Workbook to accompany ending spouse/partner abuse : a psychoeducational approach for individuals and couples

149 Pages·2000·5.5 MB·English

by  Geffner

WORKBOOK
to Accompany
ENDING
SPOUSE / PARTNER ABUSE
Robert Geffner, PhD, ABPN, is the Founder and President of the Family Violence and Sexual
Assault Institute now located in Fort Worth, TX, and San Diego, CA, he is a Licensed Psycholo-
gist and a Licensed Marriage, Family & Child Counselor who was the clinical director of a large
private-practice mental health clinic in Texas for 15 years, and is a former Professor of Psychol-
ogy at the University of Texas at Tyler. Dr. Geffner is currently a Clinical Research Professor of
Psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology in San Diego. He is also the edi-
tor of the Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma, and the Family Violence &
Sexual Assault Bulletin, and co-editor of the Journal of Emotional Abuse, all internationally dis-
seminated. He has a doctorate in psychology and postdoctorate training in clinical psychology,
neuropsychology, child psychology, family violence, child maltreatment, forensic psychology, and
diagnostic assessment. He has a Diplomate in Clinical Neuropsychology from the American
Board of Professional Neuropsychology. He has served as an adjunct faculty member for the
National Judicial College since 1990. His publications include treatment manuals and books
concerning family violence, and numerous book chapters and journal articles concerning spouse/
partner abuse, child abuse, child psychology, forensic issues, neuropsychology and psychologi-
cal assessment. He has served as a consultant and grant reviewer for the National Center for
Child Abuse and Neglect, the Department of Health and Human Services, the National Institutes
of Mental Health, and other national and state agencies, and has served on various national and
state committees dealing with various aspects of family psychology, family violence, and child
abuse. He was a founding member and former President of the Board of the East Texas Crisis
Center and Shelter for Battered Women and their Children in Tyler, TX. He has been involved in
teaching, training, research, and private practice for over 22 years.
Carol M. Mantooth, MS, is the Director of Psychoeducational and Case Worker Services at the
Andrews Center, a community mental health agency in Tyler, TX. She has been employed ni var-
ious clinical capacities for Andrews Center for seven years. She is a former Director of Client
Services at the East Texas Crisis Center where much of this treatment program was developed.
She has also been employed by Tyler Junior College as a Psychology Instructor. She has a Master
of Science degree in Psychology from the University of Texas at Tyler. She assisted in developing
the couple counseling program at the Crisis Center, and she helped develop and implement the
counseling program for couples in groups, for battered and formerly battered women in groups,
and for batterers in groups.
WORKBOOK
to Accompany
ENDING
SPOUSE / PARTNER ABUSE
A Psychoeducational
Approach for Individuals
and Couples
Robert Ceffner
with Carol Man tooth
Springer Publishing Company
New York
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Contents
I Forms and Questionnaires
Demographic Data Sheet 3
Client Social History 4
Confidentiality Statement 10
Confidentiality Release 11
Client Consent Form 12
Consent for Follow-Up 13
Precounseling Questionnaire 14
Nonsuicide and No-Harm Contract 16
Nonviolence Contract 17
Aggressive Behavior Inventory 18
Progress Evaluation Form 19
Treatment Program Handouts
II Foundations and Brief Interventions
Session 1 Ground Rules and Assumptions; House of Abuse
Weekly Behavior Inventory 25
Group Orientation 26
Counseling and Support Group Assumptions and Rules 29
The Nine Basic Rules 30
House of Abuse 31
Emotional/Psychological Abuse 32
Sexual Abuse and Violence 33
Session 2 Safety-and-Control Plans
Weekly Behavior Inventory 34
Safety-and-Control Plan 35
Session 3 Basic Anger Management
Weekly Behavior Inventory 36
Basic Anger Management—What About Anger? 37
Appropriate Alternatives to Violence 40
Session 4 Effective Stress Control
Weekly Behavior Inventory 41
Stress-Reduction Techniques 42
Methods of Relaxation 43
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VI Contents
Session 5 Desensitization Techniques for Reducing Anxiety and Anger
Weekly Behavior Inventory 44
Reducing Stress and Anger 45
An Anger Ladder 46
Cycle-of-Violence Behaviors 47
The Cycle Theory of Violence 49
Session 6 Social Roots of Aggression and Alcoholism Issues
Weekly Behavior Inventory 50
Alcohol and Abuse: What's the Connection? 51
III Communicating and Expressing Feelings
Session 7 Communication: "Fair Fighting, Dirty Fighting"
Weekly Behavior Inventory 55
"Fair-Fighting" Rules 56
"Dirty Fighter's" Instruction Manual 58
Session 8 Communication: Rules and Barriers
Weekly Behavior Inventory 63
Family Communication Rules 64
Session 9 Communication: Expression and Listening
Weekly Behavior Inventory 69
"I" Messages 70
Effective Expression and Listening 71
Six Blocks to Listening 74
Session 10 Communication: Handling Criticism
Weekly Behavior Inventory 75
Handling Criticism 76
How to Offer Criticism 79
Session 11 Identification of Feelings
Weekly Behavior Inventory 80
How Do You Feel Today? 81
Jealousy: Taming the Green-Eyed Monster 82
Session 12 Emotional Awareness and Expressing Feelings
Weekly Behavior Inventory 83
Emotional Awareness and Expression 84
Anger Styles 85
Abusive-Incidents Graph 86
IV Self-Management and Assertiveness
Session 13 Dynamics of Self-Esteem
Weekly Behavior Inventory 89
Self-Esteem Dynamics 90
Self-Concept Homework 92
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Inventory of Strengths and Weaknesses 93
Self-Concept Life Graph 94
Session 14 Self-Esteem Enhancement
Weekly Behavior Inventory 95
Techniques for Changing Self-Esteem 96
Session 15 Self-Talk and Irrational Beliefs
Weekly Behavior Inventory 99
Faulty Self-Talk 100
Unproductive Self-Talk 101
Session 16 Changing Self-Talk
Weekly Behavior Inventory 102
Using Cognitive Reframing 103
Changing Your Self-Talk 104
Session 17 Stress Inoculation for Anger Control
Weekly Behavior Inventory 105
Counters 106
Coping Plan for Stressor Situations 107
Session 18 Dynamics of Assertiveness
Weekly Behavior Inventory 108
Dynamics of Assertiveness 109
What Is Assertive Behavior? 110
Benefits of Assertiveness 111
Situations and Behaviors 112
Session 19 Becoming More Assertive
Weekly Behavior Inventory 113
Tips on Assertiveness 114
Learning to Say "No" 115
Compliments 116
Asking for What You Want 118
V Intimacy Issues and Relapse Prevention
Session 20 Problem Solving, Decision Making, and Negotiation
Weekly Behavior Inventory 121
Problem Solving 122
Session 21 Most Violent and/or Most Frightening Incident
Weekly Behavior Inventory 123
Power-and-Control Wheel 124
Session 23 Intimacy and Love
Weekly Behavior Inventory 125
Intimacy and Love 126
Intimacy Assignment 129
Equality Wheel: Nonthreatening Behavior 131
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Session 25 Relapse-Prevention Plans
Weekly Behavior Inventory 132
Relapse-Prevention Plan 133
Session 26 Future Plans
Weekly Behavior Inventory 134
Transfer of Change 135
Monthly Sessions Check-In for Months 7-12
Monthly Behavior Inventory 137
Postcounseling Assessment Interpretation and Program Evaluation 138
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Forms and Questionnaires