Date! The Complete Home Study Course

144 Pages·2012·1.759 MB·English

by  Nick Hoss, Mr. M, Vercetti

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DATE! THE COMPLETE HOME STUDY COURSE
Copyright 2012 Love Systems, Inc.
All Rights Reserved

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CHAPTER 1 - QUICK START DATES GUIDE
In this chapter (click each one to go directly to that section):
• THE BASICS
• COMMON FALLACIES ABOUT DATING
• COMMON DATING MISTAKES
• THE EIGHT COMMANDMENTS: BREAKING THE TRADITIONAL RULES
• SUMMARY
THE BASICS
Let’s redefine “success” on a date.
When following Love Systems, your goal is to get to sex as quickly as possible. The sooner you
reach this goal, the quicker you reach success.
This goal may be a bit of a shock if you’re not used to get consistent dates, make outs, etc.
Why do we have this goal? There are a few reasons:
• Sex is high-level investment for most women. Once sex has occurred, the power is now
with you to create the kind of relationship that you want.
• If sexual tension is unresolved and left too long, it can makes things awkward.
• It helps the bonding and intimacy of the relationship.
• The risk of “fizzling out” diminishes, otherwise what could have been an exciting or
meaningful relationship is totally lost as a result of decreased momentum and investment.
Interestingly, you’ll find that as you increase your options and develop a true mentality of
abundance, sex on the first date becomes less of a concern.
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The above are just a few reasons why sex makes a successful date. Below are some concepts
that will help you achieve this:
1. Emotional Stimulation
Stimulate her with the widest possible range of emotions. Your words, actions, and even your
environment can all be powerful tools in your arsenal when used properly. This guarantees
you will stay on her mind in a good way.
2. Physical Intimacy
Touching, intimacy, and proximity should all increase throughout the course of the date.
This makes the transition to sex smooth instead of ending the date with an awkward kiss on
her doorstep when you haven’t even touched her leg!
Physical escalation is crucial for making it implicitly clear that you are not the type of guy
who ends up in the “friend zone.” It also conveys that you are a sexually confident man
who takes risks and expects results. Remember, women are led into seduction. She may be
hoping that sex will happen, but it’s on you to make the moves.
3. Deepening the Emotional Connection
You should both feel as if you have made it past the superficial level and have discovered
each other more intimately. The mutual feeling of comfort and closeness after spending
quality time learning about each other’s world should be the goal here.
4. Sexualization
This is where you verbally set the stage for a sexual relationship. By making her comfortable
with sexual topics, you establish the frame that sex is not a big deal. Like all of the steps
above, it is crucial that you sexualize the interaction in order to have a successful date.
Many of the problems men run into stem from their acceptance of common dating practices.
They watch Hollywood movies, read novels, and hear one-off stories or even worse... listen to
women’s romanticized advice or follow inaccurate information on dating.
The classic tale of “nice guy gets the girl,” purported by Hollywood films, feeds on our fantasy
and desire to be seen for who we “really are’” without actually having to DO anything. This is
great in the fantasy world.
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In the real world, however, you have to be proactive on dates. Remember that women are often
spectators in their own seduction. If you want the magic to happen, you need to whip out and
wave the magic wand.
COMMON FALLACIES ABOUT DATING
THE FALLACY OF THE MAN WHO WOOS THE WOMAN
There is an overriding presumption that men chase and women play hard to get. While this
actually coincides with basic human nature, it also breeds unhelpful dating mindsets and frames.
With this fallacy women are seen as prizes to be won, thus sex becomes a trophy she gives to
the man who competes for and wins her affection. Adopting the role of “chaser” (which the
average guy usually does) significantly decreases your odds.
What’s so bad about chasing? Simply put, it makes attraction and intimacy very difficult
to generate. To enjoy the huge success that is within your potential, you must change this
presumption - then you’ll notice that attraction comes easier and sex happens faster.
THE FALLACY OF THE NICE GUY
Society has lost the initiation phase that transforms the boy into the man. This transformation is
essential to overcome all kinds of fear, so it’s no surprise that the average, modern society guy
is afraid to be a man. He doesn’t embrace his masculinity, nor does he act from his core male
nature. As a result, the definition of being a man has been lost.
The modern man, who may be a nice person with a lot to offer, loses his masculinity through
relying on the following false pretenses:
• Social conditioning - we are told to follow social trends and place our needs as a second
priority to those of others.
• Social acceptance - judging women for embracing/enjoying their sexuality (e.g. the
word slut).
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• Fantasy - what we read in romance novels or see in Hollywood films that we choose to
believe is how the real world works. This usually comes through some false pretense.
Keep in mind, there is a difference between a nice guy and the nice guy. Women like guys who
are nice, but are only interested in those guys after they have displayed their attractive quali-
ties (such as being preselected or being a challenge).
A guy who can demonstrate his attractive characteristics (such as the attraction switches
described in Magic Bullets) is a man in touch with his masculinity. Women know that these types
of guys won’t become soft later on in the relationship. The nice guy adopts a feminine role,
looking to her for guidance and putting her on a pedestal that she neither deserves nor wants
to be on. This puts pressure on her and places her in a masculine role that she doesn’t want.
Nice guys become providers failing to recognize the dual nature of a relationship: give and
take. Despite their good intentions of pleasing a woman, the relationship becomes boring.
Without having to earn anything in the relationship, the woman cannot get in touch with her
feminine side and this can be extremely frustrating for her. While the nice guy provides for her,
she may be out fulfilling the missing elements of the relationship with a hot flame who meets
her needs at the other end of the lover-provider spectrum. Women often admit to making one
guy wait for sex while they sleep with another man. Why? Because the former is a Provider (the
nice guy) while the latter is a Lover.
What’s the difference? If you are not viewed as a man with whom she can explore and enjoy
her sexuality, you will fall into the friend zone or “provider” role. Both of these are counter-
productive to your success. A guy she slots as boyfriend material, i.e. the Provider, will only
see a certain side of her, usually her conservative side. The Lover freely explores the full force
of her sexual desire and prowess before deciding if he wants to date her. See the difference?
Be a lover first, provider second. Nice guys don’t finish first!
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THE HOT FLAME/LOVER BOYFRIEND/PROVIDER
Excitement Predictablity
Fantasy Security
Willingness to walk away - (scarcity) Loyalty
Abundance mentality Provides resources
Dominance Social Conformity
Danger Safety
Unpredictability Predictablity
Sexual Experience / ability Family and Children
Driven by passion with or without her Emotional/Financial Stability
Mystery Excess Comfort
Spontaneity Acceptance
THE FALLACY OF “SHE’S TOO SPECIAL”
It’s advantageous for a woman to assess a man’s attractiveness. She does this through everyday
behavior and overall character before hooking up with him. Women are great assessors. Thus
she can learn a lot by seeing a man in his natural environment and observing his behavior
around other people (friends, store assistants, waiting staff, etc). Three dates could give her
sufficient time if she knows what she’s looking for.
The problem for women lies in the fact that many men change after sex. For example, guys
become flakey, take longer to return text messages, and generally stop pursuing in the same
way they did before sex occurred. This is a genuine fear that women experience so they take
certain precautions (such as withholding sex) to avoid the negative emotions that arise as a
result. If a man has to work for her, he’ll become more invested and less flakey.
Regardless of how many dates you have been on, once sex happens the balance of the relationship
shifts significantly in the man’s favor. As mentioned before, sex is high-level investment for
most women since it produces chemicals in her body that makes her want to bond with the man
she has slept with. Most women are very aware of this biochemical change.
In many cases women have experienced such a negative shift in a man’s behavior post-sex that
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they adopt rules for future encounters with men (rules such as “no sex till the 3rd date,” waiting
[X] hours to reply to a text, etc). Simply put, a handful of us have made it difficult for the rest!
Now, we’re not here to be your moral guides. We do advocate honesty and openness while
developing new sexual relationships. This is for two reasons. First, it protects the feelings of
everyone involved. Secondly, it aids in making stronger and more fulfilling sexual connections.
Remember, women will never blame you for embracing your masculinity and being sexual.
COMMON DATING MISTAKES
Remember in the first section where we defined a successful date? If you take a woman on the
classic romantic date (dinner and movie), you’ll experience difficulty in fulfilling the criteria for
a successful date.
Even for great conversationalists, the challenges presented by these types of dates create both
a burden on your conversation and a hindrance to physical escalation.
THE DOWNFALLS OF DINNER
• She may be self-conscious about eating in front of you.
• You remind her of the average guy whom she has rejected before.
• Your ability to physically escalate is restricted (often by the table).
• Increased pressure and attention is placed on your conversation.
THE DOWNFALLS OF A MOvIE
• It is virtually impossible to make an emotional connection through conversation.
• A spotlight is placed on every physical escalation attempt since it will be the only form
of communication between the two of you. (Awareness is heightened.)
• You’re allowing an external variable - the movie - to determine her mood. If the movie
is bad/sad/boring, you now have the unnecessary task of changing her emotional state.
• You fit into the “cliché dates” category so attraction is an uphill battle. Instead of
starting at a +2, you’re at a -5.
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The exception to this, however, is if these dates are taking place at your house. If she is coming
over for dinner or a movie, then your logistics are sorted and these dates have a different vibe.
NOT ATTEMPTING INTIMACY
As mentioned before, unresolved sexual tension left too long makes things awkward, boring, or
frustrating. Until you have slept with each other, sexual tension influences the way both of you
communicate and act around each other.
We advocate sleeping with her sooner rather than later since it will allow you to guide the
relationship in the direction of your choice, free from clouded perspectives or ulterior motives.
Although turning things sexual early speeds up the seduction process, calibrating your advances
is a crucial concept to adhere to. There is a difference between owning your sexuality and
making a move versus being obsessed with getting laid and pressuring her for sex. The latter
will make you seem like a horny teenager while hindering the development of a meaningful
relationship. Some women have their rules, and even the most charming of men may not make
them deviate from those.
All women have their blueprint for disregarding their rules. Figure this out and you will be the
guy she desires.
OvERCOMING DATING MISTAKES
Most guys fall into the fallacy of the three date rule where the woman will wait three dates
before allowing any physical or sexual intimacy.
While some women do consciously follow a three date rule, you must:
1. Understand why she employs such a rule (usually a form of self- protection).
2. See yourself as the exception to any rule and reject any restrictions to a successful
date that the rule implies.
3. Lead her comfortably to sex through emotional connection and sexual arousal.
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THE EIGHT COMMANDMENTS:
BREAKING THE TRADITIONAL RULES
By instantly displaying that you are not the average guy - you’re not a sucker for the common
fallacies of dating - you establish a dynamic in the relationship that is conducive to high levels of
attraction and rapid escalation. We’ve come up with eight commandments to ensure a smooth
transition from the date to the bedroom.
1. RUN SOLID GAME
A firm grasp of the Love Systems Triad Model is absolutely essential.
Running solid game is the definition we use for working through to the top of the Love
Systems Emotional Progression Model in the correct sequence: building attraction before
building comfort, building comfort before the seduction process and simultaneously physically
escalating, all while leading her to a location where sex can happen.
Being proficient in leading a woman through the Emotional Progression Model is crucial to your
success. You must get good at:
• Building attraction - stimulating her emotions and demonstrating higher value.
• Qualification - getting her to demonstrate her value and showing appreciation for her
non-physical qualities.
• Building comfort - connecting and developing a deeper understanding of each others’
worlds.
• Seduction - turning things sexual and arousing her.
These are the foundational skills that allow you to begin a sexual relationship in the fastest
possible time.
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