Happiful - August 2022

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ISSUE 64
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Are your lines
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secrets to setting
healthy boundaries
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Paradise awaits as
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A little piece
of paradise
“If we could make our house a home,
and then make it a sanctuary, I think
we could truly find paradise on
Earth.” – Alexandra Stoddard.

When I read this quote, I couldn’t
help but think back to being a kid,
and revelling in building blanket forts.
Mismatched quilts, various pillows
‘borrowed’ from any room that
could spare them, and the dubious
structural integrity meaning you It’s time to recapture that magic of
might find the fabric roof resting our youth, and create a sanctuary to
on your head at any moment; it retreat from the chaos of the world.
was thrilling, imperfect, and utterly Why not try our quiz on p44 to discover
personal. A cosy little cocoon to play, how to craft your own sweet escape?
read, or daydream to your heart’s
content. It could be a kingdom of contentment
as you reconnect with nature, like
Nowadays, it’s rare to take a walk in our article on p53, or the comfort
through the woods without spotting of retreating behind your own
a makeshift den. Remnants of a fun parametres of peace by setting healthy
afternoon of adventure, which can boundaries on p17.
set a little pang of longing in your
heart to join the creativity. Take a moment to consider your true
needs. Knowing this little piece of At Happiful, inclusivity,
As adults, we can take for granted paradise is there for you could be a representation, and creating
the benefits that a safe space to call great, untapped comfort in testing a happier, healthier society
our own can bring. times. are at the forefront of our
mission. To find out more
Whether it’s a physical place to find You deserve to feel resilient, about our social and
some tranquillity, or a mental one rejuvenated, and reborn. Your environmental pledges,
to clear our minds of pressures, sanctuary visit happiful.com/pledges
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An open mind
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17 Toe the line
How to set your boundaries
35 The mindset reset

41 A safe place
The importance of personal
sanctuaries, and how to find yours

62 Soothing sensations
Discover the cutting-edge
science helping us to feel good
78 Mind your language
41
Why the words we choose
matter so much
Wellbeing
20 Get grounded
Try these practical tips
25 Are you overworking?
It might be time to slow things down
32 What is minority stress?
Find out more about the pressures
faced by those in minority groups

38 Consent to vent
How to check-in before unloading

53 The great outdoors
Embrace its wellbeing perks 28
Food & health
45 Can you boost endorphins?
Try these five science-backed tips
46 Cracking snacks
Nutritious toppings for the
staple nibble: a cracker
35
61 Perfect peach smoothie
Relationships Positive pointers
14 What's the orgasm gap? 22 Travelling with toddlers
Could you be missing out? Grace Victory shares first-hand tips

50 What new mums need 28 A natural energy boost
How to be there when loved
ones start a fresh life stage 65 Lottie Bedlow
The GBBO star on embracing
56 Friends for life taste over perfection
How to improve the quality
53 of your close connections 69 Grow-your-own revolution

58 Love is love 73 Self-compassion secrets
Insight into the prejudice faced Could cutting comparison help
by the LGBTQIA+ community us to see the bigger picture?
83 Feel the love
Use this month's journaling Expert review
pages to strengthen your bonds
Every iss*ue of Happiful is
reviewed by an accredited
counsellor, to ensure we
Try this at home
deliver the highest quality
content while handling
16 Breathe easy
topics sensitively.
We live in an age where the
48 Take what you need
pressure to socially engage
has intensified, partly due to
68 Body language 101
technology and the instant

access people have to each
76 Ask yourself this
other. This has made it even
Questions to help you
56
harder to manage personal
reconnect with your work
boundaries. Head over to
p17 for some great tips on
82 Nature walks
how to maintain healthy
boundaries in your life. It’s
important you are in control
Culture and comfortable. The greater
the fulfilment you have in a
8 Good news relationship, the more value
Uplifting stories to make you smile you will find in it.
RAV SEKHON
13 The wellbeing wrap
BA MA MBACP (Accred)
Rav is a counsellor
30 Do something new and psychotherapist
with more than 10
20 years' experience.
49 Good books
Expert Panel Our team
Meet the team of experts providing information, guidance, EDITORIAL
and insight throughout this issue Rebecca Thair | Editor
Kathryn Wheeler | Features Editor
Lauren Bromley-Bird | Editorial Assistant
Bonnie Evie Gifford, Kat Nicholls | Senior Writers
TABITHA BAST ALANA LEGGETT Becky Wright | Content & Marketing Officer
Msc PST IAC AC Grace Victory, Bhavna Raithatha | Columnists
Tabitha is a sex and Alana is a life coach Lucy Donoughue | Head of Multimedia
relationship therapist. dedicated to empowering
Ellen Lees | Head of Content
women.
Janette Owen | Sub-Editor
Rav Sekhon | Expert Advisor
ART & DESIGN
Amy-Jean Burns | Head of Product
Charlotte Reynell | Creative Lead
JODI PILCHER GORDON CRESSIDA ELIAS Rosan Magar | Illustrator
MA FDSC MBACP BA Hons IANLPC IAHT
COMMUNICATIONS
Jodi is an integrative Cressida is a nutritional Alice Greedus | PR Manager
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CONTRIBUTORS
Klaudia Mitura, Alessandra Vescio, Laura Caunter,
Mahevash Shaikh, Jenna Farmer, Jodi Pilcher Gordon,
Erica Crompton, Maxine Ali, Michelle Elman,
Lottie Bedlow

SPECIAL THANKS
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Cressida Elias, Natasha Crowe, Sheri Werner,
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artwork is causing quite the their vital role in our ecosystem, the variety of plants springing up,
buzz at the Eden Project in and to prompt questions about as they mature even further this
Cornwall. Dubbed the Pollinator who gardens are truly for. summer.”
Pathmaker, the piece is made “I am thrilled to be able to Keen to create your own
up of 7,000 plants, all designed officially launch Pollinator Pollinator Pathmaker? Visit
to welcome pollinators such as Pathmaker,” Alexandra says. “It’s pollinator.art for a special
bees, wasps, beetles, and moths. been wonderful to observe the algorithm that suggests planting
Pollinating food crops and first garden grow and begin to schemes which are ‘empathetic’
helping plants reproduce and bloom over the winter at Eden, to pollinating critters, so you
thrive, these tiny creatures are and to already be hosting so can design and grow your own
small yet mighty – but they’re many pollinating visitors; bees, version (available to anyone in
also in decline. The aim of butterflies, beetles, and more. I’m northern Europe). We have no
the artwork, created by artist also very excited to welcome our doubt it’ll be the bee’s knees!
Alexandra Daisy Ginsberg, is to human visitors, who will be able Writing | Kat Nicholls
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SCIENCE
Eager to learn? New research shows a ‘substantially
faster’ way of gaining knowledge
If there was a way to supercharge observe new things out in the real shows evidence of latent learning
your ability to learn, would world without a goal of learning (our subconscious retaining
you take it? According to a new about them. Simply being exposed information without us realising it
study published in the Journal to them makes an impression in our until we later have the motivation or
of Psychological Science, there mind, and leads us to be ready to incentive to display it).
may, in fact, be a way to ensure learn about them later.” So next time you’re thinking about
that we are more ‘ready to learn’ The study, which included five picking up a new language or trying
before we explicitly try to tackle different experiments and 438 your hand at a different hobby, try
something new. participants, showed similar results to get some real-world observation
Vladimir Sloutsky, study across each experiment, with the under your belt before you make
co-author and professor of impact of real-world exposure the time to sit down and take your
psychology at Ohio State noted. Sloutsky believes that this learning to the next level.
University, explains: “We often latest study is one of the few which Writing | Bonnie Evie Gifford
COMMUNITY
Theatre company shows there are
no limits to what we can achieve
While there are more than 14 Different Theatre Company – a
million disabled people in the creative outlet for adults with
UK, many still feel excluded from disabilities, designed to encourage
society, as a survery by the charity them to live without limits.
Scope reveals that 32% of diasbled What started as a 40-week
people still feel there is a lot of project, has become an award-
prejudice against them. But, there winning theatre company with
are people taking action to create 50 members, performing shows It’s clear that this company has
opportunities and fighting for including Dick Whittington in the given its members the confidence
equality for those with disabilities. Hood and The Snow Queen. and courage to achieve what they
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