. Drinking 80 6. Conversation 96 7. Advice for Modem Women 140 8. Advice for Modem Men 153 9. Salutations of Courtesy 167 10. Modem Dating 190 II. The Hip Funeral 193 12. Men's and Women's Clothes 218 13. Sports Manners 246 14. Travel Etiquette 254 Preface Etiquette is a code of behavior that influences expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventionall1orms within a society, social class, or group. Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten, but aspects of etiquette have been codified from time to time. Rules of etiquette encompass most aspects of social interaction in any society, though the term itself is not commonly used. A rule of etiquette may reflect an underlying ethical code, or it may reflect a person's fashion or status. Manners involve a wide range of social interactions within cultural norms as in the "comedy of manners", or a painter's characteristic "manner". Etiquette' and manners, like mythology, have buried histories especially when they seem to have little obvious purpose, and their justifications as logical ("respect shown to others" etc.) may be equally revealing to the social historian. ,Manners constitute the language in which the biography of every individual is written. There is no one subject of today which embodies more practical interest to people in general, than a knowledge of the rules, usages and ceremonies of good society. A lack of this knowledge is felt by almost every individual, whether in the city or country, at horne or abroad. The politeness is not a code of superficial rules, arranged and trimmed up for particular occasions, and then set aside at our pleasure. Like "culture", it is a word that has gradually grown plural, especially in a multi-ethnic society with many clashing expectations. Thus, it is now possible to refer to "an etiquette" or "a culture", realizing that these may not viii be universal. In Britain, though, the word etiquette has its roots in the eighteenth century, becoming a universal force in the nineteenth century to the extent that it has been described as the one word that aptly describes life during the reign of Queen Victoria. Wearing pajamas to a wedding in a cathedral may indeed be an expression of the guest's freedom, but also may cause the bride and groom to suspect that the guest in pajamas is expressing amusement, disparagement, or disrespect towards them and their wedding. Etiquette may be enforced in pragmatic ways: "No shoes, no shirt, no service" is a notice commonly displayed outside stores and cafes in the warmer parts of North America. Others feel that a single, basic code shared by all makes life simpler and more pleasant by removing many chances for misunderstandings and by creating opportunities for courtesy and mutual respect. The very perfection of elegance is to imitate nature; how much better to have the reality than the imitation. Anxiety about the opinions of others always fetters our freedom and tends to awkwardness. We would always appear well if we never tried to assume what we do not possess. The grand secret of never-failing propriety of good manners and culture is to have an intention of always doing right. There are persons who seem to possess the instinct of courtesy to so high a degree as to require no instruction or practice in order to be perfectly polite, easy and graceful. Author About the Book Etiquette is a code of behavior that influences expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group. Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten, but aspects of etiquette have been codified from time to time. Rules of etiquette encompass most aspects of social interaction in any society, though the term itself is not commonly used. A rule of etiquette may reflect an underlying ethical code, or it may reflect a person's fashion or status. Manners involve a wide range of social interactions within cultural norms as in the "comedy of manners", or a painter's characteristic "manner". Etiquette and manners, like mythology, have buried histories especially when they seem to have little obvious purpose, and their justifications as logical ("respect shown to others" etc.) may be equally revealing to the social historian. Manners constitute the language in which the biography of every individual is written. There is no one subject of today which embodies more practical interest to people in general, than a knowledge of the rules, usages and ceremonies of good society. A lack of this knowledge is felt by almost every individual, whether in the city or country, at home or abroad. The politeness is not a code of superficial rules, arranged and trimmed up for particular occasions, and then set aside at our pleasure. Like" culture", it is a word that has gradually grown plural, especially in a multi-ethnic society with many clashing expectations. Thus, it is now possible to refer to "an etiquette" or "a culture", realizing that these may not
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