Table Of Content

FROM THE BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay y Th e Weekend Marriase • • ABUNDANT LOVE n a / TIME-STARVED O V^ R L D f- Kirshenba N /lira -ir $23.00 (CANADA: $33.00) From the bestselling author of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay comes the first marriage guide — designed For our fast-paced Hves a revolutionary, streamlined approach for couples who want to make the most ofevery precious morrrent together. Forget Mars and Venus. It's our time-starved lives that are hurting our relationships. A book that is sure to be much talked about, The Weekend Marriage will transform our understanding ofwhat two people need to have a happy marriage. Mira Kirshenbaum is the first to argue that the real obstacle to a life full oflove is not knowing how to handle our relationships when we have so little time. In this marriage guide for the twenty-first century, Kirshenbaum shares the proven secrets ofpeople who have figured out how to nurture their love no matter what their schedules. (And it's the busiest partner who determines how much time the couple has for each other.) In our fast-paced society, the intimate, one- on-one connection between spouses is too often neglected in a rush of familial and social obligations; spending precious hours untangling knotty problems is the last thing couples need. Kirshenbaum's fresh ideas show how most marital conflicts can easiK' be resolved, and some can even be ignored. She offers four realistic, easy-to-follow recommendations for transform- ing a time-starved relationship into a thriving and fulfilling marriage. PRAISE FOR HE WEEKEND M APR AG I 'I LOVE this book. Mira Kirshenbaum has provided an incredible tool for today's time-starved couples: an easy-to-follow, sensible approach to reconnecting. TheWeekendMarriagehelps you quickly get to the important issues that make or break your relationship, and shows you how to fast-forward through all the time-wasting My interaction—s that can derai—lyou. husband and I couldn'tbelieve how well and quickly this practical approach works to help you rediscover a great connection! I want twenty copies to send to everyone I—know, because every couple I know needs this book." Mary Shomon, patient advocate and author of Living Well with Hypothyroidism, theThyroid Diet 'As a psychologist and a husband, I found Mira Kirshenbaum's new book, The Weekend Marriage, to be wonderfully practical and helpful for real-life marriages. I'll use her insights personally and professionally!" — Ross Porter, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of To Kindle a Fire 'Mira Kirshenbaum's books are always a breath offresh air. Clear, simple, and light hearted. The Weekend Marriage evokes hope and teaches the how-to's of making a marriage work. Kirshenbaum reminds us how not to let it slip away, how to hold it and enfold it into our daily lives so that marriages grow and thrive, even in a time-starved world." — Dr. Dorothy Firman, psychotherapist and author of Daughters and Mothers:Making It Work and Chicken Soupfor the Mother and Daughter Soul 'Mira Kirshenbaum has once again provided readers with strategies to cope with one ofAmerica's major problems. Our marriages are suffering from the fast pace ofour lives and the inordinate pressures we all face. Kirshenbaum gives readers ways to remain balanced with the ones we cherish. Read this book, practice the insights provided, and pass it on to all those who want to preserve inti- m macy these troubled times." — Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D., author of PerformanceAddiction:The Dangerous New Syndrome and How to Stop Itfrom RuiningYour Life 'The Weekend Marriage offers simple yet magical solutions to the everyday Hfe ofcouples with limited time together. Husbands and wives who struggle with keeping the flame burning will fmd fresh and practical advice to rejuvenate the lifeblood of their unions. Readers will learn how to relinquish negative habits that pull spouses apart and learn instead to heighten love and romance in marriage." — Eva Fogelman, Ph.D., psychologist and author ofConscience and Courage:Rescuers ofJews During the Holocaust ALSO BY MIRA KIRSHENBAUM Everything Happensfor a Reason: Finding theTrue Meaning ofthe Events in Our Lives The Emotional Energy Factor: The Secrets High-Energy People Use to Beat Emotional Fatigue Too Good to Leave,Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to HelpingYou Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out ofYourRelationship The Gift ofa Year: How to GiveYourselfthe Most Meaningful, Pleasurable, and SatisfyingYear ofYour Life Women &Love: The Eight Make-or-Break Experiences ofLove in Women's Lives Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad: Tlte 10 Prescriptions to HealYourRelationship Parent/Teen Breakthrough: The RelationshipApproach (with Dr. Charles Foster) ? THE EEKEND MARRIAG Abundant Love n a Time-Starved World MIRA KIRSHENBAU Harmony Books/New York Copyright©2005 byMira Kirshenbaum Allrightsreserved. PublishedintheUnitedStatesbyHarmonyBooks, animprintoftheCrown PubHshingGroup, adivision ofRandom House,Inc.,NewYork. www.crownpublishing.com HarmonyBooksis aregisteredtrademarkandthe HarmonyBooks colophon isa trademarkofRandomHouse,Inc. LibraryofCongress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Kirshenbaum,Mira. The weekendmarriage :abundantlov—e ma time-starvedworld / Mira Kirshenbaum. 1sted. 1.Marriage. I.Title. HQ734.K53 2005 646.7'8—dc22 2004021734 ISBN 1-4000-8098-3 Printed m the United States of.America Dc<:i<^ti by ChrisWelch 987654 21 10 3 First Edition .i