1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Now Completely Revised and More Romantic Than Ever

466 Pages·2007·2.73 MB·English

by  Gregory Godek

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Title Page
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Gregory J.P. Godek
Life is simply
too short not to
be romantic.
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Originally published in 1999 as 1001 Ways to
—Boston Magazine
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Dedications
•To the romantics—who simply want more.
•To the cynics (the romantics of tomorrow).
•To those who want to fall in love again.
•To those who want to save romance
from the scientists and psycholo- Dedication Page
gists—and put it back into the hands Theme Song:
of the poets and dreamers and
“[This One Goes Out
lovers.
To] the One I Love,”
•To my son, the future author, R.E.M.
Thomas Valentine Godek.
•And to my bride, my best friend, my
soul mate, Karyn Lynn Godek…(Who is
more fun than you and me? Nobody.)
“I like your book 1001 Ways
ToBe Romantic! It will fill
your brain with all kinds of
wonderful romantic ideas.I
like number 584!”
—Oprah Winfrey
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Also by Greg Godek
• 10,000 Ways to Say I Love You
• Love Coupons
• ILove You Coupons
• Romantic Questions: 264 Outrageous, Sweet and
Profound Questions
• Your Relationship Report Card “These books are worth
memorizing.”
—Boston Herald
Theme Song:
“Paperback Writer,”
The Beatles
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Acknowledgments
• Deborah Werksman
• Bruce Jones
• Kate Broughton
• Dale Koppel
Acknowledgments
• Mary Ann Sabia
• ary-Lynne Bohn Page Theme Song:
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• Bonnie Robak “Thank You,”
Christina Aguilera
• John & Jean
• Warren & Judy
• Steven Jobs
• Lou Rizzo & UPS
• Sam & The Group
• Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
“1001 Ways To Be Romantic.
That seems like an awfullot! I
mean,guys,if the first thousand
ideas don’t work—what are the
chances she’s going to stick
around when you say,‘Okay,just
one more’?!”
—Jay Leno,The Tonight Show
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Contents
Introduction..........................1 IDo..................................35
Do’s & Don’ts......................37
Once Upon a Time ................4
Don’ts & Do’s......................39
They Lived Happily
Do ....................................41
Ever After..........................5
Don’t ................................42
Little Things Mean a Lot..........7
You Must Remember This......43
Bigger Is Better......................8
AKiss Is Just a Kiss ..............45
Creative Gifts........................9
ASigh Is Just a Sigh ..............47
Creative Gestures..................10
The Fundamental Things
Romance on a Budget.............12 Apply..............................48
Spare No Expense..................13 As Time Goes By..................50
The Most Important Things (Play It Again, Sam) ..............51
I’ve Learned in Twenty Love Notes (I)......................52
Years of Teaching Romance....14 Love Notes (II)......................53
The Ten Commandments
Freshman Lessons..................55
for Loving Couples..............15
Sophomore Lessons ..............56
Left-Brained*........................16 Junior Lessons......................57
Right-Brained* ....................17 Senior Lessons......................58
Romance for Dummies............19 Le Boudoir............................59
Romance for Smarties............20 La Cuisine............................61
What’s Your Romantic “Style”? Love Notes (III)....................62
(Men) ..............................21 Love Notes (IV)....................63
What’s Your Romantic “Style”?
“I Love You”........................64
(Women) ........................22
“Ai Shite Imasu”....................66
Flowers ..............................23
Be Creative..........................67
Chocolate............................24
Be Prepared..........................68
Jewelry................................26
Always, Always, Always..............70
Perfume..............................27
Never, Never, Never................72
Champagne..........................29
Gifts, Gifts, Gifts..................73
Lingerie..............................30
Sex, Sex, Sex........................74
It’s Not WhatYou Do—............31
Love Notes (V)......................76
—But HowYou Do It................33
Love Notes (VI)......................77
To Do................................34
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Lovesick..............................78 AMonth of Romance:
Prescriptions for Love............79 Week 4............................117
Help for the Hopeless............80 The Golden Rules
Hope for the Helpless............82 of Romance........................118
Rules Were Made to
Travel Tips..........................83
Be Broken........................119
ASuitcase Full of Romance ....84
Be My Valentine!..................121
Fun & Games ......................85
Kiss Me, You Fool!..............122
Weird & Wacky ....................86
The Mathematics
Cats & Dogs ........................87
of Romance ....................123
Satin & Lace........................89
The Calculus of Love............125
Strategies & Examples............90
Couplehood ......................127
Bed & Breakfasts ..................92
Parenthood........................129
Gifts & Presents....................94
Erotica..............................130
Presents & Gifts....................96
Exotica..............................131
Daily & Weekly ....................97
Creating an A+ Relationship ..132
Monthly & Yearly..................98
The Relationship
Yin & Yang ........................99
Report Card....................135
Yang & Yin........................100
Common Sense ..................137
Mozart..............................101
Uncommon Sense................138
Elvis ................................102
It’s the Thought That Counts....139
Lame Excuses (#’s 1-4)..........104
Actions Speak Louder Than
Lame Excuses (#’s 5-8) ........105
Words ............................141
Lame Excuses (#’s 9-12)........106
S.W.A.K...........................142
Lame Excuses (#’s 13-14) ......107
G.M.F.L...........................143
For Men Only....................108
Can’t Buy Me Love................144
For Women Only................109
IWant to Hold Your Hand....146
For Singles Only..................110 Help!................................147
For Marrieds Only................111 All You Need Is Love............148
AMonth of Romance: At Home ..........................150
Week 1............................113 At Work ............................151
AMonth of Romance:
Sweet Stuff ........................152
Week 2............................114
Kid Stuff ..........................153
AMonth of Romance:
Funny Stuff........................154
Week 3............................116
Cool Stuff..........................155
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Dirty Stuff..........................157 Slightly Outrageous..............196
QuiteOutrageous..................197
Sex!......................................158
Slightly Naughty..................198
Surprise!..............................159
QuiteNaughty ....................200
Celebrate!..........................160
Outrageous!........................162 Shopping for Dummies........201
Passionate!..........................163 Advanced Shopping
Strategies........................202
Games People Play ..............164
Games Lovers Play ..............165 Words of Love/
Shakespeare’s..................204
Off the Wall........................166
Words of Love/Poetic............206
Onthe Wall........................167
Words of Love/YourWords......207
The Myths of Romance (I)......168
Words of Love/
The Myths of Romance (II)....169
the Ancients ..................209
Men Arefrom Mars ............170
Memorize This List..............210
Women Are from Venus........172
Memorize This List, Too ......212
Men Are(Not)
Togetherness......................213
from Mars*......................173
Twogetherness ....................215
Women Are (Not)
Two..................................216
from Venus*....................175
Two (II)............................218
Tuning In..........................176
Gift Ideas (I)......................237
Fine Tuning........................178
Gift Ideas (II) ....................238
Starstruck!..........................180
Gift Giving for Dummies......239
Lovestruck!..........................181
Gift Wrapping
I’m in the Mood for Love......183
for Dummies..................240
I’m in the Mood
Television..........................241
for Chocolate..................184
Radio ..............................242
The Gospel According
1-800-ROMANCE ............244
to Godek........................186
www.romance.com ..............245
The Gospel According
Concepts (I)......................246
to Godek (Revisited)..........187
Concepts (II) ....................248
Getting Down To Business ....188
Erotica (I) ........................250
Funny Business....................189 Erotica (II) ........................251
Resources (I)......................190 Happy Birthday! (I) ............253
Resources (II) ....................192 Happy Birthday! (II)............254
Resources (III)....................193 Money Makes the
Resources (IV)....................195 World Go ’Round ............256
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Love Makes the Do-It-Yourself ..................276
World Go ’Round ............257 Hide-and-Seek ..................277
Do It Outside ....................258 Creativity Exercises..............278
Do It in Public ..................259 Exercising Your Creativity ....279
Just Do It! ........................260 Go Away! ..........................281
Just a Little Bit Naughty........261 Bon Voyage! ......................282
The Gift of Time................263 Cars ................................283
Time for Love....................264 Sports..............................284
For Singles Only (I) ............265 Dining In..........................285
For Singles Only (II)............266 Dining Out ......................286
For Marrieds Only (I)..........267 By the Number ..................287
For Marrieds Only (II) ........268 By the Book ......................288
Merry Christmas ................269 Engaging Ideas ..................289
Happy Hanukkah ................271 Will You Marry Me?............290
Happy Anniversary..............272
Marriage Matters ................291
Happy Birthday ..................273
Monogamy—NotMonotony..........292
Custom-Made....................274
(More) Kid Stuff................294
One-of-a-Kind..................275
(More) Funny Stuff ............295
Bonus Pages: Beyond 1001
The 99 Best Love Songs of the Best Love Song Duets ..................230
Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Best BroadwayLove Songs..........232
Centuries (#’s 1-25)............220 Best Romantic Movies & Best
The 99 Best Love Songs of the Romantic Movie Couples......233
Twentieth (and Twenty-First) Best Romantic Comedies ........234
Centuries (#’s 26-50)..........221 Great Date Movies ................235
The 99 Best Love Songs of the (More) Great Date Movies ......236
Twentieth (and Twenty-First)
Century (#’s 51-75) ............222
The 99 Best Love Songs of the
Twentieth (and Twenty-First)
Century (#’s 76-99)............223
Songs to Help
Express Your Feelings..........224