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01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page i Body Language FOR DUMmIES ‰ 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page ii 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page iii Body Language FOR DUMmIES ‰ by Elizabeth Kuhnke 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page iv Body Language For Dummies® Published by John Wiley & Sons, Ltd The Atrium Southern Gate Chichester West Sussex PO19 8SQ England E-mail (for orders and customer service enquires): [email protected] Visit our Home Page on www.wiley.com Copyright © 2007 John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West Sussex, England Published by John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West Sussex All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or trans- mitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning or other- wise, except under the terms of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 or under the terms of a licence issued by the Copyright Licensing Agency Ltd, 90 Tottenham Court Road, London, W1T 4LP, UK, without the permission in writing of the Publisher. Requests to the Publisher for permission should be addressed to the Permissions Department, John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, The Atrium, Southern Gate, Chichester, West Sussex, PO19 8SQ, England, or emailed to [email protected], or faxed to (44) 1243 770620. Trademarks: Wiley, the Wiley Publishing logo, For Dummies, the Dummies Man logo, A Reference for the Rest of Us!, The Dummies Way, Dummies Daily, The Fun and Easy Way, Dummies.com and related trade dress are trademarks or registered trademarks of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. and/or its affiliates in the United States and other countries, and may not be used without written permission. All other trademarks are the property of their respective owners. Wiley Publishing, Inc., is not associated with any product or vendor mentioned in this book. LIMIT OF LIABILITY/DISCLAIMER OF WARRANTY: THE PUBLISHER, THE AUTHOR, AND ANYONE ELSE INVOLVED IN PREPARING THIS WORK MAKE NO REPRESENTATIONS OR WARRANTIES WITH RESPECT TO THE ACCURACY OR COMPLETENESS OF THE CONTENTS OF THIS WORK AND SPECIFICALLY DIS- CLAIM ALL WARRANTIES, INCLUDING WITHOUT LIMITATION WARRANTIES OF FITNESS FOR A PAR- TICULAR PURPOSE. NO WARRANTY MAY BE CREATED OR EXTENDED BY SALES OR PROMOTIONAL MATERIALS. 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British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data: A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library. ISBN: 978-0-470-51291-3 Printed and bound in Great Britain by Bell and Bain Ltd, Glasgow 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page v About the Author Elizabeth Kuhnkeholds a Bachelor’s degree in Speech and Communications from Northwestern University, and a Masters degree in Theatre Arts. For over 20 years, Elizabeth has worked with individuals and groups to bolster their personal impact and communication skills. Before moving to Britain, Elizabeth acted throughout the United States on the stage, radio, and television. In addition to designing and delivering university programmes in voice and movement, she also taught acting skills to students and professionals. In the United Kingdom, Elizabeth applies her theatrical expertise and psycho- logical insight with a rock-solid business approach. She works at top level with FTSE 100 companies and leading professional firms to provide both one-to-one and group coaching in key areas relating to interpersonal commu- nication and image projection. Coming from diverse backgrounds including accountancy, law, and telecommunications, Elizabeth’s clients consistently achieve their goals and have fun getting there. Her keys to communication are based on the simple principle of demonstrating respect, establishing rapport, and achieving results. A highly entertaining speaker, Elizabeth is a popular choice on the conference circuit, and is often quoted in the media addressing issues concerning confi- dence, voice, body language, and communication skills–all the ingredients that create a positive impact. For further information about Elizabeth, visit her Web site at www. kuhnkecommunication.com. 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page vi 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page vii Dedication To Mom–for fortitude, finances, and fun. To Dad–for presence, perseverance, and all those clippings. I love you both. Author’s Acknowledgements Without friends, family, clients, and colleagues encouraging, nurturing, and spurring me along, this book would not now be in your hands. Allow me, if you will, to acknowledge but a small sampling of the support team. The Author’s Angels: Kate Burton, my buddy and fellow For Dummiesauthor who believed I was the person for the job; Alison Yates who stuck with me when lesser mortals would have tossed in the towel; and Rachael Chilvers, whose marvellous cheerios brightened many a dark and dreary day. Shaun Todd. An extraordinary coach and valued colleague. Caroline Beery and Maria Jicheva who opened my eyes to diversity. Neil Ginger and Jean Roberts for photos and fun. All of my clients. You’re stars. Keep breathing. Toby Blundell who keeps me on track and makes me laugh. Karl, Max, and Kristina. My joys. Henry, ever faithful, always there. As for the rest of the gang, you’ll find yourselves within these pages. I am blessed to know you all. 01_512913 ffirs.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page viii Publisher’s Acknowledgements We’re proud of this book; please send us your comments through our Dummies online registration form located at www.dummies.com/register/. Some of the people who helped bring this book to market include the following: Acquisitions, Editorial, and Media Composition Services Development Project Coordinators: Erin Smith, Project Editor: Rachael Chilvers Jennifer Theriot Development Editor:Tracy Barr Layout and Graphics: Barbara Moore, Brent Savage, Rashell Smith, Content Editor:Steve Edwards Alicia B. South, Christine Williams Commissioning Editor:Alison Yates Proofreaders: JohnGreenough, Copy Editor: Anne O’Rorke Melanie Hoffman Proofreader:Andy Finch Indexer:Claudia Bourbeau Technical Editor: DrPeter Bull Executive Editor: Jason Dunne Executive Project Editor: Daniel Mersey Cover Photo:© GettyImages/Tony Anderson Photography:Ginger Photography www.gingerphoto.co.uk Cartoons: Rich Tennant www.the5thwave.com Special Help:Jennifer Bingham Publishing and Editorial for Consumer Dummies Diane Graves Steele, Vice President and Publisher, Consumer Dummies Joyce Pepple, Acquisitions Director, Consumer Dummies Kristin A. Cocks, Product Development Director, Consumer Dummies Michael Spring, Vice President and Publisher, Travel Kelly Regan,Editorial Director, Travel Publishing for Technology Dummies Andy Cummings,Vice President and Publisher, Dummies Technology/General User Composition Services Gerry Fahey,Vice President of Production Services Debbie Stailey,Director of Composition Services 02_512913 ftoc.qxp 9/14/07 9:25 PM Page ix Contents at a Glance Introduction.................................................................1 Part I: In the Beginning Was the Gesture .......................7 Chapter 1:Defining Body Language ................................................................................9 Chapter 2: Looking Closer at Non-verbal Gestures......................................................33 Part II: Starting at the Top..........................................43 Chapter 3: Heading to the Heart of the Matter.............................................................45 Chapter 4: Facial Expressions.........................................................................................61 Chapter 5: The Eyes Have It............................................................................................75 Chapter 6: Lip Reading....................................................................................................91 Part III: The Trunk: Limbs and Roots..........................105 Chapter 7: Take It From the Torso................................................................................107 Chapter 8: Arming Yourself...........................................................................................125 Chapter 9: It’s in the Palm of Your Hand.....................................................................139 Chapter 10: Standing Your Ground..............................................................................165 Chapter 11: Playing with Props....................................................................................179 Part IV: Putting the Body into Social and Business Context................................................193 Chapter 12: Territorial Rights and Regulations..........................................................195 Chapter 13: Dating and Mating.....................................................................................213 Chapter 14: Interviewing, Influencing, and Playing Politics......................................229 Chapter 15: Crossing the Cultural Divide....................................................................245 Chapter 16: Reading the Signs......................................................................................257 Part V: The Part of Tens ............................................263 Chapter 17: Ten Ways to Spot Deception....................................................................265 Chapter 18: Ten Ways to Reveal Your Attractiveness................................................271 Chapter 19: Ten Ways to Find Out About Someone Without Asking.......................277 Chapter 20: Ten Ways to Improve Your Silent Communication................................285 Index.......................................................................291

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