How to Seal the Deal - A Tactical Guide to Getting Laid on the First Date

59 Pages·5.599 MB·English

by  Stirling Cooper

TABLE OF
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
BASIC PRINCIPLES & CONCEPTS
(1) PRE-DATE
(2) ON THE DATE
(3) BACK AT YOUR PLACE
CONCLUSION
INTRODUCTION
I get a lot of emails, tweets, Youtube comments and DMs
from guys asking me how to “seal the deal”, how to “close” on
a date, or the correct way to “escalate to the bedroom” once
they bring a girl home from a date.
So this book is exactly what that’s all about.
A step by step guide to all the different techniques and
principles I’ve learned over my years of philandering that have
allowed me to smoothly and successfully take a girl home
and escalate things into a romantic bedroom encounter.
By reading this you’re going to realize some of the most
common mistakes you’re making which are basically shooting
you in the foot and unnecessarily making things harder for
yourself.
There is a ton of really useful practical tactical advice that
got passed around for years on the old PUA forums that has
somehow been lost to the sands of time because younger
guys aren’t being taught this stuff, instead they’re being
taught higher level inner game concepts and redpill concepts.
Which are absolutely necessary, but if guys want to learn how
to get laid consistently (especially newbies) they need to have
these tools I’m about to explain in their toolkit as well.
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Eventually with enough practice this stuff will all become
automatic and unconscious, it’ll be “natural” behavior for you.
Which is the ultimate goal, it should be something YOU ARE
not something YOU DO.
What we’re doing here is progressing you along the
competency ladder;
Unconscious Incompetence – You’re shit at something and
you don’t even know it
Conscious Incompetence – You’re shit at something and you
know it
Conscious Competence – You’re good at something and you
can explain why
Unconscious Competence – You’re good at something and
you can’t explain why (this is where naturals hang out)
This is all based on the assumption that you can;
1. Get girls out on dates
2. Keep a fun charming conversation going with a woman
when you’re on a date
SO if you cannot do those two things consistently then you
are going to have to sort that out, I don’t teach that stuff, I’m
not a dating coach and I’ve never claimed to be. What I am is
someone who has quite a lot of experience in getting women
into bed.
So once that’s sorted, you can start implementing the
knowledge in this book to massively boost your close rate in a
way that will seem almost effortless and natural – as it should
be.
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HOW TO USE
THIS BOOK
You should read through this whole book in its entirety,
starting with the next section on Basic Principles & Concepts.
These principles and concepts will be the framework for
everything else in this book, they are what make all the
techniques, tactics and tips that follow work in the first place.
I’ve also broken down all the techniques into 3 sections;
(1) Pre-date,
(2) On the date and
(3) Back at your place.
This way if you are impatient you can implement these
techniques in the area that you are most struggling with by
simply skipping to whatever section applies to you.
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BASIC PRINCIPLES &
CONCEPTS
Just understanding these basic concepts below will put
you miles ahead of most guys when it comes to getting laid
more consistently, internalize these ideas so they become
unconscious and you understand them at an intuitive level
rather than having to remember them. This will set you on
the right path to being a consistent ‘closer’ and you’ll be able
to correct things in real time as they come up on dates.
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LAST MINUTE RESISTANCE (LMR)
Have you ever taken a girl home and the two of you are on
your bed making out, you make your move and try to grab her
breast or slide your hand down her pants and she stops you,
pulls your hand away and says something like “we shouldn’t
be doing this” or “I’m not that kind of girl” or “we just met this
is crazy”.
Congratulations, you’ve just encountered Last Minute
Resistance (LMR). This is her Anti-Slut defense. You have to
understand that women do not want to be considered a slut
by others and she also doesn’t want to consider herself a slut.
Paradoxically women want to get all the fun exciting
pleasurable feelings of acting like a slut without feeling the
guilt and shame of being a slut.
• “Welcome to the wonderful world of the
female brain, we hope you enjoy your
stay here.“
This is an evolved evolutionary response. Travel back in time
to caveman days for a minute, a place where there is no child
support, there are no hospitals or midwives, there are large
predators roaming around waiting to eat her and her future
child. This is a dangerous environment for a woman when she
is pregnant and when she is raising a baby. If a woman got
pregnant and there was no man around to protect her she
could very easily die to predators, be attacked by a rival tribe
or starve to death. So women have evolved an evolutionary
response to try and secure the protection/security and
resources of men before allowing them to get her pregnant.
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If the man isn’t going to stick around then she could die and
this is where the anti-slut defense comes from. Our brains
evolved during this time and on an evolutionary time scale
it’s only been a blink of an eye since our caveman days, so
this hardwiring is still in place, despite the fact that our
environment has changed significantly.
It’s your job to either mitigate or by-pass things that will
trigger her LMR.
Now the other way of completely by-passing this and never
having it come up is by being a super high value man (i.e.
a celebrity, a Hollywood actor, a rapper, an NBA player
etc), because she cannot pass up the opportunity to get
impregnated by this man’s seed so she throws all her rules
out the window that she would otherwise reserve for men
of lesser value. She knows that if she refuses him sex she
will never get another chance with him because he will be
too busy fucking other women. This is all subconscious by
the way, very few women actually think this stuff logically. It
comes up as a ‘feeling’ in their gut which they then act on and
backwards rationalize after the fact with some silly reasoning
(we call this her rationalization hamster – imagine a hamster
running furiously on a wheel and that’s what a woman’s brain
is like when it’s coming up with rationalizations for her past
actions). Basically they will rationalize anything after the fact.
Unfortunately, most of you reading this book will not be super
high value men of fame and fortune, not yet anyway. Luckily
though, you have this book to help you.
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PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY
In order to lead the interaction where you want it to go (i.e.
from your phone to a date, then from a date to your place,
then from your place to the bedroom) you have to give her
an excuse she can use in retrospect to backwards rationalize
why it happened.
This is called Plausible Deniability.
It cannot be her fault that things escalated, she needs to
feel like she is innocent and had no part in it at all, it all just
“magically happened”. So when her girlfriends eventually ask
her “How did you end up sleeping with him?” she will have a
response like “Oh I went to his house to see his cute dog and
one thing led to another, it just happened”.
These are three magical words women use to rationalize
their sexual encounters “it just happened”, she got magically
swept off her feet in the emotional whirlwind of the moment
and somehow landed on a penis.
You can’t ask her to be a slut.
You can’t ask her to sign a sexual contract.
Signing a sexual contract is when you straight up ask her
something like “so want to come back to my place?”, it’s too
blunt, it’s too obvious. You’re basically asking her if she’s a slut,
you’re asking her to overtly say she wants to fuck you, which
takes all the mystery and sexual tension out of the interaction
for her and that’s the part of seduction that women really
love, they love the EXPERIENCE of being seduced, men on
the other hand want to get straight down to the end result of
seduction = sex.
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You’re also asking her to sign a contract she might want to
back out of later - “well you said you’d fuck me so why aren’t
you fucking me?”. Remember that women don’t want to make
men mad either because they understand subconsciously
that men are stronger than them and represent potential
danger as much as they represent potential security. So it’s in
her best interest not to piss you off directly like that.
She also does not want to tell her friends “he asked me if I
wanted to fuck him so I said yes”. This makes her look like a
slut to her friends. Yes I know women are very promiscuous
these days and they are more and more open about their
sluttiness, but despite all that she still doesn’t want to openly
agree to a “sexual contract”.
She reserves the right to change her mind at any moment.
She needs an out.
We will go into this in much more practical detail where it will
really come into play during the
(1) Pre-Date and
(2) On The Date sections.
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