The Ultimate Guide To Text Game - PUA Training

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by  Andrew Baker

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About This Guide

This is a guide for text messaging game, itʼs a summary of various recent posts on the
issue. I would like to give credit to all those who have contributed with posts on the forum,
PMʼs and text msgs, all were very helpful and much appreciated.

Since the follow up between day one and day two, depends so much on which direction
the initial interaction went, I have broken it down between comfort based game and
sexually direct game.

It is essential that the follow up is totally congruent with what went down during the set
itself.

Between day 1 and day 2, the only job for you as a man is to make her feel good about
herself.

You cannot do Negs / IODʼs / Takeaways / Freezouts etc, via text. If you make her feel
uncomfortable with text, why on earth will she meet you for a day two?

You can be C&F but make sure it comes off right, remember it is text, it has its limitations
and unlike phone calls itʼs harder to recover from errors, so the fact that itʼs a tease has to
spring off immediately from the text including any emicons available.

This guide is broken up into two distinctive parts... texting concepts and texting contents.

1) Texting concepts are how you should be acting.

2) Texting content is what you need to say.

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Texting Objectives

Itʼs important to understand the objectives of texting before actually following through,
otherwise you run the risk of not getting out for a day two.

Making her laugh

Itʼs great for using call-back humour (referring back to a funny experience you shared with
her) including creating new funny mental images in her mind.

Creating validation

Tith over the top compliments, which are actually not IOIʼs, since it would be obvious you
use it for every girl, but nonetheless makes her feel good about herself, in the same way I
like it when a girl calls me “Handsome” whilst I know she says it to everyone, I still like it.

Escalating properly

Never reply to static stuff, always be escalating. If during set it was sexual, ramp it up big
time, if not donʼt start going all sexual via text, sheʼll be scared to meet you.

Frame control

Ensure your agenda is leading the text exchange. Logistics for getting together etc.

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Texting concepts

This is how you should be acting when youʼre texting a girl. Itʼs the mindset behind text
game that makes it so much more powerful. So take it seriously!

Never answer right away

Donʼt answer right away and give a genuine reason as to why u were “busy”. Itʼs all about
timing it right, at the beginning give her at least as much time she took to respond to you
and even more.

You set the agenda

Once a certain rhythm of text flow has been developed, then YOU should set the agenda,
sometimes replying quickly, sometimes slowly - never becoming predictable.

Because you ALWAYS end your texts with a simple question she can and should answer,
the onus is on her all the time to come back to you!

Avoid looking needy

She wonʼt have the discipline to do that so you will be able to drop her and pick her up as
you chose. Initially very fast answers = needy, on the other hand unpredictability is great,
therefore it should be introduced into the dynamic pretty fast.

Attraction spiking

Keep the line alive starting right after the day 1 all the way through, become part of her life
immediately, can be done easily via small attraction spikes texts.

On the other hand stop texting at a high note, get your message across and STOP, donʼt
text her to death, she should always be wanting more.

If you want to just stoke the fire with a little spike, you can just fire off a spike text, but if
you target is for her to answer your text, ensure one question per text, always place
questions at the end of text.

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Keep it short and sweet if you can and throw in a funny snippet of “your life right now” with
an emotion attached.

Don’t react emotionally

Be unreactive, you live in your own world, often sheʼll write something and youʼll feel
compelled to answer right away and this is where mistakes happen, donʼt be impulsive,
review before sending off, make sure you stay on message.

Donʼt care about her not responding, disregard and start the next day another thread. This
is easier said than done, but works incredibly well.

Use a little cocky and funny

Be very careful with “cocky funny” in texts, remember you are not there smiling & kinoing
her, thus letting her know itʼs only a tease! It should be jumping out of the text.

Get on the phone if need be

Notice how she answers her texts, is it long and elaborate? Then keep at it.

If it seems like the texts are not hitting the right spot with her, there are long time lapses or
short answers, move swiftly over to phone before a negative “no” ladder is built up.

Also note, for foreign girls sometimes itʼs easier for them than talking over the phone,
because they have the text right there in front of them, but sometimes, if they donʼt “get it”
itʼs better to talk, need to gauge that on a case by case basis though.

Mirror her messaging

Itʼs good to mirror the style of your correspondent.

If sheʼs brief, be brief. If sheʼs chatty be chatty.

But always stay one energy level above her. If she doesnʼt ever use smileyʼs or lolʼs donʼt
use them. Use punctuation and “haha”!!!!

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If she never “x”s you only “x” when sheʼs been good. Choose a word she uses in her text
and use it back, pick up on subtle writing styles, notice, does she use punctuation's at all,
is there a gap between one sentence and another or does she write like this, without any
gaps at all.

Establishing a concept

Our goal is to establish the concept that “we are alike”.

In fact using “we” is very powerful. Whenever you can, itʼs good to use “we” instead of “you
and I”.

It establishes a connection in a very powerful and subtle way. “when can we get together?”
says something very different to “when are you free?” it assumes that we both are
participating in mutual process of “getting together”. Sheʼs not being “asked out”.

Put yourself in her shoes

Think of it this way, before you send a text try to put yourself in her shoes and look at your
text and say is that funny? Is this different? is this crazy? Is this someone I definitely think
can brighten up my life? if itʼs a yes to any of those, send, if itʼs lame donʼt do it.

This is an art form and being lazy with texts will get you nowhere, fast.

IOD’s and takeaways

There are a few things you can do, by way of IODʼs / takeaways, but this has to be only
once she is quite invested in the interaction, since you can only do a takeaway if there was
something there to start off with.

• Take a longer time than normal to reply and totally ignore what she said, if you donʼt like

her last response.

• Send her a txt that says youʼre very busy and canʼt meet her this week (whether or not

you had offered to before or whether you are busy) and donʼt propose anything else

• Drop the ʻxʼ from your text (she WILL notice)

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Flaking Points

If a girl flakes me, Iʼll tease her on it in a funny way. I never get angry or look genuinely
upset about it. I never focus on reasoning with them logically.

I also donʼt give up if a girl doesnʼt call back. At the same time, if they say theyʼll call back
Iʼll just say “OK cool.” and give them the chance.

But then if they donʼt call back when they said they will, Iʼll call back a bit later and just re-
initiate the conversation as if I donʼt even remember that they didnʼt follow up.

If you react to her flaking with anything more than an “I didnʼt even notice you flaked”
reaction, than you are telling her:

a) You lack emotional maturity, since you canʼt handle disappointment or changes in your
rigid, structured little life.

TRANSLATION: Youʼre about as fun as a stick in the eye.

b) You must not go through this experience of being flaked on very much or you would
have figured it out by now. What, this is the first time youʼve been flaked on? Get over it.

TRANSLATION: Youʼre a loser.

c) If you HAVE been flaked on before and STILL react this way, it tells her that insecure
anger is where you react from, and she knows what THAT means about you.

TRANSLATION: (I donʼt need to translate this one, do I?)

After all, what kind of guy isnʼt even phased by a woman flaking on him?

ANSWER: A man who has other options in his life.

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Questions And Answers

What do I do if she ignores my text(s)?

Check if it was clearly a question that needed to be answered, if it was very obvious, donʼt
rush to send another text, that would be a total DLV.

Drop it, since she is not interested in investing even something minimal as a text, (mainly,
if it is the first text) or move over to phone game right away (if she never picks up, it will
reconfirm where you are standing with her) If it was not something that clearly required an
answer, you can ignore and start a new thread.

What do I do if she is exchanging texts, but somehow never lets it get to a day two?

Switch to phone game, there is a need for more comfort and trust, afterwards try for a day
two.

Should I text to re-confirm she is coming?

Text assuming she is coming just tell her something about dress code, like donʼt wear high
heels, or youʼll be 15 minutes late, etc.

If you wanna change to another day, how
should I work it?

Say so, without giving specifics, (let her wonder if itʼs another girl or any other reason.)

Write: “I canʼt do it at the designated time, what is your schedule for the rest of the week?”

Thus, leaving you the power to choose from the other options she gives you, as opposed
to offering a date or two and letting her decide which one, keep the power to yourself.

This is good when setting up any day two, specially if you have already been rejected due
to scheduling.

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If it comes close to the day two and she has
not yet confirmed 100%?

Text her/call her, tell her a “genuine” thing that has come up and you working through your
schedule and need a definite answer, etc.

When there is a reason to believe she will be flaking for a day two, there are three options:

1) Flake on them

How about every HB that could possibly flake, flake on her instead. Itʼs not different than
all the other push pull moves that are played out in set, where you pull out their card
before they get a chance to play it.

They are supposed to resist your forwarding moves, you resist for them instead. “oh we
shouldn't move so fast”.

Her flake is actually her feeling the same thing, so do it for her, before she gets a chance.

2) Text them about being late

Say something like: “Iʼm gonna be 15 min late, please let me know you got this message,
so I know youʼll not be hanging about waiting.

If there is no reply call and tell her since she has not replied you will not be there.

3) Call her

Call with the same message, telling her you will be late, if she does not pick up, leave a
message saying you wonʼt be there as she seems to be otherwise occupied.

What do I do if she flakes just before the day two and offers another day?

Accept or reject, accept with a hoop for her to jump through, make the hoop a DHV too
combined with bringing her into your reality, your life is not only about meeting her, yeah
you have this other thing planned, you can get her in there too, but on your terms.

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Like she says: “Cannot meet today, but can meet on Wednesday?”, you say, “Wed is no
problem, but I have to meet my aunt early evening, to help her prepare for this event,
cooking etc, you can meet me afterward in that area”, change the place or/and the time,
from the previous plan.

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Texting Contents

This is what you NEED to be saying during your texts. It doesnʼt need to be verbatim, but
as near as you can really.

Day two texts

Once the initial rapport has been built, youʼll want to set up a day two by using a few
proven text messages.

Beckster’s marshmallow text

“Hi it was lovely to meet you last night. Shame we didnʼt get longer to talk/I hope you got
back safe. p.s. do you like roasted marshmallows?!”

“So we both like marshmallows! Cool, you have some sweet tooth, huh! p.s. do you like
red or white wine?”

“Red/white wine girl eh? And champagne goes well with anything! p.s. whatʼs your
favourite movie genre - romance, comedy or horror?”

“Excellent! We shall have to have a DVD, wine and marshmallows evening! p.s. I hope
you are good at picking one of them, would you rather pick the wine or the DVD?”

“Cool! I shall trust your excellent taste! p.s. which night shall we go for - Monday or
Wednesday?”

Marshmallow text notes

Everything has an easy question to answer “p.s.” with options. Options give an illusion of
choice but actually constrains her and keeps her on the ʻyesʼ ladder.

Using her name is good at the start! If sheʼs got a nickname or you can construct a good
one, you could use that instead e.g. “such and such girl” or “Ms such and such”... but only
if itʼs really good.

Could also throw in a “we are so alike” at some point e.g. after wine or DVD choice.

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If you can think of something genuinely witty to say following one of her answers, then
responding to what she says is ok, otherwise just keep on track.

Iʼve tended to f**k up when Iʼve added stuff, so keeping it simple is probably better. Do
NOT add “cocky funny” - fight the urge! Really! Lie down until it goes away!

Every message should have a fluff bit in it, responding to her hooks, drawing her in and
using humour, itʼs all a bit contrived without that.

I like “which night shall we go for”... IʼM not asking YOU, WE are planning something weʼve
both decided WE want to do.

The switch (if something doesn’t go to plan)

You might notice when it comes to the nitty gritty, she might try to lead towards meeting
elsewhere.

This is because there is not enough comfort and trust built up during the set. From
experience youʼll be able to gauge how much trust has been built between you and if she
would actually follow through, if in doubt, switch to a normal day two.

Hereʼs an example of a switch I did recently with a 20 year old girl I met last night in Cafe
De Paris (a night club in central London).

She was quite reserved, her best friend told me, that she has maybe only had one
boyfriend and just about lost her virginity, I knew she would not come to my place, just like
that:

I wrote towards the end of the marshmallow routine: Excellent! We shall have to have a
DVD, wine and marshmallows evening! p.s. I hope you are good at picking one of them,
would you rather pick the wine or the DVD?

She wrote:

“Oh I thought it would be more of a champagne and cinema evening.”

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What she is saying is, I wanna meet up with you, but I donʼt have enough trust to come to
your place, how about we meet outside somewhere. At that point I made the immediate
smooth switch to a low pressure quick get together:

I wrote:

“Greedy girl, actually Iʼve got a few dinner meetings this week, I sort of have to attend, I
have an hour or so to spare at some point, letʼs grab a drink for half an hour, howʼs youʼre
w/k looking?”

She wrote:

“Actually (notice how she uses the same term as me “actually”) Iʼm quite busy this week
(she is busy too.. ahaha..) but for a good glass of champagne I will find an hour.”

I wrote:

“Taste for the finer things in life, huh? Meet me there and then.”

She wrote:

“Awh, I thought that you also have a taste for the finer things in life... I will be there.”

AFC Adam’s penguin text

“Watcha cutie! You wonʼt believe whatʼs happened to me over the last 24 hours, [letʼs just
say it involved 3 work meetings, 5 glasses of vodka, 2 late night cab rides and a penguin].
Anyhow Iʼm going out a couple of times to celebrate this week, but might get a few hours
spare at some point, howʼs your week looking?”

Notice how I didnʼt directly invite her out. Normally she will suggest a time she can meet
with me, or something like, “Iʼm busy this week, I canʼt make it, Maybe next week?” at
which point you can take it from there.

However what if she responds like this “Nah, sorry Iʼm busy this week” You can reply with.

“Ha ha ha, you wish! I wasnʼt offering, if I get a few hours free Iʼm going to use it to chill
out. I love how you were pretending to be busy though. In fact me and my mates were

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saying just this week people donʼt tend to lead interesting lives outside of work... so what
do you do thatʼs interesting?”

Or:

Hey cutie, so random meeting you just now, are you always so friendly to strangers?” Then
I add some random question at the end.

Phoenix’s text / phone crossover

Phoenix:

“OMG I saw this cat the other day and it really reminded me of you - hope you havenʼt
turned into a cat - if you donʼt reply I will try to help you babe x.”

Reply: blah blah blah

Phoenix:

“So glad you are ok!!! Iʼm calling you now just to check that the person who changed you
into a cat, isnʼt texting me instead of you.”

Then call she will still be laughing - this is a great way to build fun - especially if you came
across as fun when you met her.

If she’s playing hard to get

“Donʼt play hard to get with a man whoʼs hard to get ” (and add a smiley on the end)

“Playing hard to get? Thatʼs cute! Talk to me”

“Tried calling you but no answer, I canʼt sleep at night - I cant eat - oh my heart is breaking
haha... call me back punk!!!”

“Hey angel, youʼre adorable when youʼre hard to get a hold of... call me back.”

“Youʼre so annoying to get a hold of! Itʼs so cute though, youʼre so confused and
disorganised. Itʼs like youʼre my bratty little sister. I donʼt even think Iʼm attracted to you

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anymore, I just want to take care of you and help you get organised like a helpful big
brother.”

“OMG youʼve been kidnapped! Tell them Iʼll pay the ransom! X. p.s have they been feeding
you properly? Iʼll bring chocolate! Plain or milk?”

“We are sooooo getting divorced, call the lawyers, cite ”Irreconcilable differences”, I want
the cat back.”

The super alpha response to a flake, ohh something terrible must have happened, I hope
all is ok with you and your family.

The last resort

Acknowledging that she is ignoring you, might not always be such a good idea, if you donʼt
mention it, it didnʼt happen and you can start a fresh thread all together but if nothing else
works, try these:

“Wow the silent treatment, havenʼt had that in a year or so, are u out of credit?”

“OMG, youʼve disappeared! Iʼve offended you, Iʼm really sorry. I didnʼt mean to! X” it should
include a p.s. with a question - which might be “which is sexier chocolate or strawberries
and cream?” or anything upbeat.”

“OMG - Youʼve disappeared! Have I offended you? I do hope not X”

“I guess I should take the hint. Seems a shame though as I actually really liked you
(compliment - past tense) and thought you were a smart, sassy, fun wee lass (WILKY but
slightly patronising).”

Text attraction spikes

In between setting a day two and the actual day two, ensure a theme of one text per day is
going back and forth, some attraction spikes and teasers, just to keep the link alive.

“So I thought Elvis would be a great theme for our wedding”

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