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Acknowledgments Thank you to those who contributed to this book, whether they knew it or not: Kelly Bradtke, Andrew and Joanne Parish, Decima McAuley, Rebecca Schell, Melissa Stewart, Jasmine Pease, Cameron Pease, Brandon Pease, Bella Pease, Michael Pease, Adam Sellars, John MacIntosh, Norman Leonard, Ken Wright, Amanda Gore, Daniel Clarke, Dr. Janet Hall, Col and Jill Haste, Kirsty and Scott Gooderham, Phil Gray, Shirley Neale and Danny Redman, Des Wilmore, Bernie de Souza, Dr. James Moir, Helen and Ian Belcher, Roger Loughnan, Ivanna Fugalot, Dr. Gennady Polonsky, Christine Walding, Jeff Turner, John Lanesmith, Sally Berghofer, Rob and Sue Keam, Dave Stewart, David C. Smith, Dr. John Tickel, Professor Graeme Jackson, Nicole Kilpatrick, Josephine and Rick, Glen Fraser, Tony Rich, Dr. Michael Walsh, Angus Woodhead, Fiona Hedger, Gary Crick, Anthony Gorman, Brian Tracy, Jenny Cooper, Ivor Ashfield, Trevor Velt, Jo Abbott, Alan Holliday, Graeme Shiels, Shorty Tully, Kerri-Anne Kennerley, Sue Williams, Janine Good, Bert Newton, Graham Smith, Kevin Fraser, Dr. Phillip Stricker, Emma and Graham Steele, Jaci Elliott, and Glenda Leonard. And special thanks to Dorie Simmonds and Ray and Ruth Pease. Contents Acknowledgments Introduction Looking for “the One” How the Western World Got So Screwed Up About Sex The Statistics 1.Sex on the Brain Same Goals, Different Agendas The Power of Love The Biology of Love Love At First Sight Darwin Made Me Do It Let’s Stick Together Why Lovers Are So Crazy About Each Other I Get a Shiver Down My Backbone I Can’t Sleep, I Can’t Eat What Brain Scans Reveal Might as Well Face It, You’re Addicted to Love The Geography of Sex and Love in the Brain Why Men and Women See Love Differently How Men’s Brains Rate Attractiveness in Women How Women’s Brains Rate Attractiveness in Men Why Lust Doesn’t Last What Happens When You Get Dumped Summary 2.Straight Talk on Sex and Love How Times Have Changed How Humans Are Now Studied Why Being Loved and Being in Love Are So Important The Seven Types of Love Our Love Maps How Hollywood and the Media Color Our View Why the Twenty-First Century Is Harder for Men Summary 3.What Women Really Want The Changing Needs of Women Mamma Told Me, “Shop Around” Girls Just Wanna Have Fun The Truth About What Women Want Wealthy Men Give Women More Orgasms The Top Five Things Women Want from Men Commitment—Why a Man Should Give a Woman an Impressive Ring The Last Ten Things a Woman Would Ever Say Seven Simple Things Women Find Attractive In Men Why No Woman Wants a Loser Women Will Always Want Resources Summary 4.What Men Really Want How the Media Shape Men’s Views What Men Really Want What a Man Will Do for Sex Men Don’t Think About Relationships Decoding Manspeak Men Seek Reproductive Value Getting to the Point What the Personal Columns Reveal Why Attractiveness Has Become So Important What “Attractive” Means Take a Leaf from the Amazons What Men Look for in Beauty Our Universal Beauty Contest Our Reaction to Attractive Faces Is Inborn What Turns Men On—the 70% Hips-to-Waist Ratio What Turns Men Off About Women Physical Choices for Gay Men and Women How Governments Have Become the New Husband Summary 5.Wanted: Meaningful Overnight Relationship—Casual Sex What Is Casual Sex? A Definition of “Sexual Relationship” Why We Have Casual Sex How We Feel After Casual Sex How Dads Influence Their Kids’ Attitudes How Many Partners Do You Want? Sexual Fantasies and Casual Sex How Gay Men and Women Look at Things Summary 6.Your Place or Mine? Affairs and Cheating What Is an Affair? Your Cheating Heart Why Affairs Happen It Can Happen at Any Level Why Women Play Around Less Than Men Six Common Myths About Cheating The Nine Different Types of Affairs Why the “Perfect Affair” Is a Fantasy I Heard It Through the Grapevine Eight Classic Signs of a Cheater How to Handle a Cheater Getting Things Right A Guide to Recovery After an Affair Four Vital Strategies to Avoid Becoming a Cheater Yourself Summary 7.How to Find the Right Partner(s)—the Mating Rating Quiz How Most Relationships Start Matching with the Right Partner Core Values and Beliefs The Five Most Common “New-Relationship” Mistakes The Mating Rating The Mating Rating Quiz—How Do You Measure Up In the Marketplace? How to Find a Great Partner How to Change Your Love Life Forever How to Play the Numbers Game with Your List Who You Should Avoid Clues About Mr./Ms. Wrong When the Chemistry Is Wrong The 9% Rule Summary 8.Fifteen Mysteries About Men That Women Don’t Understand 1.Why Men Wake Up in the Morning with an Erection 2.Why Sex Can Be Just Sex for Men 3.The Nothing Room 4.Why Men Are Obsessed with Women’s Breasts 5.Why Men Won’t Tell the Truth to Women About Sex 6.Why Men Love Curvy Women 7.Why the G-Spot Is Like a UFO 8.Why It’s So Important to Men for Women to Initiate Sex 9.Why Men Get It So Wrong in Nightclubs 10.When Is a Man Ready for Commitment or Marriage? 11.Why Mature Men Wear Speedos in Public or Proudly Display a Potbelly 12.Men and Their Fetishes 13.What Men Worry About 14.Why Men Have Difficulty Saying ‘I Love You’ 15.The Top Five Questions That Frighten Most Men 9.Twelve Truths About Women Most Men Don’t Know 1.What Women Want from Sex 2.Why Women So Rarely Initiate Sex 3.How to Make Women Want Sex More Often 4.Why Women Have Orgasms 5.Why Smart Women Are Often Fools in Love 6.Why Women Prefer Older Men 7.Why Women Want to Be Touched 8.Why Women Seem Distracted During Sex