how to lay girls guide

287 Pages·2001·1.33 MB·English

by  Dominique Thomas

HOW TO LAY GIRLS GUIDE
HTTP://WWW.PICKUPGUIDE.COM/LAYGUIDE
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Contents
GENERAL RULES ...............................................11
3s Rule .................................................................................................................... 11
Be the Alpha/Dominant male ................................................................................. 12
Do my looks matter? .............................................................................................. 13
The Iranian from Hell ............................................................................................. 13
Nice guys vs jerks ................................................................................................... 14
Good traits to have/develop to be a successful player ........................................... 15
It all comes down to satisfaction ............................................................................ 16
Women want good sex and romance ...................................................................... 16
Should you express or contain your sexual desires? .............................................. 16
Wanna play the dating game? Um� let’s see� .................................................... 17
The rules with your wingman................................................................................. 18
GETTING STARTED ............................................ 19
On confidence and getting started with approaching girls .................................... 19
Experiment! ............................................................................................................ 20
Casual meetings vs pick-ups .................................................................................. 20
At a party ................................................................................................................ 21
Just say "Hi" ........................................................................................................... 21
Talk to girls everywhere ......................................................................................... 22
How to initiate a conversation................................................................................ 22
Talking to her = echoing her .................................................................................. 23
Fluff talk ................................................................................................................. 23
The don’ts of fluff talk ............................................................................................ 26
Reading body language .......................................................................................... 26
Mirroring ................................................................................................................ 30
Kinaesthetics (aka kino) - have kino with your female friends/acquaintances ..... 32
APPROACHING AND MAKING THEM INTERESTED. 35
Where to meet girls ................................................................................................ 35
If she seems unapproachable .................................................................................. 38
General guidelines on approaching ........................................................................ 39
Demonstrate value and personality ........................................................................ 41
The importance of a first impression...................................................................... 42
Pace and lead .......................................................................................................... 42
APPROACHES .................................................... 44
Simple approaches .................................................................................................. 44
The cold approach .................................................................................................. 47
The collision approach ........................................................................................... 47
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The available chair approach ................................................................................. 48
The crappy sketch-artist approach ......................................................................... 48
The dramatic approach ........................................................................................... 49
The cellular approach ............................................................................................. 51
The familiar approach ............................................................................................ 51
Pez opener .............................................................................................................. 52
You look stunning approach ................................................................................... 52
Pacing the ongoing reality ...................................................................................... 54
Buying her a drink .................................................................................................. 55
Should I ask for her name? ..................................................................................... 56
Leech off someone else’s crash and burn ............................................................... 57
If she’s working ...................................................................................................... 57
If you just have to use a pick-up line ..................................................................... 58
"I like�" game as an opener .................................................................................. 61
Mr Smooth technique ............................................................................................. 63
The questions game ................................................................................................ 66
GIMMICKS ........................................................ 67
Use a gimmick to get going.................................................................................... 67
Palm-reading - why should you use it? .................................................................. 67
The three major lines in the hand ........................................................................... 68
Reading the line of Fate ......................................................................................... 70
Reading her love-life .............................................................................................. 71
Reading the line of Heart ....................................................................................... 72
Reading the mount of Venus .................................................................................. 74
A sample reading routine ....................................................................................... 75
NIGHT-CLUBS AND DANCING .............................. 77
Night-clubs vs other places to meet girls ............................................................... 77
How to switch to the right mindset ........................................................................ 78
Asking for a dance.................................................................................................. 78
About dancing ........................................................................................................ 79
Slow dancing .......................................................................................................... 80
Fast dance to slow dance ........................................................................................ 81
After the dance ....................................................................................................... 83
GROUP TACTICS ............................................... 84
If she is with a friend / a group of friends .............................................................. 84
Approaching a group of many girls ....................................................................... 86
How to have her leave the group............................................................................ 86
NEGHITS........................................................... 88
Neghits explained ................................................................................................... 88
Neghits expansion pack.......................................................................................... 90
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ELICITING VALUES............................................ 92
Eliciting values explained ...................................................................................... 92
Trance words explained.......................................................................................... 95
Calibrate the girl ..................................................................................................... 95
Eliciting values - introducing the questions ........................................................... 97
Eliciting values - the answers ................................................................................. 99
The perfect relationship ........................................................................................ 100
GM STYLE ..................................................... 102
GM style explained .............................................................................................. 102
GM style lines....................................................................................................... 103
SEXUAL TALK.................................................. 105
Talking about sex.................................................................................................. 105
Use sexual stories to get her horny ...................................................................... 106
The Ideal Guy routine........................................................................................... 107
PATTERNING ................................................... 108
Patterning explained ............................................................................................. 108
Delivering patterns - general rules ....................................................................... 109
Delivering patterns - tonality ............................................................................... 112
ADDITIONAL PATTERNING SKILLS .....................115
Trance words explained........................................................................................ 115
Anchoring explained ............................................................................................ 116
Quoting and stacking realities .............................................................................. 117
Time distortion ..................................................................................................... 119
Bullshit fantasies .................................................................................................. 120
Thought Binding .................................................................................................. 120
Submodalities ....................................................................................................... 122
Read romance novels to enrich your patterning language ................................... 125
Common misconceptions and problems with patterning ..................................... 125
THE PATTERNS ............................................... 132
How to approach and introduce patterns into a discussion.................................. 132
Discovery Channel pattern ................................................................................... 133
Stone Necklace pattern ......................................................................................... 134
The Trust pattern .................................................................................................. 135
The Rose patterns ................................................................................................. 136
Believing the Supernatural patterns ..................................................................... 139
Passion to Passion pattern .................................................................................... 140
Mental Screen pattern........................................................................................... 141
Peak Experience pattern ....................................................................................... 141
Natural Woman pattern......................................................................................... 142
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Meeting the Perfect Man pattern .......................................................................... 143
Feeling Drawn patterns ........................................................................................ 144
Incredible Connection patterns ............................................................................ 146
Falling in Love patterns........................................................................................ 152
Dream pattern ....................................................................................................... 157
Being Similar pattern............................................................................................ 158
"Too bad we don’t� but if we could�" pattern .................................................. 158
Find Your Desire pattern ...................................................................................... 159
Sex is Natural pattern ........................................................................................... 159
"The more� the more" pattern ............................................................................ 160
Reading the Poem pattern .................................................................................... 160
The Eyes patterns ................................................................................................. 161
I Want You pattern ................................................................................................ 162
At Least We Can Be Friends pattern .................................................................... 162
Indifference to Attraction pattern ......................................................................... 163
Find That Girl pattern ........................................................................................... 165
Blow Job pattern ................................................................................................... 165
Backdoor Pleasure patterns .................................................................................. 167
The Void pattern ................................................................................................... 169
The Door pattern .................................................................................................. 169
Presuppositions and other "mind-tricks".............................................................. 171
LONG-DISTANCE SEDUCTION ........................... 173
Become your own "friend" for her ....................................................................... 173
Patterning over the phone..................................................................................... 174
Nickname-tease .................................................................................................... 175
NOW THAT SHE’S INTERESTED ........................ 176
Common signs of interest ..................................................................................... 176
Building a bridge AFC-style ................................................................................ 177
If more than one girl is giving you the vibe ......................................................... 178
Reading the signs of a "committed" woman ........................................................ 178
Capitalise .............................................................................................................. 180
Don’t forget to make a timely exit ........................................................................ 181
Closing - the kiss close and the number close ..................................................... 181
Asking for a� date? ............................................................................................ 185
Proceeding instead of closing............................................................................... 188
Our World routine................................................................................................. 191
Inviting the girl over to your place....................................................................... 193
If she has second thoughts.................................................................................... 195
My home is my love-nest ..................................................................................... 197
Networking and pivots ......................................................................................... 198
HANDLING THE GIRLS ..................................... 200
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Attract girls by being busy ................................................................................... 200
Suggest competition ............................................................................................. 201
Put a price on yourself .......................................................................................... 201
Show a willingness to walk away ........................................................................ 202
Use her friends ...................................................................................................... 202
Judge her by her actions, not her words ............................................................... 203
Have and reveal secrets ........................................................................................ 203
Use poetry ............................................................................................................. 204
If she compliments you ........................................................................................ 204
Act like the two of you have something really special going on ......................... 204
Paying her a compliment ...................................................................................... 205
Cook for her and "date" at home .......................................................................... 206
When should you call a woman after having sex with her? ................................ 206
Romantic gifts and things to do ........................................................................... 207
Managing many relationships at once .................................................................. 209
TROUBLESHOOTING..........................................211
She wants YOUR number instead? ...................................................................... 211
If she still refuses to give you her number ........................................................... 212
If she says "Why do you ask?" ............................................................................. 213
If she asks "Are you trying to seduce me?" ......................................................... 214
"Have you ever�?" gets busted........................................................................... 215
Ejecting ................................................................................................................. 215
She cancels a date ................................................................................................. 216
If she doesn’t return your phone-calls/e-mails ..................................................... 217
If she disrespects you ........................................................................................... 218
The age difference problem.................................................................................. 219
Nothing works with this girl ................................................................................ 220
If she says: "Let’s just be friends", aka LJBF’s you.............................................. 220
Dealing with rejection .......................................................................................... 221
But I really want this girl! .................................................................................... 223
THE BOYFRIEND PROBLEM ............................. 225
If she says she has a boyfriend ............................................................................. 225
Alienating the boyfriend in her mind ................................................................... 226
Boyfriend-smashing techniques ........................................................................... 228
Boyfriend Destroyer patterns ............................................................................... 229
MISCELLANEOUS............................................. 233
Fun and games ...................................................................................................... 233
"Bad" jokes ........................................................................................................... 235
Play a game of Crash and Burn ............................................................................ 239
Things to do for fun .............................................................................................. 240
Top colognes for getting girls .............................................................................. 240
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Miscellaneous suggestions and observations about seduction ............................ 241
Appendices......................... 247
Eye contact experiment ........................................................................................ 248
The pivot theory ................................................................................................... 250
Falling in love vs being a player .......................................................................... 252
Female seducer turning straight girls into bi and lesbian .................................... 254
Rolling Stone article about Speed Seduction ....................................................... 256
Job Interview patterns .......................................................................................... 260
FIELD REPORTS .............................................. 263
The effetiveness of persistence with a smile ........................................................ 263
Svengali’s street pick-up ....................................................................................... 264
Svengali’s friend’s street pick-up .......................................................................... 265
The original Mr Smooth posts .............................................................................. 266
David Shade’s real-life seduction ......................................................................... 270
Maniac High’s report, NYC’s comments .............................................................. 276
The Orgasmotron - planting a post-hypnotic suggestion ..................................... 282
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#close - the number close. Get the girl’s number. Give your’s if she only agrees to an exchange.
See Closing for more details.
*close - kiss close. Get the girl to kiss you. Then #close:) See Closing for more details.
3s rule - the three seconds rule. There may be a maximum of only three seconds between you
seeing a girl and acting upon it. See The three seconds rule for more details.
AFC - Average Frustrated Chump. A phrase coined by Ross Jeffries to describe a healthy (read:
horny) male not (yet:) educated in the art of seduction (which in Ross Jeffries’ terms would be
Speed Seduction, but that is much too limiting). A few typical traits of an AFC - hanging on to
just one certain girl, supplicating, swallowing whatever crap treatment a woman gives him, being
afraid to make a move, thinking in terms of "dates", eiter for lack of courage and/or knowledge
being unable to do a pick-up or a close.
ASF - alt.seduction.fast, a Usenet newsgroup created by Ross Jeffries for discussing Speed
Seduction and its implementation, which has far outgrown its original agenda by becoming the
world’s premiere discussion board covering various seduction techniques. Everything in
quotation marks starting with "ASF:" is material originally published on ASF. See Disclaimer for
why some of you might find your material here without due credits and please contact me if you
wish to have your name added to your material.
BF - Boyfriend, often also (and not mistakenly:) read as Borefriend:)
HB - Honey Bunny, an acronym coined by Ross Jeffries in his newsletters. Also sometimes
mistakenly read as Hot Babe, Horny Bitch or Hard Body, but it’s a free world, to each his own:)
Kino - kinaesthetics. Touching her: her hands, shoulders etc. See Kinaesthetics for more details.
LJBF - "Let’s Just Be Friends", also know as "the treatment". You know what this means, when a
girl gives you this line; I don’t have to explain:) See "Let’s Just Be Friends" for more details.
LTR - Long Term Relationship. Although the length of a relationship to qualify as "long term"
can not be defined, the physical and/or emotional involvement of such a relationship certainly
extends beyond that of a chance encounter aka one-night-stand.
Mindlist - a mailing list dealing with NLP and its various applications, seduction amongst others.
You can find it on www.egroups.com/group/mindlist
Neg - also known as negging, neghits or negative hits. See Neghits explained and Neghits
expansion pack for more details.
NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming. An new approach to psychotherapy co-founded by
Richard Bandler and John Grinder. NLP uses language patterns and metaphor to communicate
with the subconscious mind enabling the patient to recover within weeks or even days as
opposed to months and years when using traditional psychoanalysis. See www.nlp.org for more
details.
PUA - Pick-Up Artist. Someone who has picking up girls down to an art and uses one or various
pick-up techniques with a high success-rate.
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SS - Speed Seduction. An NLP-based seduction technique created by Ross Jeffries. See
www.seduction.com for more details.
SP - self-point, point to yourself (like put your hand on your chest or stomach for a moment). An
aspect of patterning to link descriptions to yourself (example: "have you ever met someone..."
while self-pointing).
UG - Ugly Girl, the opposite of HB (Honey Bunny), usually the HB’s friend and an obstacle. See
"Group tactics" for more details.
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