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International FoundationforGender Education MemberCOSMEP (ISSN 0884-9749) 4 TronsgenderTAPESTRY TAPESTRY • FROM THE BRIDGE #2 Sex and Marriage... and Mr. Bailey A wordfrom the Chairofthe IFCEBoardofDirectors The challenge in writinga quarterly demean their existence or control their column is—that one is foreverlocked in a destinybymaking theirprivate sexual timewarp needing to saysomething conduct a crime.”As I have said, this is relevantto the current events of, in this good news fortransgenderedpeople as case, July ’03,when theworldwill have well,because the Court is saying the danced for four or five more months and United States cannot demean someone setitselfin a completelynew arrange- just because theyhold a particular per- ment bythe time this is read. Not only sonal characteristic. wmiyllwtohrodsse,Jpuelryheavpesn,tsarscehaeimc.distant,but fuTrthheerCociuvriltrailgshotsl—eftatmheondgootrhoemp,enmatro- Kpaenotpalreasb,acwkhidcehc,adiefsw.on,would set trans woWuellld,lbiekefotroeaacckcneoptwilnegdgtehatthcahtatlhliesngies,suIe froiraguesaansdweflalm,ilbyutricgohtusl.dTbheistoisugghoondewnse,ws maAncyotmrpaenlslgienngdceorreodllpaeroyplceondceecrindeisttohat of Tapestrywill be in your hands as we too. The rightwinghas begun abacklash staymarried post-transition. Theyrede- move into the winter oftheyear, bring- on Lawrence in its preemptive assault on fine their relationships in manyways,but ingwith it DayofRemembrance on gaymarriage. Many, myselfincluded, the core is, universally,love and compan- November 20th, Thanksgiving Dayone await the decision in the Massachusetts’ ionship. These hidden same sexmar- weeklater, and then, for many, a season same sexmarriage case Goodridgevs. riages are vulnerable to intrusion and ofvarious holidays ofLight. It will be in Department ofPublic Health, to see possible dissolution bythe state,which your hands when the shortest dayofthe which is the more—compelling influence wemooutlidoncaalu,seectohneopmairct,nearnsdtsroecmiaelndhaoruds- year,Winter Solstice,arrives and passes on their decision the right wing, or the — and we begin to anticipate springtime Supreme Court in Lawrence. ship to saynothing ofthe losthealth while enduring the quiet, cold snowy As manyattorneysworking fortrans- care benefits. Legal challenges to this pos- time ofwinter (atleastthose ofus in the gendered people on issues ofmarriage, sible intrusion from the state could cause colder regions).We need thewinteras custody, and legal inheritancewould sup- more cacophonyin the struggleto legal- preparation time forthe light ofspring port,we trans folks havebeen on the cut- ize same sexmarriage. and summertime. ting edge ofsame sex marriage issues for So,we transgenderfolkarelikelyto get In thelight ofthe Summer of’03,with awhile now—most notably,thosepostop- caught in the crossfire ofthebacklash as the Supreme Court’s positive decision on erative couples inAustin,Texas and Santa the right wing’s unfurling campaign picks Lawrencevs. Texas, sexbecame legal in Cruz, California who have successfully up momentum. I would urgeyou all to the United States. In one fell swoop, this married—whetherbecausethe laws are considerthat silencebegets more oppres- sweeping decision outlawed both same discriminatoryto eithertransgendered or sion and that action is not onlylife- sex and opposite sexsodomy. LGB people, or because theyholdstrange affirming,but invigorating as well. Get prepared to be out and loud! As someone in our communitywrote loopholes. in one ofthe manyinternet postings Myconcern is thatwe needto educate That’s whyI call for us to all work (and I paraphrase),“We trans folks have our legislators,jurists, and communities together here. Civil marriage shouldbe lots ofsodomy. It’s ourvictory, too.”And, on the issues surroundingsexual orienta- between two peoplewho love each other, well,yes, it trulyis,despitethe lackof tion/sexual identity, gender identity, and regardless ofsex, sexual orientation, geni- mention ofthe transgender community gender expression to illustrate thatlov- tals, gender identity, or expression. in most articles related to the decision. ing, committed relationships are abond Period. I understand that ourvarious ThAemionnvigsicbloensTensttriinkgesadauglatisn,.anyone’s tmhaattteisrfwohramtecdhabreatcwteereinstiincdsitvhideuyamlsayno trheilsigwiaouys—troardietvieonnsomurayPrneostidseenet,thwihnogs genitals maynowhave contactwith any- have.We here at IFGE aim to dojust insists on continuing to blurthe line one else’s genitals, and no onewillbreak that. between church and state. But that’s what your door down and haul you offin the Atthe moment, between the defense Lawrencev. Texas is all about, when it middle ofthe night. This is great news ofmarriage acts (anti-same-sexmarriage makes these matters—into issues ofcivil — libertyand tolerance and not solely for all ofus gay, straight, bi,trans, and statues) atboth state and federal levels religious issues. not trans. This decision validates that and the court decisionsbeingmade in cons—ensual sexual behavior isloving and the likes ofKantaras, Littleton, Gardiner, Until next time... hot not illegal and not the stuffoffear, and the FamilyCourt ofChicago’s FTM Postscript shame, and secrecy, characteristics case, there is a veritable Tower ofBabel It’s difficult to decidewhat to write imbued on it for eons. out there. This is all fodder for the right concerning J. Michael Bailey’s TheMan The Court’s opinion further empha- wingcannon ofhate and prejudice.As Who WouldBe Queen: TheScienceof sized gayand lesbian peoples’ inherent ofthis writing (See there? Is that a time Gender-Bendingand Transsexualism, as so dignitybystating,“The state cannot warp?) there has been an appeal filed in much has alreadybeen saidbyso many TransgenderTAPESTRY 5 — — TAPESTRY • A WORD FROM THE EDITOR tor so many months now. As I write this, I’m a first-time homeowner; buying it has cometo light that Bailey may not myhouse led both to an ongoing do- have followed the proper research proce- it-yourselfhome improvement project dures in place for human subjects and to my first political experience as I research at Northwestern Universityand joined with othercitizens to safeguard as such may haveviolated the trust and the future ofour tiny (pop. 610) city. confidentialityofvarious people. Iftrue, I’m a writer. My first playwas selected this represents a moral lapse oftheworst for production this fall as part ofthe kind and he should receive the full conse- first transgender theatre festival in quences ofsuch egregious action. NewYork, and 1 usually have two or Secondly, many others more articulate three gender-related articles and book than I canbe have alreadyaddressed chapters and a fiction project or two Bailee's assertion that his work is valid in various states ofproduction or scientific research,and, instead, correctly publication. called it pseudoscience. His book appears I have the requisite number of tobe filled, notwith the rigorous testing acquaintances, friends, family, group ofa hypothesis,but with the work ofa affiliations,hobbies,and avocations. man with—an agenda emerging from Such is my life. dare I say his own issues and his But It All Seems forget sometimes that according to I apthhtyet,ewmpapeytrhhtaoepsps,ieeebscuetthtenogowetotrghleodro.djGussoctoiifedinccpaeht.iio1lnosfoo-r SHoereN’soarbrmieafolve!rviewofmylife: swriehnpforuelms,smyeedonuhtoaalsmklo,yseIilxal,umaalfi,rmaomurod—r,aalm,pyedrfevabevarotsr,eidta,e agreewith these colleagues. For the past 13 years I’veworked for a a tool ofthe patriarchy. I forget I am all Third, I suggest some examination and countyagencyas a behavior specialist. this. review ofthe publishing process is called Myjob responsibilities include psycho- Please forgive me. It’sjust that 14 years for. The publisher, Joseph Henry Press, a logical and behavioral assessments, after mytransition and 12 years after subdivision ofthe NationalAcademy of client rights investigations, and the SRS, my life seems, so, so... nor—mal! I for- Sciences is a respected scientific publish- development and monitoringof get that God hates me because I’m not binegenhodursaewnwhiinctho mthaisychoanvteroivneardsvyerwthenetnly b4e0hhavoiuorrsala wineteekrvaenndtitornyptloancsr.aImwmoryk sfaulruetiwn’hyChhrieshtaitaenssmliek.e IPajtusRtokbneortwsohnigah-nd closer questioning ofthe manuscript other activities and nightlysleep into Jerry Falwell and Fred Phelps assure me miFgohutrthha,vwehbyeesnhowuisled.we care so much? the remaining hours. that He hates me. — Again, dare 1 say, our own internalized hIa’smmedaidteoritofpotshsiisbjloeurtnoadl.oTahlemoisntternet suIrefowrhgeytII’’mmaappeerrvveerrtt,,bbuetcaAunsnee I’m not transphobia? Let Bailey’s professional everythingvia the computer, from sub- Lawrence and Ray Blanchard tell me I academic colleagues provide the consid- missions to editingto fine-tuning the am. I forget that I have“mutilated” my ebreheadvsicoire.ntWifeicnreeesdponnosteatlolohwisswoomrekonaend lcaoirdr-eosuptopnadgeensc,ebuwittehdiatuotrhioarlsd,ecainsdions, bOolddys,aansdasDs.erBtierkdetbty.the likes ofSharon who demeans our communityand looks back-and-forths with Art Director I forget I’m mentally ill, as determined to provoke an intense response the pleas- Dave Bryant, IFGE Board Chair Hawk by Paul McHugh, Charles Socarides, and ure ofthat intense response and the Stone, and Executive Director Denise other psychiatrists who are sure theyare aMtrt.enBadialnety,atbteecnotimoentithegafronoelrss.whWeen, nwoetdo Leclair take the same time and energy the experts. I forget I’m a repressed gay so. Mr. Bai—leyand his book—constitute a aIs’mthcehyaidridofinthBeepnljaanmniinngFrcaonmklmiint’tsedeay. umha,n,gaaysmheasnb—eePnaurleVpaeranteeldllyacnldaiJmiemd by postscript not a main act to our long for Fantasia Fair, a week-long trans- Fouratt, for example. struggle for selfdetermination,selfdefi- nition, and selfunderstanding. gender event held in Provincetown, I forget I’m just too weak-minded to Massachusetts. Telephone conference understand that by changing my sex I’m Copyright '' 2003HabwykMSotoonnehcaawnkbeRirveearchSetdonate: cpallalsnnainndgtphreocienstse,rnbeuttstthreeawmolriknerethmeains ehamspobweeenricnlgaitmheedtbwyo-JgaennicdeerRasyysmtoemn,dasand HawkStone&aol.com the same: registration, programming, by some in our own community.And I planning the fabulous Fantasia Fair forget I’m supposed to be a waitress or Follies and the Fantasia Fair Fashion prostitute and preoccupied with beaded TMWWBQ Foracontrasting—viewpointon Show, advertising the event, liaison gowns and having sex with men,or else turn topage52. Ed. with restaurants,constructing and sexuallyobsessed with my female body, printing the program book and other as Michael Bailey has told me he has materials. proven without doubt. 6 TromgenderTAPESTRY