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You Never Call! You Never Write! “Hello Momma” (or “Phone Call from Momma”)—George Jessel’s one-sided conver- sations with his mother—was the entertainer’s trademark skit. “Hello Mama, this is George. Isn’t it nice to have your own phone? What? Nobody calls you? Even before you had the phone, nobody called you either?” The monologue went on from there, with Jessel embellishing it every time. (Carl Rose) You Never Call! You Never Write! A History of the Jewish Mother joyce antler 1 2007 1 Oxford University Press, Inc., publishes works that further Oxford University’s objective of excellence in research, scholarship, and education. Oxford New York Auckland Cape Town Dar es Salaam Hong Kong Karachi Kuala Lumpur Madrid Melbourne Mexico City Nairobi New Delhi Shanghai Taipei Toronto With offices in Argentina Austria Brazil Chile Czech Republic France Greece Guatemala Hungary Italy Japan Poland Portugal Singapore South Korea Switzerland Thailand Turkey Ukraine Vietnam Copyright © 2007 by Joyce Antler Published by Oxford University Press, Inc. 198 Madison Avenue, New York, NY 10016 www.oup.com Oxford is a registered trademark of Oxford University Press All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior permission of Oxford University Press. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Antler, Joyce. You never call! you never write! : a history of the Jewish mother / Joyce Antler. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-0-19-514787-2 1. Jewish women. 2. Mothers. 3. Jewish women—Humor. 4. Mothers—Humor. 5. Jewish women in literature. 6. Mothers in literature. 7. Jewish women in motion pictures. 8. Mothers in motion pictures. 9. Feminist criticism. 10. Stereotypes (Social psychology) I. Title. HQ1172.A58 2007 306.874'3089924—dc22 2006036249 1 3 5 7 9 8 6 4 2 Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper To Rachel and Lauren and in memory of my mother and grandmother The author’s mother, Sophie Kessler, ca. The author’s grandmother, Tillie Sparaga, ca. 1930. 1910. This page intentionally left blank CONTENTS Acknowledgments ix Introduction 1 THE NAGGING STEREOTYPE 1 “My Yiddishe Mama”: The Multiple Faces of the Immigrant Jewish Mother 15 2 Molly Goldberg: “The Prototype of the Jewish Mother” in the Twentieth Century 47 3 Margaret Mead and Ruth Benedict: Social Science Uncovers the Jewish “Family Plot” 73 4 From Marjorie Morningstar to Jennie Grossinger: The Suburbs, the Catskills, and the Jewish Mother Joke 101 5 “American Mother of the Year” Versus Monster Mothers: Will the Real Sophie Portnoy Please Stand Up? 123 THE NEW FACE OF THE JEWISH MOTHER 6 The Mother and the Movement: Feminism Constructs the Jewish Mother 149 7 Roseanneand The Nanny: The Jewish Mother as Postmodern Spectacle 169 viii contents 8 From Second-Generation Memoirs to Women’s History: Reclaiming the Missing Mother 193 9 “They Raised Beautiful Families”: Jewish Mothers Narrate Their Lives 215 10 We Are All Jewish Mothers: Mothering in the New Millennium 233 Epilogue 257 Notes 259 Archival Sources 301 Index 303 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS The first inspiration for this book was my late mother, Sophie Kessler, who modeled my experience of what a loving Jewish mother could be. I am indebted to my niece, Kim Shechtman, whose insights enriched my per- ceptions of my mother’s legacy. This book has had many other Jewish mothers. I am grateful to them collectively—especially the many historians and other scholars and writers whose work stimulated my thinking—and individually, for there were many wonderful colleagues who intervened in various ways to provide advice, friend- ship, and, when necessary, even chicken soup. My goal of melding the social history of American Jewish women—how they lived their everyday lives—with the ideas and myths that influenced popular perceptions of them could not have taken root without such camaraderie. For twenty years, I have been privileged to be part of a wonderful writers’ group in Boston that has known this project from its birth, nurtured it in its in- fancy and early life, and helped me raise it to maturity. I am grateful to its members—Fran Malino, Megan Marshall, Lois Rudnick, Sue Quinn, and Ju- dith Tick—for their friendship and encouragement. Several colleagues read the manuscript in its totality and provided com- mentary that improved it in numerous ways. Susan Ware’s willingness to share ideas with me was critical. Penina Migdal Glazer and Susan Quinn also pro- vided cogent comments at a crucial stage of the work. For their generosity, knowledge, and helpful critiques, I am grateful as well to Janet Burstein, Patty Margolis, Riv-Ellen Prell, Gail Reimer, Judith Rosenbaum, and Stephen

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In You Never Call, You Never Write, Joyce Antler provides an illuminating and often amusing history of one of the best-known figures in popular culture--the Jewish Mother. Whether drawn as self-sacrificing or manipulative, in countless films, novels, radio and television programs, stand-up comedy, a
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