Yoav Berenson / The Alchemy of Love

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Yoav Berenson / The Alchemy of Love
Yoav Berenson
The Alchemy
of Love
The Journey to the Soul Mate
Yoav Berenson
The Alchemy of Love
Hebrew copyright © 1996
Gal Publishing, Inc., Tel-Aviv, ISRAEL
First Printing 1996, Second Printing 1997
Translation copyright © 1996
Yoav Berenson, All rights reserved

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Translation: Dalia Cahana-Amitay
Editing: Dalia Cahana-Amitay
Design of cover: Yoav Berenson
Thank you Karen, for the inspiration
and for the wonderful experience
that only few have the chance to undergo.
Table of Contents
Preface..........................................................................11
Part I
Why do we Search for Love?
Chapter 1: We were Born Whole
1. We were all Born as a Wholeness of a Single Force.17
2. Our Essence if Made up of a Feminine and a
Masculine Side.........................................................20
3. Inner Wholeness is a Paradox...................................23
Chapter 2: The Inner Split
1. We Lost our Completeness Once we Allowed a
Split within Ourselves...............................................25
2. The Inner Split Took away Half of our Wholeness....28
3. We Seek our other Half in our Partners Instead
of in ourselves.........................................................40
Chapter 3: Back to the Wholeness
1. In Order to Return to our Wholeness we must
Awaken our Lost Half..............................................43
2. If we Create an Opposite Habit, we can Finally
Find our Way Back to our Inner Completeness.........47
3. Inner Wholeness is the First Step towards the
Alchemy of Love......................................................53
Chapter 4: Food for Thought
1. Answers to your Questions.......................................57
2. The Things that People who Returned to their
Wholeness Say.........................................................96
3. Notes.....................................................................102
Part II
What is the Alchemy of Love?
Chapter 1: The Meeting between a Man and a
Woman
1. Man and Woman are Equal but Different................107
2. Man Needs Earthiness - Woman Needs Spirituality.110
3. The Secret of Attraction between Man and Woman113
Chapter 2: The Desired Unification
1. The Game of Chairs...............................................117
2. It Takes Two to Tango..........................................121
3. The Alchemy of Love: Simultaneous Masculinity
and Femininity.......................................................125
Chapter 3: Two People - One Soul
1. One Communication..............................................129
2. One Sexuality........................................................134
3. One Truth..............................................................137
4. One Commitment...................................................140
5. One God................................................................143
Chapter 4: Food for Thought
1. Answers to your Questions....................................145
2. The Things that People who have Experienced
the Alchemy of Love Say.......................................174
3. Notes.....................................................................181
Part III
Why do we Escape Love?
Chapter 1: Why do Couples Break up?
1. Split People Break up in Order to Discover
their Wholeness.....................................................187
2. Complete People Break up in Order to Return to
their Wholeness.....................................................191
3. Separations are the Result of Fear of Change.........194
Chapter 2: Separation is an Opportunity to Return
to our Wholeness
1. When the Game is Over - the Separation Begins....199
2. In Order to Return to our Wholeness, we First
Need to Set our Partners Free................................203
3. Separation Pushes us towards Inner Wholeness......206
Chapter 3: New Love
1. It‟s Necessary to Wait for the Right Time..............209
2. As Long as we haven‟t Returned to our
Wholeness - we‟re not Ready for Love..................212
3. As Soon as we Return to our Wholeness - a New
Love Appears in our Lives.....................................215
Chapter 4: Food for Thought
1. Answers to your Questions....................................219
2. The Things that People who have Returned to
their Wholeness, as a Result of Separation, Say......237
3. Notes.....................................................................242
Epilogue.....................................................................245
Appendix 1: My Approach to Spiritual Counseling.....249
Appendix 2: Additional Publications...........................257
One Final Acknowledgment .................................... 261
Preface
The alchemy of love is a topic unfamiliar to many. I, myself,
arrived at this wonderful experience a few years ago; until then,
I was completely unaware of it. The moment I touched the
alchemy of love, my curiosity was lit and from then on, I‟ve
dedicated much of my time to exploring this fascinating topic.
What is alchemy? Alchemy is an attempt to unite two pure but
entirely different substances and create, through their
unification, a new substance, which is pure in its own right.
Throughout the history of humanity, alchemists have worked
endlessly on trying to find a formula for creating pure gold out
of different metals, but to this very day, much mystery still
surrounds this endeavor.
The alchemy of love is an attempt to unite two pure but
different elements - a man and a woman. Man and woman, by
definition, are opposites. They are opposites from a
physiological, as well as energetic and spiritual perspectives.
Therefore, the difficulty in truly uniting a man and a woman
into a single pure entity resembles the difficulty involved in
creating gold out of various metals; the alchemy of love, too, is
a field that still remains enigmatic.
The alchemy of love is, in fact, total love. Usually, this is not
the love that we are familiar with from our everyday life,
because the alchemy of love is still considered rare nowadays.
As far as I can tell, this situation is on the verge of change, and
in the next few years we will all be able to enjoy the alchemy of
love. In the alchemy of love, there is complete unification
between man and woman at all levels: their spirits unite into a
single spirit, their consciousness unites into a single insight, and
their emotions merge into a single feeling.
Each of us has been in this world numerous times. Each time,
we‟ve met our “soul mate,” namely, a partner entirely
compatible with us. Each time, we have failed in our attempt to
reach the ultimate unification with them, in our attempt to touch
the alchemy of love. In this incarnation, we each have another
chance to make this giant leap. We all have the opportunity to
create the most magical and beautiful experience that exists in
our world.
This book provides the knowledge and the tools to embark on
this wonderful journey. In a few sentences, I will try to
summarize my message: in order to create a relationship that is
based on the alchemy of love, we must change. We must learn
to be the exact opposite of what we normally are in a
relationship. Only when we change, do we achieve our inner
wholeness, and this wholeness is the key to the alchemy of love
between a man and a woman.
It‟s very easy to remain just the way we are. The real difficulty
is to change and become something different from what we are
used to being. When we entered this world we were whole,
because we were both masculine and feminine. When we grew
a little older - we experienced a split: we turned into either
masculine or feminine. Today, we must return to the wholeness
with which we were born. We must also experience our
opposite side. Only through this can we return to our lost
wholeness, at which point we will be ready to create the
alchemy of love in our lives.
From my personal experience and the experience of other
people with whom I‟d met as a spiritual counselor, it appears
that the return to our wholeness is difficult and frightening to
many of us. Yet, with persistence and a little bit of faith - the
marvelous results do follow. And the results are, indeed,
surprising and amazing. Not only do they touch our love life
and relationships, they affect all of the areas in our life, because
as soon as we change - our whole life, the whole reality in
which we live - changes with us.
The objective of this book is to share knowledge. We live in the
era of communication, in which knowledge becomes
increasingly accessible to all of us. This is the time to use
knowledge, in order to create a change in our life. The
knowledge in this book is simple and easy. I made an effort to
use clear language that everyone can understand, in order to be
sure that the messages in this book are understood by all of us. I
hope that this book will bring about a change in your lives, as it
did to mine.