Moore and Kennedy have provided a practical, hands-on collection of sound advice, tips, techniques, and strategies for returning service personnel and their family members. This engaging book should be must-reading for all returning warriors and those mental health workers who serve them. —Donald Meichenbaum, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus, University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada; Research Director of the Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention, Miami, FL This is the kind of guidance we dreamed of getting when I was a young psychologist attempting to care for war fighters in harm’s way. If you work in mental health, read this. If you’re a veteran, own this. The SOP for your ‘new normal’ will be sitting in the palm of your hand. —Peter J. N. Linnerooth, PhD, U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, Readjustment Counseling Service; Combat Psychologist, U.S. Army’s 1st Infantry Division, Operation Iraqi Freedom 2006–2008, Capitola, CA Surviving Fallujah was one thing; fighting the battle within, at home, is quite another. As an Army medic who survived the greatest battle of the Iraq War, I would have put this book in my aid bag for each of my troops to read upon redeployment. Now, as a counselor for the VA, I’ll make sure my troops do. —Brock A. McNabb, BS, Readjustment Counseling Specialist, U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs Combat Medic, U.S. Army’s 1st Infantry Division, OIF II & OIF 06-08, Capitola, CA Wheels DoWn WheelsDown titlepgs.indd 1 7/6/10 5:18 PM W h e e l s D o W n Adjusting to Life After depLoyment Bret A. moore And CArrie H. Kennedy American Psychological Association • Washington, DC WheelsDown titlepgs.indd 2 7/6/10 5:18 PM Copyright © 2011 by the American Psychological Association. All rights reserved. Except as permitted under the United States Copyright Act of 1976, no part of this publication may be reproduced or distributed in any form or by any means, including, but not limited to, the process of scanning and digitization, or stored in a database or retrieval system, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Published by To order APA Lifetools APA Order Department 750 First Street, NE P.O. Box 92984 Washington, DC 20002 Washington, DC 20090-2984 www.apa.org (800) 374-2721; (202) 336-5510 Fax: (202) 336-5502 TDD/TTY: (202) 336-6123 Online: www.apa.org/pubs/books/ E-mail: [email protected] In the U.K., Europe, Africa, and the Middle East, copies may be ordered from American Psychological Association 3 Henrietta Street Covent Garden, London WC2E 8LU England Typeset in Sabon by Circle Graphics, Columbia, MD Printer: United Book Press, Inc., Baltimore, MD Cover Designer: Naylor Design, Washington, DC The opinions and statements published are the responsibility of the authors, and such opinions and statements do not necessarily represent the policies of the American Psychological Association. The views expressed in this book are those of the authors and do not reflect the official policy or position of the Department of the Army, Department of the Navy, Department of Defense, or the United States Government. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Moore, Bret A. Wheels down : adjusting to life after deployment / Bret A. Moore and Carrie H. Kennedy. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN-13: 978-1-4338-0872-2 ISBN-10: 1-4338-0872-2 ISBN-13: 978-1-4338-0873-9 (e-book) ISBN-10: 1-4338-0873-0 (e-book) 1. Veterans—Mental health—United States. 2. Deployment (Strategy)—Social aspects—United States. 3. Post-traumatic stress disorder. 4. Combat—Psychological aspects. I. Kennedy, Carrie H. II. Title. UH629.3.M665 2011 355.1'29—dc22 2010012949 British Library Cataloguing-in-Publication Data A CIP record is available from the British Library. Printed in the United States of America First Edition To all the selfless men and women in uniform serving around the world. CONTENTS Preface xi Acknowledgments xiii Introduction 3 Chapter 1. The Homecoming 7 Chapter 2. Anger: How Can It Be Healthy and Kill Me at the Same Time? 19 Chapter 3. I Can’t #&$%! Sleep! 29 Chapter 4. The Deployment Wiped Me Out Financially 39 Chapter 5. It Looks Like I’m Going to Be Single Again 49 Chapter 6. My Child Has Changed 59 Chapter 7. Is Deployment Different for Women? 71 Chapter 8. Is My Substance Use or Gambling Out of Control? 85 Chapter 9. Dealing With the Grief of Losing a Comrade 97 ix