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Proven Techniques to Reshape Anyone's Attitude, Behavior, Feelings, or Beliefs How to nytrody DAVIDJ. UEBERMAN, PH. New York Times Bestseiling Author of Never Be Lied to Again Finally, the book that shows you how to do the impossible: get someone to change, for the better. Don't let crazy people drive you crazy. Don't let annoying, obnoxious, petty people get under your skin. Whether it's your kids, spouse, friend, client, patient, or coworker, you have the power to make it better. Before you break up with your boyfriend, fire your employee, or write off your mother-in-law, try changing them into someone new. With clear, prescriptive techniques, How to Change Anybody tells you how to: • Inspire loyalty. • Turn anyone's mood around fast. • Stop stubborn behavior. 'Turn a lazy bum into an ambitious go-getter. -Stop passive aggressive behavior. •And much more! David Lieberman is an expert in simple behavioral strategies that work every time. These tried-and-true techniques will truly give you the tools to change anyone — and, in the process, to change your life! DAVID J. LIEBERMAN, PH.D., whose books have been translated into sixteen languages, is an internationally renowned leader in the field of human behavior. He has appeared on hun- dreds of programs and is a frequent guest expert on national television and radio shows such as The Today Show, CNN, The View, PBS, and A&E. Dr. Lieberman holds a Ph.D. in psychology and his techniques are used by the FBI, the Department of the Navy, Fortune 500 companies, and by governments and corporations in more than twenty-five countries. He lives in New Jersey. Please visit his Web site at www.MakePeaceWithAnyone.com. $12.95/$17.95 Can. Cover design by Phil Pascuzzo ISBN D-31E-3E47S-S www.stmartins.com 51295> 175 FIFTH AVENUE, NEW YORK, N.Y. 10010 DISTRIBUTED IN CANADA BY H. B. FENN AND COMPANY, LTD 9"780312"324759 PRINTED IN THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA How to Change Anybody How to Chan^ ALSO BY DAVID J. LIEBERMAN, PH.D. Anybody Make Peace with Anyone Get Anyone to Do Anything Never Be Lied to Again Instant Analysis Proven Techniques to Reshape Anyone's Attitude, Behavior, Feelings, or Beliefs DAVID J. LIEBERMAN, PH.D. St. Martin's Griffin ft New York Contents Acknowledgments IX HOW TO CHANGE ANYBODY. Copyright © 2005 by David J. Lieberman. All Introduction xi rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book A Note to the Reader xiii may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission How to Use This Book xv except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews. For information, address St. Martin's Press, 175 Fifth Avenue, New York, N.Y. 10010. I. How to Change Anyone's Beliefs and Values Learn psychological strategies to eliminate anyone's un- Book design by Mary A. Wrt/i healthy beliefs about anyone or anything and to realign their values in any area of life. www.stmartins.com 1. Can You Change Someone Who Doesn't Want to Change? 3 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data 2. Beliefs and Values: A Brief Introduction 5 Lieberman, David J. 3. Make Anyone More Moral and Ethical 7 How to change anybody : proven techniques to reshape anyone's attitude, 4. Inspire Loyalty in Anyone 15 behavior, feelings, or beliefs / David J. Lieberman. 5. Eliminate Prejudice in Anyone 23 p. cm. 6. Change the Parent Who Doesn't Spend ISBNO-312-32474-X(hc) Enough Time with the Kids 29 ISBN 0-312-32475-8 (pbk) 7. Motivate Anyone to Lose Weight 35 BAN 978-0-312-32475-9 1. Change (Psychology). 2. Persuasion (Psychology). 3. Influence (Psychology). I. Title. II. How to Change Anyone's Emotional State BF637.C4 L44 2005 Turn the unhappy into the happy and the neurotic into the 153.8'5-dc22 2004051242 normal, and make anyone feel emotionally stable, happier, and balanced. Whether it is your patient, parent, friend, First St. Martin's Griffin Edition: January 2006 or spouse, permanently shift anyone's state for the better. 1 0 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 21 CONTENTS CONTENTS 8. A Quick-Fix Pick-Me-Up: Turn Anyone's Mood 24. Make Anyone More Apologetic Around, Fast 43 157 25. Erase the Anger and Make Anyone More 9. Give the Gift of Self-Esteem: Help Anyone Forgiving Like Himself More 49 165 26. Make Anyone More Interested in Anything 10. Eliminate Anyone's Self-Destructive Behaviors 61 171 27. Stop Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Anyone 11. In Case of Emergency 73 177 28. Change the Chronically Late Person 183 29. Change the Person Who Nags 189 III. Plastic Surgery for the Personality Conclusion Discover the psychological principles that can rechannel a 197 person's personality, nature, and character. Turn that an- Bibliography 199 noying, arrogant, lazy, self-centered, self-absorbed person into a giving, kind, and easygoing pleasure. 12. Can You Really Change a Person's Personality? 79 13. Change Anyone's Mind, and Stop Stubborn Behavior Anytime 81 14. Make Anyone More Assertive 89 15. Turn a Lazy Bum into an Ambitious Go-Getter 97 16. Silence the Gossipmonger in Anyone 107 17. Make Anybody More Open and Expressive 113 18. Turn Any Wallflower into a Social Butterfly 119 19. Change a Stingy Person into a Generous One 125 20. Help Anyone to Feel Less Guilty about Anything 131 IV. How to Change Anyone's Attitude and Behavior Use the power of psychology to rid anyone of a negative atti- tude about anything and eliminate any unwanted behavior. Whether it is your patient, child, friend, or spouse, help someone who doesn't want to, or thinks he doesn't need to, change—fast and for good. 21. Infuse Anyone with an Unwavering Sense of Responsibility 137 22. Bring Out the Romantic Side in Anyone 145 23. Make Anyone More Respectful: Dramatically Change How Someone Treats You, Your Friends, and Your Family 151 f Acknowledgments Many hardworking, passionate, and dedicated people are involved in the process and ultimate success of any book. My thanks and ap- preciation go to my agent, Ian Klienert at The Literary Group. He is a consummate professional and a pleasure to work with. To my edi- tor, Jennifer Enderlin at St. Martin's Press, who is a real talent, my gratitude for your terrific insights and suggestions. To my copy edi- tor, Patricia Phelan, and production editor Meryl Gross, a big thank you. Their hard work is evident throughout the entire book. To John Karle, my extraordinary publicist, and to the great sales force at St. Martin's who have worked tirelessly on our previous books, thank you very much for an ongoing, outstanding job. And most notably, my warmest thanks to those readers who have enjoyed my previous books, your kind letters of appreciation fuel my quest to continue writing books that try, in some small way, to enrich our lives. Introduction Don't let crazy people drive you crazy. Don't let annoying, petty, ob- noxious individuals get under your skin. Why be annoyed and frus- trated by those who don't listen to you, respect you, or care about you and what you want? Whether it's your child, spouse, friend, client, patient, boss, or coworker, why just "deal" with people when you can change them? How to Change Anybody gives you the psychological tools to re- shape and remake anyone into a better person. It shows you how to make permanent changes, not merely how to put up with difficult people or to be more tolerant. Before you break up with your boyfriend, fire your employee, or write off your mother-in-law, change them into someone new. Why be contorted, twisting and turning yourself trying to accommodate oth- ers, when you can go right to the root of the problem—their beliefs, values, attitudes, or personality—and change it, fast and forever. Who in your life could use a mental makeover, a little plastic surgery for the personality? Whether you don't like an employee's INTRODUCTION attitude, want a patient to quit drinking, wish your spouse would care more about appearance, want your mother-in-law to see the best in you, wish your friend would get out of an abusive relationship, or want your child to be more assertive, this book will show you how to achieve the change you desire, step-by-step. Armed with the psycho- logical secrets governing human behavior, you will learn how to change anyone for the better-and to change your life for good. A Note to the Reader The techniques in How to Change Anybody are designed to change any and all aspects of a person. When we speak of change, however, we are not talking about turning someone into a slave to do your un- conditional bidding. These psychological strategies work only to change someone for the better. As you follow the advice in this book, you will discover that mak- ing real and permanent change in a person increases his or her sense of self-worth. So the techniques won't work unless the change you want to initiate is in the person's best interest. And when you want to help someone become a better person, you will find that you can change anybody faster and easier than you ever thought possible. 1 How to Use This Book This book is designed to be used right away. You do not have to read any of the psychology involved if you do not want to, nor do you have to read the chapters that do not apply to your situation. To get started, look in the table of contents for the type of change you want to make and go right to the relevant chapter. There you will find step-by-step techniques that illustrate what to do and how to do it. What If I Can't Find an Example of What I Want to Change? A broad spectrum of examples are presented to illustrate the various types of psychological techniques. However, if you don't find the ex- act attitude or behavior you want to change, that's okay. Just apply the technique that is most similar to the type of change you want to make in someone.

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