THE THErapisT’s noTEbook sTrEngTHs on soluTion-basED anD THErapiEs THE THErapisT ’s noTEbook sTrE ngTHs on soluT ion-basED anD THErapiEs Homework, Handouts, and Activities BoB Bertolino MicHAel Kiener ryAn PAtterson New York London Routledge Routledge Taylor & Francis Group Taylor & Francis Group 270 Madison Avenue 27 Church Road New York, NY 10016 Hove, East Sussex BN3 2FA © 2009 by Taylor and Francis Group, LLC Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis Group, an Informa business Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 International Standard Book Number: 978-0-415-99415-6 (Paperback) For permission to photocopy or use material electronically from this work, please access www.copyright.com (http://www.copyright.com/) or contact the Copyright Clearance Center, Inc. (CCC), 222 Rosewood Drive, Danvers, MA 01923, 978-750-8400. CCC is a not-for-profit organization that provides licenses and registration for a variety of users. For organizations that have been granted a photocopy license by the CCC, a separate system of payment has been arranged. Trademark Notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. Library of Congress Cataloging‑in‑Publication Data Bertolino, Bob, 1965- The therapist’s notebook on strengths and solution-based therapies : homework, handouts, and activities / Bob Bertolino, Michael Kiener, Ryan Patterson. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-0-415-99415-6 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Solution-focused therapy--Problems, exercises, etc. I. Kiener, Michael. II. Patterson, Ryan. III. Title. RC489.S65B473 2009 616.89’147--dc22 2008050571 Visit the Taylor & Francis Web site at http://www.taylorandfrancis.com and the Routledge Web site at http://www.routledgementalhealth.com To Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg; two seekers of solutions in life and beyond. — Bob To my parents, Cynthia and Jack, all of my efforts are possible because of your unconditional love and support. — Michael To Youth in Need, you are an unceasing source of inspiration to me. — Ryan Contents Acknowledgments xi Introduction xiii Expanding the Field: A Brief Background of Strengths and Solution-Based (SSB) Ideologies xiii Principles of Strengths and Solution-Based Therapies xiii The Format of This Book xv How to Use the Exercises in This Book xvi We Are Only as Strong as Our Weakest Link: Strengthening the Use of This Book xvii References xx SECTIOn I BECOMIng STREngTHS And SOLUTIOn-BASEd: CREATIng A COnTExT FOR CHAngE I.1 The Philosophical Inventory: Expanding Awareness and Impact of Beliefs 3 I.2 dismantling Your Status Quo: Challenging Assumptions and gaining Insight 7 I.3 Creating new Meaning: All Our Actions Are Meaningful 9 I.4 Taking the “ic” Out of the Person: Seeing the Core Within 11 I.5 Composing Your Theoretical Worldview: What I Believe 13 I.6 Me, Myself, and I: Understanding Personal Strengths 16 I.7 How I describe What I do: Examining Personal Theory and Principles of Change 18 I.8 The Key Is Collaboration: Working “With” Clients 22 I.9 Expectations and next-Pectations: Learning Clients’ Preferences for Therapy 25 I.10 The Body Knows: The Influence of Words 27 I.11 What Are Words For? Terminology as a Pathway of Connection 31 I.12 Individuality, Uniqueness, and Strength: Working With People Who Have a Long List of Labels 34 I.13 Becoming the Hero of Your Own Story: Changing narratives and Lives Through a Creative Process 36 SECTIOn II gETTIng FOCUSEd: ExPLORIng STREngTHS And SOLUTIOnS In InFORMATIOn gATHERIng II.1 It Is Your Life: Creating Space for the Client’s Story 41 II.2 Hello, My name Is: Meeting Yourself Again 43 II.3 Lowering Walls and Building Bridges: Initial Steps in Creating Collaborative Relationships 45 vii viii Contents II.4 Stone Soup: Acknowledging Strengths, Potential, and Contributions to Change 47 II.5 Stenographer: I Said What? 50 II.6 What Is the Effect? Exploring the Influences of Problems 53 II.7 What does That Look Like? Translating Ambiguity Through Action-Talk 55 II.8 g-O! Focusing on goals and Outcomes 58 II.9 goals for goal Setting: Charting a Clear Course 63 II.10 From Problem-Talk to Solution-Talk: Creating Possibilities Through Language 65 II.11 Future Screening: Creating a Vision for the Future 68 II.12 destination Imagination: Envisioning the Future Through Miracles, dreams, and the Extraterrestrial 71 II.13 I Can See Clearly now: developing a Future Focus 75 II.14 From Here to Where? Service Planning for Change 79 II.15 In Many Ways: Mapping Paths of Change 83 II.16 The Spokes of Life: Cultivating Resources 86 II.17 What Tips the Scale? Weighing the Benefits of Change 91 II.18 Embracing Your State: A Race With Yourself 96 II.19 Matching Up: Creating a Fit Between Therapist and Client 98 II.20 The Filing Cabinet: Categorizing My Favorite Methods 100 II.21 Song for Myself: Celebrating Strength, Capacity, and Individuality 102 SECTIOn III RECOnnECTIOn TO SELF: ExPERIEnCE, AFFECT, And EMOTIOn III.1 getting in Touch With Emotion: Hearing What Feelings Have to Say 109 III.2 The Culture of Emotion: Aligning Emotion and Change 111 III.3 Flipping the Switch: Tuning In To Self 113 III.4 “And” now for Something Completely different: The Use of Words to Build new Connections 115 III.5 In a Moment’s notice: Internalizing the Experience of now 117 III.6 The 360° Self: Integrating Internal Experience and Aspects of Self 119 III.7 Body Over Mind: Settling down Through Abilities 123 III.8 Let It Be: Accepting What Is 125 III.9 Let the Music do the Talking: Sometimes Words Are not Enough 127 III.10 Using Positive Relationships to Enhance Positive Coping Mechanisms: Who Makes You Feel good? 130 III.11 Finding Meaning With Therapeutic Tattoos: Looking for Strengths in Unusual Places 132 III.12 The Oasis of the Mind: The Return of Memories Past 134 SECTIOn IV ExPLORIng nEW WORLdS OF POSSIBILITY: CHAngIng PERSPECTIVES And PERCEPTIOnS IV.1 Life Pursuits and the Meaning of It All: Why Am I Here? 139 IV.2 The Inner Limits: Interviewing Self for Solutions 143 IV.3 What in the World? noticing Between Session Change 145 IV.4 Pollyanna grows Up: From Positives to Strengths 147 IV.5 The Art of the Frame: Using Reality-defining Language 151 IV.6 Completing the Puzzle of Your Life: Putting the Pieces Together 154 Contents ix IV.7 My Biography: In Your Own Words 156 IV.8 20,000 to 1: It Takes Only One 158 IV.9 dear diary: What Were My Strengths Today? 161 IV.10 Life Witnesses: Meaningful Connections and Enduring Relationships 163 IV.11 gratitudes: Appreciating Others 166 IV.12 Vantage Point: Multiple Angles, Multiple Solutions 169 IV.13 History Is now: The Wisdom of Others 173 IV.14 The Road Less Traveled: Exploring the Hidden Possibilities during Life’s Most Challenging Times 176 IV.15 Being the Author of Your Life: Say What You need to Say 178 IV.16 More on Meeting Yourself Again: Living With Yourself 181 SECTIOn V LIVES In MOTIOn: CHAngIng PATTERnS OF ACTIOn And InTERACTIOn V.1 getting Off the Hamster Wheel: going Forward With Purpose 185 V.2 Keeping the Momentum: Being Proactive and Enhancing Change 188 V.3 You don’t Say: The “no-Talk” Client 190 V.4 Changing It Up: Altering Problem Patterns 193 V.5 Being a Creature of Habit: Identifying, Establishing, and Maintaining Rituals 195 V.6 The Economy of Movement: When Smaller Changes Lead to Bigger Ones 198 V.7 decision Making and a Healthy Amount of Worry: Making Stress Your Friend 202 V.8 From Mountains to Molehills: Taking Things One Step at a Time 204 V.9 Raindrops on Roses and Whiskers on Kittens: What Are My Favorite Things? 206 V.10 Replacing Street Behavior: Walking the Fine Line 208 V.11 Taking Stock: Clients Increasing Their Control Over Their Lives 210 V.12 Shuffling the deck: Creating Cards to Create Change 212 SECTIOn VI nARRATIVES OF TRAnSFORMATIOn: CHAngE, PROgRESS, TRAnSITIOnS, And EndIngS VI.1 Building Momentum: Extending Change Into the Future 217 VI.2 developing Your Own Take-Home Message: Tell Me What You Think 221 VI.3 Filling the Void: It Can Be Better Than You Thought 223 VI.4 Creating Your Own gPS: A new Map for a new day 225 VI.5 Building the Fire Inside: Sustaining Change in Your Life 227 VI.6 giving Credit to Yourself: A new Look in the Mirror 229 VI.7 The Crossroads of Change: Maintaining new Patterns 231 VI.8 In Honor of You: Incorporating Ritual Into the Transition Process 233 VI.9 Sharing the Credit: Acknowledging the Contributions of Others 236 VI.10 Maintaining the Course: negotiating Future Hurdles 240 VI.11 Coming Soon to a Theater near You: Preparing Clients for Their next great Adventure 244 VI.12 Spreading the news: Strengthening new Stories 247 VI.13 Where do We go From Here? Using Original goals as Benchmarks for Charting a Future Course 249
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