Women and Men As Friends: Relationships Across the Life Span in the 21st Century (Volume in Lea's Series on Personal Relationships)

294 Pages·2001·1.43 MB·English

by  Michael Monsour

WOMEN AND MEN AS FRIENDS
RELATIONSHIPS ACROSS THE LIFE SPAN
IN THE 21st CENTURY
LEA’s Series on Personal Relationships
Steve Duck, Series Editor
Bennett• Time and Intimacy: A New Science of Personal
Relationships
Christopher• To Dance the Dance: A Symbolic Interactional
Exploration of Premarital Sexuality
Honeycutt/Cantrill• Cognition, Communication,
and Romantic Relationships
Miller/Alberts/Hecht/Trost/Krizek• Adolescent Relationships
and Drug Use
Monsour• Women and Men as Friends: Relationships Across
the Life Span in the 21stCentury
WOMEN AND MEN AS FRIENDS
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Michael Monsour
University of Colorado at Denver
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Monsour, Michael.
Womenandmenasfriends:relationshipsacrossthelifespaninthe21st
century / Michael Monsour.
p. cm. (LEA’s series on personal relationships)
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 0-8058-3566-0 (cloth : alk. paper)
ISBN 0-8058-3567-9 (pbk. : alk. paper)
1. Man-woman relationships. 2. Friendship. I. Title. II. Series.
HQ801 .M72 2001
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I dedicate this book to Wanda Gregory Monsour,
my mother, who died April 16, 1999.
She was, and will always be, my friend.
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Series Editor’s Foreword ix
Steve Duck
Preface xiii
1 Cross-Sex Friendships and the Social Construction 1
of Self Across the Life Span
2 Cross-Sex Friendships in Early Childhood 27
(18 months to 6 years of age)
3 Cross-Sex Friendships in Middle and Late Childhood 63
(7 to 11 years of age)
4 Cross-Sex Friendships in Adolescence 94
(12 to 17 years of age)
5 Cross-Sex Friendships in Adulthood 129
(18 to 64 years of age)
6 Cross-Sex Friendships in Old Age 166
(65 years of age and up)
7 Cross-Sex Friendships and Self-Concepts 197
From the “Cradle to the Grave”
References 231
Author Index 263
Subject Index 273
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This series from Lawrence Erlbaum Associates (LEA) is intended to review
theprogressintheacademicworkonrelationshipsinrespectofabroadarray
ofissuesandisintendedtodosoinanaccessiblemannerthatalsoillustrates
itspracticalvalue.TheLEAseriesincludesbooksintendedtopassontheac-
cumulated scholarship to the next generation of students and to those who
dealwithrelationshipissuesinthebroaderworldbeyondtheacademy.Thus,
theseriescomprisesnotonlymonographsandotheracademicresourcesex-
emplifyingthemulti-disciplinarynatureofthisarea,butalsowillincludetext-
bookssuitableforuseinthegrowingnumbersofcoursesonrelationshipsin
thefuture.Theserieshasthegoalofprovidingacomprehensiveandcurrent
survey of theory and research in personal relationship through the careful
analysisoftheproblemsencounteredandsolvedinresearch.Atthesametime
italsoconsidersthesystematicapplicationofthatworkinapracticalcontext.
These resources not only are intended to be comprehensive assessments of
progressonparticular“hot”andrelevanttopics,butalsowillbesignificantin-
fluencesonthefuturedirectionsanddevelopmentofthestudyofpersonalre-
lationships. Although each volume is focused and centered, authors all
attempttoplacetherespectivetopicsinthebroadercontextofotherresearch
onrelationshipsandwithinarangeofwiderdisciplinarytraditions.Theseries
alreadyoffersincisiveandforward-lookingreviewsandalsodemonstratesthe
broader theoretical implications of relationships for the range of disciplines
fromwhichtheresearchoriginates.Presentandfuturevolumesincludeorigi-
nal studies, reviews of relevant theory and research, and new theories ori-
entedtowardtheunderstandingofpersonalrelationshipsbothinthemselves
andwithinthecontextofbroadertheoriesoffamilyprocess,socialpsychology,
andcommunication.
Reflectingthediversecompositionofpersonalrelationshipstudy,readersin
numerous disciplines—social psychology, communication, sociology, family
studies,developmentalpsychology,clinicalpsychology,personality,counseling,
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