Improve Your Social Skills: Secrets of the World’s Social Butterflies to Help Make Friends, Overcome Social Anxiety, and Start Conversations With Anyone … Even if you're an Introvert

132 Pages·2019·4.27 MB·English

by  Desmond Smith

Improve Your Social Skills
Secrets of the World’s Social Butterflies to Help Make Friends, Overcome
Social Anxiety, and Start Conversations With Anyone … Even if you're an
Introvert
By Desmond Smith
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Introduction
Chapter 1: Understanding Social Skills
Benefits of a Developed Social Skill
Better Relationships With More People
Better Communications
Greater Efficiency
Advancing Career Prospects
Increased Overall Happiness
The Reason Behind the Need to Socialize
Chapter 2: Why do you Want to Become a Social Butterfly?
Be Who You Are
Be Interesting
Be Aware of the Other Person
Chapter 3: Why Socializing is Important
The Reason Behind the Need to Socialize
Why Social Skills are Important
Social Skills are Critical
Social Skills Are the Foundation of Healthy Relationships
Social Skills Allow You to Initiate Contacts
Social Skills Allow You to Understand Others Effectively
Social Skills Strengthen Your Credibility
Chapter 4: Setting Your Social Goal
Determining and Comprehending Your Goals
Designing Fixed Practice Goals
Make Goals That Are Achievable in About Two to Six Months
Set an Exciting but Realistic Goals
Don’t Focus on Many Goals at Once
Make Concrete and Measurable Goals
Chapter 5: Social Anxiety
Two Types of Fear
Chapter 6: Physical Fear Vs. Emotional Fear and Shyness
Difference Between Social Anxiety and Shyness
Chapter 7: Why Manipulation is Wrong?
Manipulation is Everywhere
Difference Between Coercion and Persuasion
Managing Through Manipulation
Positive Manipulation for a Positive Change
Chapter 8: Manners Maketh the Man and Woman
Why is Good Manners Important?
Good Manner Help Your Gain Respect from Others
Good Manners Add Charm to Your Personality
Good Manners Make Relationships Smoother
Good Manners Help Increase Your Confidence
Good Manners Keep You Motivated and Happy
Good Manners Impart Strength to Take Failure
Chapter 9: Getting Comfortable, Feeling Uncomfortable
Responses to Comfort and Discomfort
Practicing Comfort and Discomfort Signals
Comfort Signals Field Guide
Leaning or Moving Closer to Face You
Head Resting on a Hand/Tilted Head
Physical Touch
I'm-Digging-This Grin or Smile
One Leg Tucked Underneath While on a Couch
Discomfort Signals Field Guide
Chapter 10: Empathy and Mentorship
Understanding Your Emotions
Thinking Below the Surface
Understanding Others
Non-verbal Empathy
High and Low Energy Actions
Empathy and Energy
Energy Matches Actions
The Importance of Having a Good Mentor
Chapter 11: Ordinary People
Functional Interactions
Person-to-Person Connection
Some People are not Comfortable Connecting
Avoid Distracting People
Not All Connections Turn to Friendship
Chapter 12: Starting Off Slow
Social Level
Mental Level
Emotional Level
Spiritual Level
Chapter 13: One Mouth and Two Ears
Why Do We Need to Listen?
The Art of Active Listening
Give Your Full Attention
Respond to Interact
Listen With Your Heart
Never Interrupt
Don't Try to be All-Knowing
Find the Right Time to Listen
Be Respectful
Avoid Selective Listening
Think About the Message Beyond Those Words
Chapter 14: Giving Compliments
Steps to Giving Great Compliments
Chapter 15: Acquaintances to Friends
Finding and Meeting People
Finding Friends Through Groups
Finding Friends Through Everyday Connections
Finding Friends Through Person-to-Person Connections
Chapter 16: Body Language
Chapter 17: Tone of Voice
The Significance of the Tone of Voice and Why You Should Develop It
It Distinguishes You
It Helps You Gain and Build Trust
You Can Utilize It to Influence and Persuade
It Helps You Create Good First Impressions
How Can You Improve Your Tone of Voice?
First Type: Command and Questioning Tonality
Second Type: Friendly Tone
Third Type: Tone for Compliments
Fourth Type: Tone for Urgency
Fifth Type: Tonality for Business (Particularly for Women)
Chapter 18: Keeping With the Conversation
Invitation and Inspiration
Invitation and Inspiration
Inspiration in Good Conversation
The Core of the Good Conversation
Harmonizing Invitation and Inspiration
Chapter 19: 100 Questions
Invitation: The Art of Good Questioning
Good Questions
Asking Good Questions
Chapter 20: The Group Game Begins
Joining Group Conversation
Open and Closed Groups
Chapter 21: How to Successfully End a Conversation
Tell the Other Person Directly
Give Reasons
Use Non-verbal Language
Chapter 22: Dating
Defining Healthy Relationships
Sense of Acceptance and Freedom
Live Outside the Relationship
Shared Act of Selflessness
Starting a Romantic Relationship
Meeting Potential Romantic Partners
Real Attraction
Chapter 23: Boundaries
How to Establish Healthy Personal Boundaries
Know Your Rights
Identify Unacceptable Actions and Behaviors
Trust Yourself
Chapter 24: Asperger’s and Autism
Rote Memorization Issues
Learning by Understanding the Reasons Behind a Situation
Practical Applications
Chapter 25: Dealing With Children
Chapter 26: Dealing With Conflicts
Different Ways People Respond to Conflict
Emotions, Stress, and Conflict Resolution
Quick Stress Relief
Emotional Awareness
Chapter 27: Social Media
Effectively Responding to Negative Comments on Social Media
Replying to Criticism
Chapter 28: Random Encounters With Strangers
Give Out a Genuine Smile
Be Comfortable
Have an Open Body Language
Remember that Interaction is a Two-Way Communication
Be Yourself
Chapter 29: Using Habits to Change Your Mindset
Chapter 30: Why Journaling is so Important?
Free Journaling
Daily Recounting
Creative Writing
Chapter 31: Improving Your Self-Esteem and Worth
Get Away From Negative Thinking
Chapter 32: How to Overcome Negative Thoughts
Early to Bed and Early to Rise
Recognize and Step Back From Negative Thoughts
Control Your Inner Critic
Chapter 33: The Importance of CBT
Conclusion
Wrapping It Up
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