A Leader’s Path to Spiritual Transformation Stephen A. Macchia InterVarsity Press P.O. Box 1400, Downers Grove, IL 60515‑1426 ivpress.com [email protected] ©2015 by Stephen A. Macchia All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from InterVarsity Press. InterVarsity Press® is the book‑ publishing division of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship/USA®, a movement of students and faculty active on campus at hundreds of universities, colleges and schools of nursing in the United States of America, and a member movement of the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students. For information about local and regional activities, visit intervarsity.org. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. niv®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved. Some names and identifying information in this book’s stories have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The details of some stories are composites of actual people and events. Cover design: Cindy Kiple Interior design: Beth McGill Images: © Kritchanut/iStockphoto ISBN 978‑0‑ 8308‑9917‑3 (digital) ISBN 978‑0‑ 8308‑4606‑1 (print) Library of Congress Cataloging- in- Publication Data Names: Macchia, Stephen A., 1956- Title: Broken and whole : a leader’s path to spiritual transformation / Stephen A. Macchia. Description: Downers Grove : InterVarsity Press, 2015. | Includes bibliographical references. | Description based on print version record and CIP data provided by publisher; resource not viewed. Identifiers: LCCN 2015036013 (print) | LCCN 2015037643 (ebook) | ISBN 9780830899173 (eBook) | ISBN 9780830846061 (pbk. : alk. paper) Subjects: LCSH: Bible. Corinthians, 1st, XIII--Criticism, interpretation, etc. | Love--Biblical teaching. | Love--Religious aspects--Christianity. | Healing--Religious aspects--Christianity. | Christianity--Psychology. Classification: LCC BS2675.52 (print) | LCC BS2675.52 .M23 2015 (ebook) | DDC 253--dc23 LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2015037643 This book is dedicated to the suffering, heartache, sinfulness and imperfections of my life, all of which are teaching me to trust and love God with my whole heart, soul, mind and strength. Only through the ongoing restoration of God’s steadfast love within my soul can I offer redemptive and transform- ative love to my neighbor as myself. May it be so in my heart and yours, graciously and gratefully for the glory of God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen. The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:28‑31 For we are God’s handiwork, [re]created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10 (niv) Contents Introduction: An Invitation to Discover Strength in Weakness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 The most excellent way 1 Impatience Isn’t a Virtue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Love is patient and kind 2 When Envy and Jealousy Ransack the Mind . . . . . . . 35 Love does not envy 3 Is It Ever Acceptable to Have a Competitive Spirit? . . . 47 Love does not boast 4 The Tight Grip of Pride and Close‑ Fisted Greed. . . . . 59 Love is not proud 5 The Maddening Manipulation of Self and Others. . . . 71 Love is not rude 6 Is an Independent Spirit in Your Veins and Arteries? . . . 85 Love is not self‑ seeking 7 The Destructive Power of Unbridled Anger. . . . . . . . 99 Love is not easily angered 8 The Truth Always Sets Us Free. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Love keeps no record of wrongs, does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth 9 When Fear and Worry Ensnare a Heart . . . . . . . . . 127 Love always protects 10 The Pitfalls of Needing to Be Wanted. . . . . . . . . . . 139 Love always trusts 11 When Hope Waxes and Wanes 153 Love always hopes 12 No Pain Is Ever Wasted 167 Love always perseveres and never fails 13 Befriending Brokenness and Inviting Redemption 185 The greatest of these is love Conclusion and Benediction: Broken and Whole 199 Acknowledgments 203 Praise for Broken and Whole 205 About the Author 208 Leadership Transformations 209 Also by Stephen A Macchia 210 Formatio Page 211 More Titles from InterVarsity Press 212 Behold the patient love of God Become what you receive Behold the kind love of God Become what you receive Behold the protecting love of God Become what you receive Behold the trusting love of God Become what you receive Behold the hopeful love of God Become what you receive Behold the persevering love of God Become what you receive Behold the unconditional love of God It does not envy, it does not boast It is not proud, it is not rude It is not self‑ seeking, it is not easily angered It keeps no record of wrongs, it does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth It never fails Prophecies, tongues and knowledge will cease, still and pass away Faith, hope and love remain But the greatest of these is love Become what you receive 1 Corinthians 13: 4‑13 as adapted by Stephen Macchia