The Tao of Relationships

260 Pages·1989·15.751 MB·English

by  Ray Grigg

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THE TAO OF LOVE
The little task of this book is to deepen and
harmonize the male and female energy. Like yin and
yang in Taoism, female and male are the two handles
ofourhuman reality. As man orwoman wemust come
to terms with ourselves and our sexual counterpart,
not only in a physical way but also in a philosophical
and aesthetic way.
Just as fish can rely upon water for swimming, so
man and woman can rely upon their mutual sexual
attraction as a medium for moving more deeply into
themselves and the Tao. An increase in mind's
awareness of the depth and breadth of sexuality also
increases the body's awareness, so that physical and
mental energy are mutually enhancing. With balancing
comes access to the holistic experience of unity.
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Did the many arise from one ui^^
Was it from the primordial mud
That came the first desire?
Where was the beginning?
How
long has it been?
Is it in each one who seeks Twoness
And in each two who seek Oneness?
Can we choose not to lov^