50 THINGS EVERY YOUNG GENTLEMAN SHOULD KNOW OTHER GENTLEMANNERS™ BOOKS How to Be a Gentleman John Bridges A Gentleman Entertains John Bridges and Bryan Curtis As a Gentleman Would Say John Bridges and Bryan Curtis A Gentleman Gets Dressed Up John Bridges and Bryan Curtis A Gentleman Walks Down the Aisle John Bridges and Bryan Curtis Toasts and Tributes John Bridges and Bryan Curtis 50 Things Every Young Gentleman Should Know Kay West with John Bridges and Bryan Curtis 50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know Kay West with John Bridges and Bryan Curtis How to Be a Lady Candace Simpson-Giles As a Lady Would Say Sheryl Shade How to Raise a Gentleman Kay West How to Raise a Lady Kay West A Lady at the Table Sheryl Shade with John Bridges and Bryan Curtis A Gentleman at the Table John Bridges and Bryan Curtis A Gentleman Abroad John Bridges and Bryan Curtis 50 THINGS EVERY YOUNG GENTLEMAN SHOULD KNOW REVISED AND EXPANDED WHAT TO DO, WHEN TO DO IT & WHY JOHN BRIDGES | BRYAN CURTIS © 2006, 2012 by John Bridges and Bryan Curtis. All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other—except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without prior permission of the publisher. Published in Nashville, Tennessee, by Thomas Nelson. Thomas Nelson is a registered trademark of Thomas Nelson, Inc. Thomas Nelson, Inc., titles may be purchased in bulk for educational, business, fund-raising, or sales promotional use. For information, please e-mail [email protected]. Illustrations by Alicia Adkerson, Adkerson Design ISBN 978-1-40160-465-3 (repackage) ISBN 978-1-59555-319-5 (Orvis) The Library of Congress has cataloged the earlier edition as follows: Bridges, John, 1950– 50 things every young gentleman should know / John Bridges and Bryan Curtis. p. cm.(Gentlemanners books) ISBN 978-1-4016-0294-9 (hard cover) ISBN 978-1-4016-0306-9 (SE) 1. Boys—Conduct of life. I. Curtis, Bryan, 1960–II. Title. III. Title: Fifty things every young gentleman should know. BJ1641.B75 2006 395.1’22—dc22 2006021523 Printed in the United States of America 12 13 14 15 16 WOR 6 5 4 3 2 1 To Cooper Truman Burruss in the hope he will believe good things, and behave the right way, too —J. B. To Scott Sims a great sport and a great nephew —B. C. CONTENTS Introduction 1. Saying “Please” 2. Saying “Thank You” 3. Saying “Excuse Me” 4. Making an Apology 5. Accepting an Apology 6. Introducing Your Friends to Your Parents 7. Saying “Ma’am” and “Sir” 8. Asking Permission 9. Paying a Compliment 10. Accepting a Compliment 11. Knowing When to Keep Your Mouth Shut 12. Listening to and Talking to Adults 13. Shaking Hands 14. Meeting People with Physical Challenges 15. Accepting a Gift You Don’t Like 16. Accepting a Gift You Like 17. Writing a Thank-You Note 18. Selecting a Gift 19. Answering the Telephone 20. Taking Phone Messages 21. Using a Cell Phone 22. Winning Well 23. Losing Well 24. How to Act in Places Where You Are Bored 25. How to Behave in a Movie Theater 26. Traveling on an Airplane 27. Walking in Front of Other People 28. Responding to Invitations 29. Using a Napkin 30. Using the Correct Fork 31. Using a Knife and Fork 32. Refusing Foods You Can’t Eat 33. Dealing with Foods You Don’t Like 34. Ordering from a Menu 35. How to Use Chopsticks 36. Opening the Door for Other People 37. A Gentleman Goes Online 38. Borrowing and Sharing 39. The Unzipped Zipper and Other Embarrassing Situations 40. Boundaries: Yours and Theirs 41. Taking Pride in Your Appearance 42. Tying Your Own Tie 43. Shining Your Shoes 44. When to Take Off Your Cap 45. Taking Care of Your Fingernails 46. Handkerchiefs and Tissues 47. Picking Up After Your Pet 48. Picking Up After Yourself