What Would Jesus Do about Domestic Violence and Abuse Towards Christian Women

286 Pages·2010·1.17 MB·English

A biblically-based book that researched Jesus' life as one who experienced
violence and abuse both personally and otherwise. It shows Christians and
others how to address domestic violence and abuse like Jesus did by listing
dozens of abuses which Jesus experienced, by identifying specific things
Jesus did in abusive or violent situations, and by featuring 77 cases in which
Jesus demonstrated specific behaviors in response to abuse and violence
related to both victims and abusers.

What Would Jesus Do about Domestic Violence and Abuse
Towards Christian Women

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Copyright© 2010 Chloe Patricia Forbes Cummings

ISBN: 978-1-60910-492-4

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with full credit to author and publisher without written permission.

Edited by Helena Kaufman and Chloe Cummings

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Cover design by Todd Engel

Author’s Photo by Juan O’Neal

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Scripture Quotations

Scripture quotations marked “KJV” are taken from the King
James Version. Copyright is the public domain.
Scripture quotations marked "NKJV™" are taken from the New
King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc.
Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible,
New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of
Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All
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INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978,
1984 by International Bible Society®. Used by permission.
Scripture quotations marked ESV are from the Holy Bible,
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Contemporary English Version® Copyright © 1995 American
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

“Thank You God for turning the manure in my life into fertilizer.
Thank You that this fertilizer which has been a source of growth
to me and to so many others. It’s reaped a bumper crop, and this
book is one result of the bountiful harvest which You have
brought about in my life.”

Thank you to my Aunt Anadia, who professes not to know
grammatically, what is right, but who can always tell when
something is wrong, and who used her honing senses to slowly-
but with a caring heart, read over half of the book with highlighter
in hand, and zapped many of my errors…and she proved that
she was right.

Thanks to my book coach, Dr. Joel Orr for giving me so much
knowledge and guidance which saved me hours of work, stress,
frustration, and kept me on the right path.

Thanks to Yolanda Rose who devoted two days to help proof-
read the manuscript.

Thanks to my “Hip and Heart” friend Marlene O’Sullivan who is a
constant source of encouragement to me and to all who are
privileged to know her.

Thank you to Pastor Larry Miller and my dear church family who
modeled in so many ways what Jesus would really do, and who
created an environment so that former victims like me can
flourish.

Finally, thanks to my dear mother Osra Forbes, who was
someone who truly loved me; she was a saint, and someone
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whose prayers I am still benefiting from - even though she has
been gone for many years.

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This book is dedicated to_______________________ (Your
Name Here), the precious woman of God, who is a true Saint by
virtue of the blood, shed by Jesus Christ; a bride who has been
despised by man but honored, cherished, cared for, and loved by
God. A woman whom JESUS has chosen as HIS Bride for His

very own self!
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“For I have given you an example that you should
do as I have done to you. If you know these things,
blessed are you if you do them.”
(Jesus) John 13:15, 17 NKJV

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Table of Contents
AUTHOR’S NOTE TO READER ............................................................. XI
DEFINITION OF TERMS ....................................................................... XIII
WWJD QUICK REFERENCE GUIDE ................................................... XXI
PREFACE ............................................................................................ XXV
PART I: IDENTIFYING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE
AMONG CHRISTIANS ......................................................................... 1
CHAPTER 1: EXPOSING THE SECRET ..................................................... 3
PART II: THE CHURCH AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND
ABUSE ............................................................................................... 13
CHAPTER 2: A HISTORY OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE AMONG
GOD’S PEOPLE ................................................................................. 15
CHAPTER 3: KEEPING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE IN THE DARK .. 27
CHAPTER 4: THE HIGH PRICE OF NON-INVOLVEMENT - THE COST OF
SAVING A SOUL ................................................................................ 45
CHAPTER 5: BECOMING MORE KNOWLEDGEABLE ABOUT THE ISSUES ... 51
CHAPTER 6: TEACHING THE “NEW MAN IN CHRIST” THE NEW RULES .... 58
CHAPTER 7: THE CHURCH’S TEACHING ON WIFELY SUBMISSION .......... 66
PART III: THE CHURCH AND THE VICTIM .......................................... 75
CHAPTER 8: THE CHURCH BEING JESUS TO THE VICTIM ...................... 77
CHAPTER 9: RESPONDING TO THE VICTIM WITHOUT CONDEMNATION ... 88
CHAPTER 10: SAFETY OF THE VICTIM - THE ISSUE OF LEAVING HER
ABUSIVE HUSBAND ........................................................................... 92
CHAPTER 11: THE CHURCH AS THE PRIMARY SOURCE OF HELP ........ 102
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