V C ITAL ONVERSATIONS V ITAL C ONVERSATIONS IMPROVING COMMUNICATION BETWEEN DOCTORS AND PATIENTS DENNIS ROSEN, MD COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY PRESS NEW YORK Columbia University Press Publishers Since 1893 New York Chichester, West Sussex cup.columbia.edu Copyright © 2014 Columbia University Press All rights reserved Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Rosen, Dennis, 1967– author. Vital conversations : improving communication between doctors and patients / Dennis Rosen. p. ; cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-0-231-16444-3 (cloth : alk. paper) — ISBN 978-0-231-53804-6 (e-book) I. Title [DNLM: 1. Physician-Patient Relations. 2. Communications. 3. Patient Satisfaction. W 62] R727.3 610.69'6—dc23 2014003433 Columbia University Press books are printed on permanent and durable acid-free paper. This book is printed on paper with recycled content. Printed in the United States of America c 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Cover design: Mary Ann Smith References to websites (URLs) were accurate at the time of writing. Neither the author nor Columbia University Press is responsible for URLs that may have expired or changed since the manuscript was prepared. To Vered, Yuval, Hadas, and Avigail, with much love, appreciation, and pride. (cid:2) CONTENTS Acknowledgments ix Author’s Note xiii 1 BETTER OUTCOMES, LOWER COSTS 1 2 ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL 31 3 WHEN WORLDS COLLIDE 51 4 DISEASE, ILLNESS, AND SICKNESS 81 5 BODY AND SOUL 115 6 RECONCILING DIFFERENT WORLDVIEWS 141 7 MAKING IT STICK 161 8 PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER: CREATING A BETTER CLINICAL ENCOUNTER 191 Notes 215 Index 237 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS T HIS BOOK could not have been written without the help of so many along the way. First off, I would like to thank some of the many people who have enabled me to channel my passion for the writ- ten word and to make the transition from passive consumer into an active producer. Thank you to the editors at Psychology Today for giving me the opportunity to blog about pediatric sleep and other topics on their website. Thank you, too, to the editors at the various newspa- pers, magazines, and journals whose receptiveness to my writing in the forms of essays, op-ed pieces, and book reviews was key to encour- aging me to persevere along this path: John Zeller at the Journal of the American Medical Association; Shelly Cohen at the Boston Herald; Mary Duenwald, Honor Jones, Sewell Chan, David Corcoran, Alex Star, and David Kelly at the New York Times; Nicole Lamy and Paul Makishima at the Boston Globe; Michael Todd and Tom Jacobs at the Pacific Standard; Barbara Sibbald at the Canadian Medical Association Journal; Lee Brown at the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine; and Elleke Bal and Babette Dunkelgrun at Ode. Ethan, Molly, Liz, Donna, Alice, and Amy, whom I met at Grub Street in Boston—an outstanding resource for writers at any stage of their careers—helped me hone my writing and encouraged me to per- severe even as the rejections kept coming in hard and fast. A big Thank