Why Men Are the Way They Are

439 Pages·1988·18.14 MB·English

by  Warren Farrell

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WOMEN,T HEM OSTI MPORTABNOTO KE VER
WRITTENF ORM EN."
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Abouth ow hev iewtsh er oloef m alep owe.r . ev.e n
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int hem osti ntimastiet uations?
Aboutt hew ayy ours uccersesa lmalkye hs imf eel?
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Abouhti st rufee elionngW so men'sLi beration?
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MEN: Ist hew omanm yourl ifea fraitdo h eart he
trut.h. .
Abouyto urre sentmaetnt the m ixemde ssagsehse k eeps
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sending?
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Abouwth ats hec oulddo ,i fs heh ada mindt ot,o m ake
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yourre lationrsehailwpol ryk ?
Now,y ouc anl earwnh at'wsr ongb etweetnh es exes­
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WHY MEN ARE THEW AY THEYAR E
Turn thep agef orm orer avree vie.w. s.
··AD EYA STA TINGE XPOSEO F THE HYPOCRISIES
OF THE SEXUALR EVOLUTION.''
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''THIISS A N IMPORTANTB OOK,o net hawti lplr ove
invaluatboal ew omans eekian lga stirnegl ationwsihtihp
them an shel ove.s .T h.i sb ookg etsd ownt ot he
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