WOMEN AND MEN AS FRIENDS RELATIONSHIPS ACROSS THE LIFE SPAN IN THE 21st CENTURY LEA’s Series on Personal Relationships Steve Duck, Series Editor Bennett• Time and Intimacy: A New Science of Personal Relationships Christopher• To Dance the Dance: A Symbolic Interactional Exploration of Premarital Sexuality Honeycutt/Cantrill• Cognition, Communication, and Romantic Relationships Miller/Alberts/Hecht/Trost/Krizek• Adolescent Relationships and Drug Use Monsour• Women and Men as Friends: Relationships Across the Life Span in the 21stCentury WOMEN AND MEN AS FRIENDS (cid:1)(cid:2)(cid:3)(cid:4)(cid:5)(cid:6)(cid:7)(cid:8)(cid:9)(cid:10)(cid:6)(cid:11)(cid:9)(cid:12)(cid:4)(cid:13)(cid:1)(cid:7)(cid:9)(cid:9)(cid:12)(cid:5)(cid:10)(cid:2)(cid:12)(cid:3)(cid:6)(cid:14)(cid:2)(cid:12)(cid:9)(cid:11)(cid:4)(cid:8) (cid:6)(cid:8)(cid:12)(cid:5)(cid:10)(cid:2)(cid:12)(cid:15)(cid:16)(cid:17)(cid:18) (cid:13)(cid:2)(cid:8)(cid:5)(cid:19)(cid:1)(cid:20) Michael Monsour University of Colorado at Denver LAWRENCE ERLBAUM ASSOCIATES, PUBLISHERS 2002 Mahwah, New Jersey London Copyright © 2002 by Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc. Allrightsreserved.Nopartofthisbookmaybereproducedinanyform, byphotostat,microform,retrievalsystem,oranyothermeans,without prior written permission of the publisher. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc., Publishers 10 Industrial Avenue Mahwah, NJ 07430 Cover design by Kathryn Houghtaling Lacey Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Monsour, Michael. Womenandmenasfriends:relationshipsacrossthelifespaninthe21st century / Michael Monsour. p. cm. (LEA’s series on personal relationships) Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-8058-3566-0 (cloth : alk. paper) ISBN 0-8058-3567-9 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Man-woman relationships. 2. Friendship. I. Title. II. Series. HQ801 .M72 2001 302.3’4—dc21 2001033000 CIP BookspublishedbyLawrenceErlbaumAssociatesareprintedonacid-free paper, and their bindings are chosen for strength and durability. Printed in the United States of America 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 I dedicate this book to Wanda Gregory Monsour, my mother, who died April 16, 1999. She was, and will always be, my friend. This Page Intentionally Left Blank (cid:13)(cid:21)(cid:22)(cid:18)(cid:23)(cid:22)(cid:18)(cid:17) Series Editor’s Foreword ix Steve Duck Preface xiii 1 Cross-Sex Friendships and the Social Construction 1 of Self Across the Life Span 2 Cross-Sex Friendships in Early Childhood 27 (18 months to 6 years of age) 3 Cross-Sex Friendships in Middle and Late Childhood 63 (7 to 11 years of age) 4 Cross-Sex Friendships in Adolescence 94 (12 to 17 years of age) 5 Cross-Sex Friendships in Adulthood 129 (18 to 64 years of age) 6 Cross-Sex Friendships in Old Age 166 (65 years of age and up) 7 Cross-Sex Friendships and Self-Concepts 197 From the “Cradle to the Grave” References 231 Author Index 263 Subject Index 273 vii This Page Intentionally Left Blank (cid:9)(cid:23)(cid:24)(cid:25)(cid:23)(cid:17)(cid:12)(cid:2)(cid:26)(cid:25)(cid:18)(cid:21)(cid:24)(cid:27)(cid:17)(cid:12)(cid:14)(cid:21)(cid:24)(cid:23)(cid:28)(cid:21)(cid:24)(cid:26) This series from Lawrence Erlbaum Associates (LEA) is intended to review theprogressintheacademicworkonrelationshipsinrespectofabroadarray ofissuesandisintendedtodosoinanaccessiblemannerthatalsoillustrates itspracticalvalue.TheLEAseriesincludesbooksintendedtopassontheac- cumulated scholarship to the next generation of students and to those who dealwithrelationshipissuesinthebroaderworldbeyondtheacademy.Thus, theseriescomprisesnotonlymonographsandotheracademicresourcesex- emplifyingthemulti-disciplinarynatureofthisarea,butalsowillincludetext- bookssuitableforuseinthegrowingnumbersofcoursesonrelationshipsin thefuture.Theserieshasthegoalofprovidingacomprehensiveandcurrent survey of theory and research in personal relationship through the careful analysisoftheproblemsencounteredandsolvedinresearch.Atthesametime italsoconsidersthesystematicapplicationofthatworkinapracticalcontext. These resources not only are intended to be comprehensive assessments of progressonparticular“hot”andrelevanttopics,butalsowillbesignificantin- fluencesonthefuturedirectionsanddevelopmentofthestudyofpersonalre- lationships. Although each volume is focused and centered, authors all attempttoplacetherespectivetopicsinthebroadercontextofotherresearch onrelationshipsandwithinarangeofwiderdisciplinarytraditions.Theseries alreadyoffersincisiveandforward-lookingreviewsandalsodemonstratesthe broader theoretical implications of relationships for the range of disciplines fromwhichtheresearchoriginates.Presentandfuturevolumesincludeorigi- nal studies, reviews of relevant theory and research, and new theories ori- entedtowardtheunderstandingofpersonalrelationshipsbothinthemselves andwithinthecontextofbroadertheoriesoffamilyprocess,socialpsychology, andcommunication. Reflectingthediversecompositionofpersonalrelationshipstudy,readersin numerous disciplines—social psychology, communication, sociology, family studies,developmentalpsychology,clinicalpsychology,personality,counseling, ix
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