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Working with Developmental Anxieties in Couple and Family Psychotherapy The family begins with the parental couple; it is they who create the family. This book explores the way in which the child or any member of the family can carry unresolved pro- jections arising from the parents’ families of origin: their family within, and the difficulties this internal family presents for the therapist. The model developed in this book explores psychoanalytically-based ideas about infant development and applies them to the internal world of couples and families. It presents both a clear explanation of these theories as well as case histories that show how these ideas work in practice. The developmental model presented offers an original perspective on the wide range of problems that many couple and family therapists struggle with. These prob- lems can be understood in the context of the family within, the way in which the family of origin dynamics have been internalised. This shared understanding between the couple and family and the therapist provides a path to greater maturity and therefore a greater capacity to cope with life’s vicissitudes. Working with Developmental Anxieties in Couple and Family Psychotherapy presents both a clear theoretical framework for understanding the development of the couple and family, and a practical application for these ideas. Case studies bring the model to life through illustrating both the problems of the family or couple and the difficulties of the work. It will appeal to psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, couples and family therapists. Penny Jools has a PhD and a Clinical Masters in Developmental Psychology. She and her two colleagues and co-editors run a successful private clinic in Annandale, Sydney, that specialises in working with troubled couples and families. She has worked as an individual, couple and family psychotherapist for more than thirty years. Her recent international pub- lications have been on couple psychotherapy. Jenny Berg, MBBS, FRANZCP, is a child adolescent and family psychiatrist and psy- choanalyst. Couple and family psychoanalysis is her area of expertise. She has regularly supervised interested private practitioners, taught child psychiatric trainees, and has been steadfast in maintaining an organisation (the Couple Child and Family Psychotherapy Association of Australasia) that aims to keep these ideas alive within the wider community in Australasia. She has also published internationally in this area. Noela Byrne is a qualified social worker and an individual, couple and family psychotherapist. Until her recent retirement, she had spent over thirty-five years in both the public and private sectors. She has been involved in supervision and teaching to both psychiatrists and psychotherapists in training. Her past publications were in individual, couple and family psychotherapy. ‘Couple relationships are the source of much joy and misery. They have huge significance for the well-being of family members and for the community at large, so they are worth understanding and supporting. This book helps us do just that. It describes the interior landscape of couple relationships, providing a lucid digest of the main psychoanalytic ideas and illuminating the dark valleys that hinder couples in their conscious quest to reach the sunny uplands they seek. It focuses on developmental anxieties associated with relationship problems and illustrates the process of working with these in vivid detail. The combination of clearly sign- posted theory and well-honed clinical experience provides valuable threads that will assist therapists in navigating the often labyrinthine tunnels that make up the internal world of couple relationships.’ Christopher Clulow PhD, Senior Fellow, Tavistock Relationships, London Working with Developmental Anxieties in Couple and Family Psychotherapy The Family Within Edited by Penny Jools, Jenny Berg and Noela Byrne First published 2018 by Routledge 2 Park Square, Milton Park, Abingdon, Oxon OX14 4RN and by Routledge 711 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10017 Routledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business  2018 selection and editorial matter, Penny Jools, Jenny Berg and Noela Byrne; individual chapters, the contributors The right of the editors to be identified as the author of the editorial material, and of the authors for their individual chapters, has been asserted in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced or utilised in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publishers. Trademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data A catalog record for this book has been requested ISBN: 978-1-138-07988-5 (hbk) ISBN: 978-1-138-07989-2 (pbk) ISBN: 978-1-315-11420-0 (ebk) Typeset in Times New Roman by Swales & Willis Ltd, Exeter, Devon, UK Contents Preface ix Acknowledgements x Notes on contributors xi PART I Theory and practice 1 Introduction 3 The family within: a developmental focus on family and couple psychotherapy PENNY JOOLS 1 The couple and family in mind 8 JENNY BERG 2 The developmental framework: how couples and families grow 24 JENNY BERG AND NOELA BYRNE 3 The dynamics of coupledom 42 NOELA BYRNE AND MARIA KOURT 4 Containment and its challenges 60 JENNY BERG AND PENNY JOOLS 5 Finding the patient in couple and family psychotherapy 76 GEORGE HARALAMBOUS AND PENNY JOOLS vi Contents PART II Case studies in developmental anxieties 91 Introduction to Part II 93 PENNY JOOLS 6 A bad moment with the light: considering the impact of autistic-contiguous anxieties in couples’ sexual difficulties 96 JENNY BERG 7 Gathering fragments: steps in the evolution of a creative coupling 112 JULIA MEYEROWITZ-KATZ 8 Understanding and working with no-sex couples: a developmental perspective 130 LISSY ABRAHAMS 9 Children of Oedipus: Oedipal anxieties in couple and family work 146 PENNY JOOLS PART III Attachment Theory and affective learning groups: applications of our model 161 Introduction to Part III 163 PENNY JOOLS 10 Couple psychotherapy through the lens of Attachment Theory 164 NOELA BYRNE 11 Learning from experience: the use of affective learning groups 176 LAURIE LOVELL-SIMONS AND PENNY JOOLS Concluding thoughts 197 PENNY JOOLS Glossary 206 Meaning of terms and application to couple and family work PENNY JOOLS Index 221 Preface The inspiration for this book arose from a series of lectures offered by the Couple Child and Family Psychotherapy Association of Australasia (CCAFPAA) to clinicians who were interested in learning more about object relations theory and its application to psychotherapy with families or couples. From this starting point, the idea evolved into producing a book that would cover both a theoretical framework for the psychotherapeutic work with troubled families and couples but also the application of the theory, covering the process and interventions by the therapist. Many of the chapters in the book have been written collaboratively, reflecting the ways in which our group has developed their thinking and clinical practice. Originally, CCAFPAA was set up in 1998 as a state-based organisation known as the New South Wales Institute of Family Psychotherapy. Central to the establishment of the institute was Dr Charles Enfield, a child psychiatrist who had trained at the Tavistock clinic and who brought the ideas of Fairbairn and object relation family therapy with him in 1976 when he was appointed as Head of the Psychiatry Department at the Royal Alexandra Hospital for Children in Sydney. As the association grew, a greater focus developed on the dynamics of the cou- ple, who were regarded as the architects of the family. Often, when a child was presented as the problem, family work changed to couple work as the parents were able to acknowledge their part in the family’s difficulties. It is hoped that the chapters in this book will contribute to a greater understand- ing of the ‘family within’, that is, to the internal objects that play such an important role in every intimate relationship. Acknowledgements This book has a long history. We would like to thank all the members of the Couple Child and Family Psychotherapy Association of Australasia (CCAFPAA) who have contributed to it, either directly in the form of their written contributions, or indirectly through the valuable insights they have provided through supervision groups. We would like to thank Maurice Whelan for his helpful comments at a critical time in the book’s development. We are grateful to Jill and David Scharff for the encouragement they gave us from our first meeting in New Orleans in 2004. We would also like to thank Jeanne Magagna for her support and enthusiasm for the project. We would also like to acknowledge our husbands, Gary Bryson, David Cole and Brad Freeman for their support and critical input during the book’s long gestation. We would like to thank the couples and families who have given us permission to use their experiences, which not only form an important part of the book, but have contributed invaluably to our therapeutic understanding. Lastly we would like to thank each other for the way we have supported and extended each other in our work and in this volume. Penny Jools Jenny Berg Noela Byrne Permissions acknowledgement Excerpt from ‘What I Believe’ from Two Cheers for Democracy by E.M. Forster. Copyright 1939 by E.M. Forster. Copyright  Renewed 1987 by E.M. Forster. Reprinted by permission of Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. All rights reserved. Also reprinted by permission of The Society of Authors, London. Contributors Editors Dr Penny Jools, clinical psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist and psychoanalyst Penny has a PhD and a Clinical Masters in Developmental Psychology. Twenty years ago she and three colleagues set up a successful private clinic in Annandale that specialised in working with troubled couples and families. Dr Jools is past president of CCAFPAA, (Couple Child and Family Psychotherapy Association of Australasia). Her recent international publications have been on couple psy- chotherapy. Now retired from clinical practice she has used the opportunity to bring the work of the contributors into this volume, while miraculously not badly offending any of them. She offers supervision and consultation from Hobart where she now lives. She is a voracious reader of fiction. Dr Jenny Berg, MBBS, FRANZCP, child adolescent and family psychiatrist Jenny originally trained as a child psychiatrist and was fortunate enough to encounter her great friends and colleagues, Noela Byrne and Penny Jools, early in her career, to whom she is deeply grateful for the way things have turned out. Together they developed a shared interest in the application of psychodynamic principles to working with couples and families which has continued for over twenty-five years. Couple and family psychoanalysis is her area of expertise. Over these years she has continued to develop her understanding and skills, has contrib- uted to the international discourse in this area and made friends along the way, has regularly supervised interested private practitioners, has taught child psychiatric trainees, and has been steadfast in maintaining an organisation, CCAFPAA that aims to keep these ideas alive within the wider community in Australasia. She hopes this book might contribute a little towards that later ambition. Noela Byrne, social worker and psychotherapist Noela is a qualified social worker and an individual, couple and family psycho- therapist. Until her recent retirement, she had spent over thirty-five years in both the public and private sectors. She is a member of the New South Wales Institute

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