Transformational Life Coaching: Creating Limitless Opportunities for Yourself and Others

95 Pages·1.288 MB·English

by  Cherie Carter-Scott

Other books by Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D.
If Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules
If High School Is a Game, Here’s How to Break the Rules: A Cutting Edge Guide to Becoming Yourself
The Gift of Motherhood: Ten Truths for Every Mother
Negaholics: How to Overcome Negativity and Turn Your Life Around
The Corporate Negaholic: How to Deal Successfully with Negative Colleagues, Managers, and Corporations
The New Species: A Vision of the Evolution of the Human Being
The Inner View: A Woman’s Daily Journal
Baby Boomer’s Bible to Life After 50
The Art of Giving: How to Bring More Joy and Pleasure into the Lives of Those You Love
Blij met Mij (in Dutch only)

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Carter-Scott, Chérie.
Transformational life coaching / Chérie Carter-Scott and Lynn U. Stewart ; with foreword by Ric Giardina.
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7573-0689-1 (trade paper)
ISBN-10: 0-7573-0689-6 (trade paper)
ISBN-13: 978-0-7573-9812-4 (e-Pub)
ISBN-10: 0-7573-9812-X (e-Pub)
1. Personal coaching. 2. Personal coaching—Practice. I. Stewart, Lynn U. II. Title.
BF637.P36C37 2007
158’.3—dc22
2007032438
© 2007 Chérie Carter-Scott and Lynn U. Stewart
All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means,
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Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
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Deerfield Beach, FL 33442-8190
Cover photo by Cameron Studio
Cover design by Larissa Hise Henoch
Inside book design and formatting by Dawn Von Strolley Grove
T
o all of our clients, students, readers, and friends
around the world who have entrusted us with their personal
development and training over the past three decades;
to all of our MMS certified coaches who have taken
the work to their different corners of the world and
brought the light of possibility to those who had given up hope.
Contents
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Preface
1.THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE SELF
2.AWARENESS
3.LISTENING AND CONNECTING
4.CHOICES AND DECISIONS
5.ARTICULATING OBJECTIVES AND MANIFESTING REALITY
6.ENERGY, POWER CENTERS, CHAKRAS, AND FLOW
7.LIVING THE PROCESS
8.MARKETING AND BUILDING YOUR COACHING PRACTICE
9.COACHING YOURSELF
10.CREATING COMMUNITY
The Living Language of Coaching
Index
Foreword
When we take the time to look, we usually find someone in our past who has had a profound and positive effect on the course we set for ourselves
for the rest of our lives. Usually we see it clearly only from the future that person actually helped to create; sometimes we’re lucky enough—or
perhaps awake enough—to recognize that person for who they are and what they are giving us while it is happening.
For me, that someone is Chérie Carter-Scott. And I was very lucky, indeed.
I met Chérie in May 1978. She was facilitating a full-day time-management workshop offered through her company, Motivation Management Service
(MMS). I had been urged to take the workshop by my partner in the law firm we were putting together at the time on Union Street in San Francisco. She
had already attended it herself and thought it would be of value to me. MMS was directly across the street from our law offices.
Even in the list-populated, task-filled, paper-intensive, pre-computer, and pre-PDA world of a 1970s time-management program, Chérie’s open and
caring heart shone through. More than that, I saw she was somehow able to focus and direct that loving energy to assist others in solving their own issues.
It all resonated with something deep within me.
Within days of the completion of that time-management program, I registered for the MMS Inner Negotiation Workshop, in which I cut years off my
recovery time from the perceived hurts of my childhood. Within weeks of completing that workshop, I registered for the three-month MMS Coach Training
(CT) intensive. Within months of completing the CT, I left my law firm, carried my boxes across the street, and joined the staff of MMS, where for several
years Dr. Chérie and Lynn Stewart taught this often-very-much-in-his-head young man how to move his center to his heart and do his work—whatever it
was—from that place.
And indeed, they taught me well, for I have successfully carried Dr. Chérie’s heart-centered, trust-yourself-to-have-your-own-answers, trust-others-to-
have-their-answers approach into several successful careers that have spanned the military, law, government, high technology, and my own consulting and
coaching business.
And at the root of it all has been the MMS coaching technique.
Here at last, in the words of the founder not only of MMS, but also of the entire coaching industry as we know it, are those very same techniques that
she and Lynn have shared with thousands of MMS Certified Coaches around the world.
There are not enough words to describe how pleased I am that this book exists, how honored I feel to have been asked to write its Foreword, and how
delighted I am that it is now in your hands.
Ric Giardina, MMS Certified Coach (1978),
President and Creative Director, The Spirit Employed Company,
Author of Your Authentic Self: Be Yourself at Work
Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott and Lynn Stewart are profound and wonderful gifts to the coaching world. My experience with these brilliant women dates
back to the early 1980’s. I will never forget my first Self-Esteem Workshop and the glorious healing breakthroughs I was given in such a loving, supportive
environment.
I was hooked. I wanted to be a coach and help people get past their emotional barriers. I spent many hours with Dr. Cherie and Lynn, learning, growing,
and developing coaching skills. I fondly reminisce about the magical days of my Coach Training in Aspen. It was three months of intense challenge,
incredible fun with kindred spirits, and mystical breakthroughs I will forever cherish.
Lynn facilitated most of my training and quickly became my coaching hero. Watching her in action hour after hour as she tirelessly, creatively, and
lovingly helped people find their way to break through remains an inspiration and focus of my life to this day.
My MMS diploma is proudly displayed on the wall of my office. It is a reminder of the priceless time I was able to share with Dr. Cherie and Lynn.
That time and training turned out to be a major turning point in my life and one of my greatest blessings.
You will find this book to be a leading-edge manual of the most effective coaching techniques available today. The information being presented is the
result of spending thousands of hours with real people dealing with real issues. This is not theory or a collection of “good ideas” about what should work. It
is what works.
As you read this account of thirty-three years of pioneering coaching genius, don’t be surprised if you find yourself being able to do things you never
thought you could do. That’s what happens when you spend time in the commanding yet nurturing presence of these great women. Fasten your seat-belt!
Sid Walker, MMS Certified Coach (1982)
Specializing in Sales Performance Coaching
Author of Trust Your Gut and How to Double Your Sales
by Asking a Few More Questions.
Acknowledgments
We would like to thank all those “ambassadors” who give relentless hours of dedication and service to the MMS work around the globe and to all
of those who were in the first MMS Coach’s Training in 1975 in San Francisco who believed in us when there was no reason to, who knew
intuitively that something was “right” and wanted to be a part of drawing out another’s truth: Diana Bober, Jan Martin Brady, John Collins,
Sandy Ford, Addy Helbig, Jean Jones, David Manley, Katherine Martin, Carol McCartney, Lynne Whiteley Novy, Barbra Rasmussen, Franc Sloan, B. J.
Snowden and Christine Stockton. Without their unwavering commitment, the work would not have been possible. To Peter Vegso and Michele Matrisciani,
who believed in this book and made it available for the world to read. To Michael Pomije and Isabella, my angel, whose unwavering support on a daily
basis inspires us to be the best coaches we can be! And to those who live these principles in their work and daily lives …
Barbara Adamich
Robert Adamich
Nader Ahmed
Krita Alshouse
Britt Andriatta, Ph.D.
Billy Joe Arthur
Erica Ashforth
Paulien Assink
Patty Aubery
Tracey Baez
Han Bak
Dave Ballantyne
David Barker
Suparna Basha
Pam Beckerman
Ger Bemer
Charlotte Bertrand
Sonja Bettendorf
Els Boonon
Sister Christine Bowman
Magdalena Brandon
Pat Browzowski
Bart Budding
Peppy Caccavale
Christina Campbell
Jack Canfield
Barbara Carton-Ryker
Misty Chadwick
Fred Chase
Tim Chedester
Remco Classen
Carol Costello
Sue Creager-Rieke
Johannes Crol
Karen Daleboudt
Yvette De Beer
Mirjam De Bruijn
Rien De Vries
Sandy Defazio
Brian DiBiaso
Renee DiBiaso
Henk Dijkstra
Marinus Ditzel
Peter Draaisma
Dianne Dreyfus
Fons Driessen
Gijs Dullaert
Suzie Eastman
David Eddes
Antoine Endtz
Theresa Enyedi
Sonja Evenson-Bettendorf
Marta Flax
Steve Flax
Sharon Fleming
Marius Frank
Stacy Frank
Connie Fueyo
Bob Furstenau
Ric Gardinia
Jeff Garnes
Robert Gersten
Ric Giardina
Kip Glover
Betty Goggia
Jacqueline Goodman
Frans Gosses
Donna Gould
Shelley Greenbaum
Hein Griffioen
Hein Gubbels
Craig Guderian
Jo-Anne Guderian
Serena Haenen
Annemiek Hagens
Bob & Molly Hamrick
Eleanor Hardy
Gordie Hardy
Patty Harpenau
Corinne Heijn
Stephen Hodes
Christine Louise Hohlbaum
Vinnie Hojecki
Steve Hoopes
Daniel Mulock Houwer
Joy Huntsman
Peter Idenburg
Jeff Jacobi
Alberto Jauregui
Shannon Jauregui
Denise Johnson
Carol Jones
Judylynn Jones
David Jordan
Shaylene Kauver
David Keller
Kirtus Kimball
Elizabethe Kleinveld
Stacey Knight
Dieter Konig
Katrinka Kramer
Lori Leighty
Jeff Leith
Monica Lenches
De Ann Letourneau
Jeff Link
Marilyn Louden
Eva Love
Suzette Magiore