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jason capital HIGHER STATUS HIGHER STATUS The New Science of S U C C E S S and A C H I E V E M E N T H I G H E R S T A T U S jason capital The New Science of S U C C E S S and A C H I E V E M E N T Higher STATUS COPYRIGHT © 2017 JASON CAPITAL All rights reserved. HIGHER STATUS The New Science of Success and Achievement ISBN 978-1-61961-599-1 Paperback 978-1-61961-598-4 Ebook CONTENTS INTRODUCTION.......................................................... 9 1. BECOMING HIGH STATUS ........................................... 29 2. HIGH-STATUS DESTINY ............................................. 43 3. HIGH-STATUS BODY LANGUAGE .................................. 69 4. HIGH-STATUS VOICE................................................. 89 5. HIGH-STATUS EYE CONTACT...................................... 109 6. HIGH-STATUS WALK ................................................ 123 7. HIGH-STATUS STATE CONTROL .................................. 139 8. HIGH-STATUS CAREFREENESS ................................... 165 9. HIGH-STATUS TRUTH ............................................... 189 10. HIGH-STATUS RAPPORT CONTROL ............................. 209 11. HIGH-STATUS CHARISMA ........................................ 229 12. HIGH-STATUS STYLE .............................................. 245 13. HIGH-STATUS ENVIRONMENT .................................... 261 CONCLUSION......................................................... 283 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS .............................................. 295 ABOUT THE AUTHOR ............................................... 299 I N T R O D U C T I O N � · �9 INTRODUCTION I had heard about him for months. Some people said he was a genius, a playboy, or some combination of the two. But opinions are like nostrils, right? Everyone has at least two. I had to see with my own eyes what this guy was all about. I watched him closely as he stepped on stage as a coach in front of hundreds of dedicated fans, guiding everyone from millionaires and A-list celebrities to authors, artists, and computer geeks. I saw a guy that seemed incredibly happy traveling across the world with his longtime girlfriend and closest friends. When it was time to return home from beautiful vacations to places like Bali, Thailand, and Rome, he boarded a jet to Newport Coast, California, back to his mansion overlooking the Pacific Ocean. 10 · H I G H E R S TAT U S This guy had it pretty damn good. How did it happen for him? How did this twenty-seven-year-old kid with a high school diploma and no college degree accomplish so much in such a short period of time? After all, this was a guy who had been sharing a 500-square-foot apartment with roommates and unsuccessfully nagging the landlord to fix the broken air conditioner. How did he transform himself from a painfully shy, unhappy, low-status person with floundering relationships, no money, and no future prospects to an inspired, high-status multimillionaire with great relationships, boundless energy, and a team of more than 200,000 people spread throughout 125 countries who trusted and followed his every move? He wasn’t just living a high-status life, but he was reaping all of the benefits that came with it. I was completely fascinated. It’s surreal for me to sit here and try to understand the truth about this particular guy. Why? Because he’s me. His story is my story, but it can also be yours. HOW IT STARTED At twenty years old, I had never had a girlfriend. I had barely even kissed a girl at that point. I was a six-foot-tall, healthy, good-looking guy, but I had big problems with I N T R O D U C T I O N · 11 girls. I was incredibly shy and just never knew what to say around them. My solution was usually just to avoid them at all costs. The possibility of rejection scared the shit out of me. I had just transferred to Michigan State University, my fourth college in four years. A lot of my good buddies went to MSU, and they were pumped to take me to my first frat party. I had heard all of their stories about parties and girls, but it was finally my time to experience it. We got to the frat house, a huge, 10,000-square foot building with three floors full of alcohol, drugs, and inebriated college kids. I was decked out in what I like to call the “average person uniform,” which consisted of a nice button-up shirt, blue jeans, Vans shoes, and gelled-up hair. This outfit screams conformity—I was a sheep following the herd. My friends all looked the same, but I quickly learned they had far surpassed me in the social scene. Within five minutes of arriving at the party, my friends had already started talking to a group of girls. Three minutes later, one of my buddies had one of the girls thrown over his shoulder, spinning her around as she giggled. Another friend was breathing fire out of his mouth as another girl applauded him. These guys just had it rolling—they knew exactly what to do. One by one, they each paired up and 12 · H I G H E R S TAT U S left the party until it was just me and the last girl from the group, a cute Midwesterner with blonde hair and a little button nose. “Shit,” I thought to myself. “I guess I’ve got to try to talk to her.” I approached her and ran through the same boring interview process that dooms most conversations with new people. “Hey, what’s your name? Where are you from? What’s your major?” It was terrible—just the most clichéd questions you can ask someone. Of course, I wasn’t really interested in the answers, and she could tell. After about thirty seconds, I noticed her eyes darting around the room, looking for anyone else she could talk to. “Listen, it was really nice meeting you, but I’ve got to go find my friends,” she said as she turned her back. In less than a minute, I had gone from meeting a girl to having her walk away from me, leaving me alone with only my red Solo Cup to cling to. At that moment, I knew I had to change something. I N T R O D U C T I O N · 13 ATTRACTING ATTENTION As soon as she walked away, I bailed on the frat party and sprinted directly back to my apartment. I was frustrated, I was embarrassed, and I was tired of failing. Something had to change. I set a new, bold personal goal: to become the world’s greatest seducer. I know, I know, it sounds a little puerile, but that’s how motivated I was to become more self-confident around others. I gathered all the psy- chology material I could get my hands on and immersed myself in learning about the ins and outs of both male and female psyches. Polarities, spiritualities, energies, sexual chakras—you name it, I read about it. A few weeks later, I returned to the same frat house, only this time I was prepared with new techniques, tricks, and talking points. And guess what? It worked, because I was actually able to hold a conversation with a girl for a few minutes. It was progress. The following weekend, I was able to land the phone numbers of not one, but two girls in my apartment building. More progress. I was getting pretty damn good at talking to girls, but it still wasn’t perfect. I had no trouble talking to most girls at parties or at bars—unless they were stunningly beautiful. If I felt like a girl was way out of my league, I had no chance. Someone had to be attracting these girls, right? Once I started to pay attention to the kind of guys that dated 14 · H I G H E R S TAT U S these girls, it became clear: they didn’t use any special techniques or pickup lines, and they damn sure didn’t need to consult textbooks as thick as phone books for advice. So, what was different? It was simple, but I had never thought to look for it before: they carried them- selves differently. They moved differently, looked at people differently, and spoke with a different tonality than the average person. There was a certain calm and cool demeanor they exuded, and girls picked up on those little subconscious signals. I also noticed the most successful, respected, and sought-after girls exhibited the same traits. It wasn’t a coincidence. I didn’t realize it at the time, but that was my first introduction to the idea of “high status.” These people were literally broadcasting the high-status signal to everyone around, and it was responsible for all the great things they were going to get and achieve in life. One of my favorite quotes comes from Jerry Sternin, who helped pioneer the concept of positive deviance. He said, “It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than think your way into a new way of acting.” In other words, what you do is more important than what you think. That was the difference between me and the other more confident, more successful guys. So many of the self-help books and personal-development gurus available today focus on changing our beliefs and what