Born to Win: Transactional Analysis with Gestalt Experiments

352 Pages·1978·15.43 MB·English

by  Muriel James

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A mQUEsnONS TO ASK Y01JRSEI.F I
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-:Are you a victi~? A prosecutor? A rescuer? I
'-Whose li(escriptare you fonowing? ,)
,-What part ofyou is a child? A parent?, An" adult?
,-HoW'much ofyour relationship'S 'Yithothers issuperftcial?
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Howmuch trulyintimate?
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-Do you stroke people positiv~1y.togive them:a feeling of
OKness,ordo'you'discountthem withnegativestroking?, .
-Are you a wimet or a loser?
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When yo~ undtrstand these questions, and beginto find tlltir,
answers; you will be well on the wa,jlto becoming whtlt you
werea/Wllysmeanttobe~ ",
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BORN TO WIN
"EJIrlchlng, s1Imuladng,re'lVarding, , . ~rllftycme,"'"
estedinunderstandiJlghimself,hisrelatlo~ wluiodie.-'
'.and hisgoals." -:-~NSAS CITYfIMp
"Themoste"cllingcontributiOnto,self-UIIIIersf8ndiII.!",
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. -PROORESSIYI! WOMAtoi
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,'DR. MURlELJAMES'1S a licensedmarriageand family-'coU' nieIOJ'~an
international" consu1t,nf in human relations tOlcwemment ..pneief. '~
school !iystems,,and ttusiness. and.an ,adviserto the California ~
sion on The Status of Women. Dl. James receivedher doctorate kom
the OnivCrsityof'Caltfomiaat Berkeley, She is vice--preS1dentol the 18;-- ~
ternationalTfansactional' Analysis, AsSociation, and.was a c:olleaaue ~
4)r. Eric Berne. Dr. Jarnes is the author of TRANSAcT'IONAL' ANAL-
YSIS FOR MOMS A!'ID DADS,BORN TO LOVE, a,nd THS OK!
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BOSS,and i. the co-aUthor of WINNING WITH PEOPLE and
NEW SELF. ' , ".
, DR.' DOROTHY JONGEWARD iJo,'he president nf tI!. T,..s/octI...1
Analysis M;anagetnent Institute~ She earned .her Ph.D. at CUj{QM'ia,
. Western' University, and is a -TeJl.ch'ng Mer:nber at' tlieIntemaliooai
Transactional Analysis Association, a Prof.ror of Human Deh.vior ;and>
Transactional Analysis at Califorma,American tJnivenity:, aad a,life
member ot the California Association p{ Marriaat and f_mil)' Cou..
selon. Dr. Jongewardis the'author of EVERYBODY WINS: "Trans...'
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actional Analysis Applied to Oraaniutions, and, is.theca-author "of
AFFtRMATIVE ACfIONFOR WOMEN, WINNING WITH PEO-!
PLE, and WOMEN AS WINNERS, - ,
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Foreword
IIbasb!:en said that the psychotherapist's job istopu\bimself out.
of business. Researcb and writing efforts in tbe field are l1irected
, toward curing patienm faste."in awaytbat isfun, ecoriom~, and
long lasting. The ideal in,therapy isthe one'session cure,Ihe ideal
inwriting istbe one'book cure. Somucb oftbewriting in ~sycltol.'
ogyiswriuen like hieroglyphiCs on the llosetta Stone that aJe.....
fr""",is Champollion tberapist or writer isinvariably I.eeded for.
the decipb~g al'd .application. . . .
Born 7'0 Wi. b)f'&'SOItbis middle-man system an4. pRSi:nll
psychological insights in anintmediately recognizable way. Itisin
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'line Witbtbe '10's .trend or making all information more dily
available.1Opeople, and the quarian ofbrinfing IOplher
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iliformation from both .worlds. Humamstic Man. Ulterest!l'i in
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petsonal.growth and higher levels of awareness,can noW
die information intelligently .tllat before be could handle only
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inlellectually.
Bor.'10Wi. seemsfreeofthecodifying"gameswtiten play;"
Inthewriting~tylethere isapatience,thoroughness,clarity,and
"giving"that isunique inthe field..Here the needsof the reaaer
are met, 'lot discounted. The numerous examples sbould be
meani~1 ~ reader and student aliJce;even. 10 those pro-
grammed forJ1:1inimainlsi8hllt hastbeclearestuseofe1<amplesI .
bave s~n inanybook, and.! see itasalandmark book in.the r~d
of psychological writing. , . ..
(AsSistant Clinical Professor 8tepheB B.KaJPlll'Wi,JI.D.
of Psycbiatry, Univeisity of San francisoo
'California Med~ Center July 1971
San francisoo, California)
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