The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way

145 Pages·2000·1.39 MB·English

by  Aaron Lawrence

The Male Escort's Handbook
The Male Escort's Handbook
Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way
Aaron Lawrence
The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich
the Hard Way. Copyright © 2000 by Aaron Lawrence. All For all men available by the hour.
rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or repro
duced in any manner without written permission from the
author except for brief quotations for review purposes.
Published by: Late Night Press
P.O. Box 4001
Warren, NJ 07059
Author Website: http://www.aaronlawrence.com
Author E-mail: [email protected]
Cover model: Jeffrey Kracht
Cover photos: David J. Martin
Cover design: Andy Sanitate
ISBN 0-9667691-1-2
Library of Congress Catalog Card Number 00-105437
About the Author Contents
Aaron Lawrence has worked as an escort since May 1995, Preface xi
and is the author of Suburban Hustler: Stories of a Hi-Tech Who Am I, and Why Am I Writing This Book? 1
Callboy. When not entertaining clients, he writes an online The Escort Quiz 5
sex advice column and produces a line of amateur adult vid- Making the Big Decision 13
eos. Aaron has posed for Freshmen and Inches magazines The Real Story 19
and appeared in The Dream Team, the 1999 GayVN Winner Agencies and Brothels 28
for Best Gay Video. He is the webmaster of The Independent Route 40
www.aaronlawrence.com, the most popular escort home- Print Advertising 50
page on the Internet. Aaron lives in suburban New Jersey Online Advertising 57
with his lover and their three-legged, half-tailed cat. Handling Potential Clients 75
Sorting the Other Calls 89
Meeting Clients 100
Types of Clients 117
The Hard Way 135
Problem Clients 150
Protecting Yourself 157
Sexually Transmitted Diseases 162
Maintaining Your Health 181
Legal Issues 192
Managing Your Money 205
Branching Out 216
A Few Other Issues 230
Professional Advice 240
Afterword 257
Online Advertising Opportunities 259
Resources for Escorts 262
Related Reading 266
Checking Your Partner for STDs 270
Sex and money are the two building blocks of life.
Fortunately if you have one, you can always get the other.
Acknowledgements
-Anonymous
I would like to thank everyone who helped make this book
possible. Dozens of people contributed in some fashion,
and it would be impossible to name them all. In particular I
want to thank the men of the Escortmale listserv. In spite of
my constant questioning, they never once complained as
they volunteered their vast array of insights into the nature
of male escorting. I also want to thank Jordi for his lesson
about working as an openly HIV-positive escort, Big Moe
for his help on the legal section, Greg and Zoe for looking
over the section on taxes, Dr. Stephen E. Goldstone for veri
fying the accuracy of the chapters on STDs and health,
David for his help with the section about deaf clients, and
Vena Blanchard from the International Professional Surro
gates Association for her examination of the information on
surrogate partners. I also want to thank the many friends
who helped me proofread this manuscript, among which
Jack Phillips stands out for his tireless devotion and long
hours. The rest of you know who you are, and how impor
tant you are to me. Finally, a special note of appreciation
goes to my husband, Jeff, for his patience and support
throughout the writing process.
Preface
Prostitution is the age-old art of trading sex for money.
It is considered fashionable by some and degrading by oth
ers. Everyone has an opinion on the subject.
I am no exception, and in fact have more interest in the
subject than most. You see, for the past four years I have
worked as a male prostitute, or "escort" as those of us in the
business call it. Starting in 1995 by hustling in Internet chat
rooms, I taught myself the tricks of the trade with little help
from others. Since then, I have entertained men who have
paid me hundreds of thousands of dollars for my time, ex
perience, and body. I have been flown to dozens of cities
around the world ranging from Buffalo to Rome. I have
bought a house, invested heavily in my retirement, and have
even paid taxes on my income in the process. In short, I
have taken prostitution as most people see it and trans
formed it into a viable career.
To be honest, it wasn't easy. I had to teach myself
about pricing, advertising, interacting with clients, and what
to do when things go wrong. Only briefly was I lucky
enough to have a mentor in the business. I distinctly re
member wishing someone would write a how-to book on
the subject.
Imagine my surprise when I discovered that someone
had written one. John Preston's 1994 book, Hustling: A
Gentleman's Guide to the Fine Art of Homosexual Prostitu
tion, was exactly what I had been searching for. I bought it
immediately and took it home and read the entire book in
one sitting. I was ecstatic that I had finally verified that I
was taking the right steps towards my goal of being a suc
cessful escort.
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Once my initial excitement wore off, I remember house, or retire early, I hope you find The Male Escort's
wanting to read more about becoming a male escort. Pre Handbook to be an invaluable resource.
ston's book was written too early to address how escorts can Oh, I almost forgot. Before you begin reading this
use the Internet. I also wished the book provided more as book, I have a standing rule you need to know. If my ad
sistance for those with drive and ambition, rather than pro vice helps someone earn an extra thousand dollars, he owes
viding tips on how to mooch beer and cigarettes from your me and my lover dinner. I expect to hear from you when
clients. I believed, and still feel today, that such tips only the time comes. And mind you, I've developed a taste for
degrade the profession as a whole. lobster.
In time my friends began urging me to write my own
how-to book about the subject. It was an appealing idea to
me; I certainly like to write, and God knows I sometimes act
like I know everything. After pondering the topic for a year Aaron Lawrence
or so, the idea of the book began to grow on me. Eventually
the urge to write grew so large that I had to take time off
work, sit in front of my computer, and write it out of my
system.
Just as my first book, Suburban Hustler, was the result
of wanting to satisfy people's curiosity about my career,
The Male Escort's Handbook is a product of people ap
proaching me who want to enter the business. So many
would-be escorts have asked me for advice during the past
four years that it would be impossible to teach them all. So
when I wrote this book, I endeavored to provide as many
angles on the industry as possible. Whether a potential es
cort sees himself as a hot daddy, a muscle boy, or a barely
legal twink, I wanted this book to contain everything he
needs to know to begin in the profession.
Experienced escorts should find the book useful as
well. Throughout the writing process, I strove to balance
the fundamentals with advanced lessons. Additionally, un
derlying each chapter is a consistent theme of escorting as a
professional endeavor for those who want to make serious
money. Apply your ambition to the information inside this
book, and the money will come pouring in.
My own long-term goal is to make millions from my
career in the sex industry then retire in style. Whether your
goal is earn a little spending money, pay for college, buy a
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Chapter One
Who Am I, and Why Am I Writing This Book?
I knew I loved escorting half an hour after I shot my
first load with a client. That was when he put the cash in
my hand: one hundred dollars in the form of five crisp
twenties. The feeling was like magic. I had actually been
paid for sex. Me! The bookworm who had bad acne in
high school. The kid with few friends and even less self-
esteem had actually been paid for sex. My escorting ex
perience was beyond anything I ever thought possible.
I'm afraid that I am getting ahead of myself. If you
want to understand how I came to write this book, you need
to understand where I came from. Let me back up two dec
ades to my boringly normal childhood.
I say my childhood was normal because that is what it
was. My father did not die when I was young, and I did not
come from a dysfunctional family. Instead, my siblings and
I grew up in the upscale New Jersey suburbs west of New
York City, where we were sheltered and protected from the
evils of the world. My parents are educated and responsible
members of the community. My mother worked as a
teacher, and my father was an electrical engineer. I may
have inherited my love of sex from them, because I have
four siblings.
As I survived my teenage years, I began to come out as
being gay. It was an easy experience for me. Having never
been particularly accepted, I was not unhappy to find I was
different from my peers. I knew there were other gay peo
ple in New Jersey, because as early as 1986 I was commu
nicating with them using my computer. Most were men in
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