Why Don’t Psychotherapists Laugh? Enjoyment and the Consulting Room

153 Pages·2016·2.376 MB·English

by  Ann Shearer

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Why Don’t Psychotherapists
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1 The capacity for humour is one of life’s blessings. So why is it so lacking in the
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l Ann Shearer is a Jungian analyst based in London. She lectures internationally
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many articles and ten books include (with Pamela Donleavy) From Ancient Myth
to Modern Healing: Themis: goddess of heart-s oul, justice and reconciliation
(Routledge, 2008).
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First published 2016
by Routledge
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Identifiers: LCCN 2015039744| ISBN 9781138899605 (hardback) |
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Contents
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1 Acknowledgements vii
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10 Power and promise 89
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Acknowledgements
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1 As a wise old friend used to say, ‘We all shout loudest about our own weakest
8 points’. Ever since my childhood, people have told me that I’m ‘too serious’. So
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a None of my patients appears in these pages. But other people’s do, and I’m
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a, grateful to Jane Haynes, Stephen Grosz, Donald Kalsched and Irvin Yalom for their
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humorous is far from being the preserve of any one therapeutic approach.
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Taylor & Francis and Princeton University Press for permission to quote from
The Collected Works of C.G. Jung.
Full details of these publications are in the Bibliography.
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Chapter 1
Starting points
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1 Looking back over more than two decades as a Jungian analyst, I count myself
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a, makes life a humorous business as well as a testing and sometimes tragic one.
ni This quality is not easy to define – not least because each person will find it in
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not there. In this book, I call it ‘humour’ – a catchall for that sense of the humor-
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cover how seldom humour gets even a mention in professional textbooks. This
book is about why this might be so, and what psychotherapists, those who
consult them and indeed others might be missing.
Whatever may be going on in the confidentiality of the consulting room,
something seems to happen once we therapists appear in public, once we present
a professional persona to the wider world and even to each other. I think of