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16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page i More Advance Praise for The Joy of Retirement “Once the mindless myths associated with aging are dispelled, people of tra- ditional retirement age must learn to identify the purpose they can pursue with a passion. With the help of books like The Joy of Retirement, our rapidly aging population can renew their motivation to systematically envision where mean- ing lies in a capstone calling.” —Helen L. Harkness, author, Best Jobs for the Future, The Career Chase, Don’t Stop the Career Clock, and Capitalizing on Career Chaos “Borchard and Donohoe have put together a comprehensive yet readable and truly helpful planning guide for anyone considering retirement.” —John P. Springett, retired Department of Defense senior executive “I’ve just retired after 45 years, so The Joy of Retirementcould not be more perfectly timed. David Borchard and Patricia Donohoe offer expert coun- seling and spiritual advice (combined with a dose of common sense) to those of us finding our way in the sometimes frightening world of life after paid employment.” —Mike Bowler, retired education editor, The Baltimore Sun “With a rare combination of scholarship, wit, and common sense, David Borchard has pierced through the misconceptions about this phase of life and reminded us that retirement is not an end, but rather a new beginning—an opportunity for growth, creativity, and the discovery of one’s authentic self.” —George McHenry, ex-lawyer turned artist “I have retired after a long career in international health consulting, and I am now both a faculty choral director and a student going for my bachelor’s degree in music. The Joy of Retirement effectively leads prospective retirees through the process I went through myself. Borchard’s tools present the kind of challenges one needs to face at this transition point and provide readers with actual data so they don’t have to rely on unreliable hunches and intuition. His hundreds of personal stories provide wonderful role models for going in whatever direction a person wishes to go.” —Robert S. Northrup, M.D. 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page ii This page intentionally left blank 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page iii T J R HE OY OF ETIREMENT Finding Happiness, Freedom, and the Life You’ve Always Wanted David C. Borchard with Patricia A. Donohoe American Management Association New York • Atlanta • Brussels • Chicago • Mexico City • San Francisco Shanghai • Tokyo • Toronto • Washington, D.C. 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page iv Special discounts on bulk quantities of AMACOM books are available to corporations, professional associations, and other organizations. For details, contact Special Sales Department, AMACOM, a division of American Management Association, 1601 Broadway, New York, NY 10019. Tel.: 212-903-8316. Fax: 212-903-8083. E-mail: [email protected] Website: www.amacombooks.org To view all AMACOM titles go to: www.amacombooks.org This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering legal, accounting, or other professional service. If legal advice or other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Borchard, David C. The joy of retirement : finding happiness, freedom, and the life you’ve always wanted / David C. Borchard with Patricia A. Donohoe. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-0-8144-8056-4 (pbk.) 1. Retirement—United States. 2. Retirement—United States—Planning. 3. Retirees—United States—Life skills guides. I. Donohoe, Patricia A. II. Title. HQ1063.2.U6B67 2008 646.7'90973—dc22 2007052951 © 2008 David C. Borchard All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. This publication may not be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in whole or in part, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of AMACOM, a division of American Management Association, 1601 Broadway, New York, NY 10019. Printing number 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page v Contents Preface vii Acknowledgments xiii Chapter 1: Reinventing Your Life at Fifty-Plus 1 Chapter 2: Life Transitions: Endings and Beginnings 23 Chapter 3: Imagination and the Next Season of Your Life 47 Chapter 4: The Life Themes Profiler: Developing Themes for a New Life 63 Chapter 5: Self-Liberation: Transcending Old Roles 94 Chapter 6: Establishing Your Criteria for Fulfillment 115 Chapter 7: Connecting Your Talents to Interests 141 Chapter 8: Relating and Behaving Differently as a Senior 167 Chapter 9: Coming Home: Relocating to the Good Life 201 Chapter 10: Sustaining Vitality: Managing Your Changing Self in a Changing World 222 Conclusion: Authoring Your Life 253 References 261 Index 265 About the Authors 271 v 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page vi This page intentionally left blank 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page vii Preface if you’re in the fifty-plus stage of life, what’s your reaction to being referred to as a “senior”? Some of my clients shudder at the word and severely object to such a label. Personally, I like the idea of being a senior. Do you remember your high school and college days when you couldn’t wait to achieve the lofty status of senior? When you became a senior, then you probably thought you’d arrived and that you were now mature, experienced, and wise. You might have even looked down on the underclassmen. In corporate life, folks work hard to become a senior partner, sen- ior advisor, or senior executive. In ministry, pastors differentiate their status as senior from those who are associates or assistants. Why is it that when we reach a senior status in life, say about fifty-five or so, that we then are reluctant to acknowledge our graduation into this new sta- tus, which once was so desirable? Could it be that at fifty-plus we as- sociate the word seniorwith the pejorative label of being “old”? Old, however, is an old concept when it comes to the new human lifespan. Age is not so much a matter of chronology as it is of health and mindset. Satchel Paige, a colorful character from the sports world and possibly the greatest baseball pitcher of all times, once said, “Ag- ing is a matter of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.” Today seniors are generally healthier, longer-lived, and more active than ever before. In this new world, I suggest we consider achieving fifty- plus status as enviable. In Asia, you’d be revered. So why not enjoy all the hard-won freedom and wisdom that comes with this time in our lives? ◆ What We Want in Senior Life As a career management coach and counselor, I’ve had the opportu- nity to work with hundreds of clients over the past 30 years, mostly vii 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page viii viii PREFACE ranging in age from 20 to 50. In recent years, however, I’ve been see- ing growing numbers of individuals in the fifty-plus stage of life. They want help with reinventing their lives. Some of these individuals want to continue working, but in some new capacity or another; some want to engage in full-time hobbies; some want to volunteer; and many just say they don’t know what they want. Yet I’ve found that there are two things almost all of them are seek- ing. First, they clearly want more freedom to manage their lives and to be more autonomous. More or less, many of them say, “I’ve spent my time in the trenches. Now I’m looking forward to doing what I want rather than what is wanted of me.” One of my clients in the process of planning his retirement said, “I feel like an adolescent again—free and ready for new things.” A second, and not quite so obvious, aspiration my clients have is to become more fully who they are. It seems that so many of us in the first half of life have focused on being what others wanted of us, what our professions required, what our corporate identity demanded, what made our parents happy, or what we thought we needed to be in order to fit in and to make it in life and work. As we age, however, a shift tends to occur. We stop being so con- cerned about how others see us and become much more interested in being and becoming our “natural selves.” I call this the self-realization inclination,and it’s pretty much a bug that most of us get in the fifty- plus years. I hear clients refer to this aspiration in a number of differ- ent ways. Some talk of their desire to “be and do what I want,” some talk of the “freedom to be me,” and some say things like, “I’m looking forward to switching from being Mr. Corporate Guy or Ms. Career Professional to figuring out and being who I really am.” The process of letting go and rediscovering or uncovering who you are is one of the wonderful benefits of graduating to the status of full-fledged senior. ◆ How This Book Can Help It’s one thing to harbor the aspirations of self and life reinvention, but how do you actually achieve them? That’s a question I hear often from my fifty-plus clients. For many years I was working with one adult at a time in this process, but as the demand grew I realized the need to serve a bigger audience. For that reason, I developed a course that I’ve been conducting at the World Bank in Washington, D.C., over the past several years. The course has become quite popular, and individuals outside of the organization often ask me if they can attend. 16790-JoyofRetirement 2/7/08 11:33 AM Page ix PREFACE ix Unfortunately, it’s a service available only for employees. Addi- tionally, a number of executives would like the service but are un- willing to take the course out of concern that others would see them there and get a wrong impression. Senior executives don’t want oth- ers to think they are jumping ship, but they do want and need to plan for a different kind of future—one minus an executive title. While I occasionally deliver the course in other settings, those settings also are geared to a limited audience. Not everyone who might like access to a course of this nature or to individual coaching can afford it. Oth- ers shy away from what they might consider as “needing help with their life.” It’s for these reasons that I have developed this book. My hope is that it will serve as a self-guided process for individuals looking to find new meaning and purpose in their lives as seniors. I have spent years—decades, really—developing a process to help those who want to get a bigger bang out of their senior years in terms of per- sonal freedom and self-realization. If you are thinking of senior life as retirement and a time just for hanging out, this book may not be for you. But, if you are one of the many who see the fifty-plus years as the “Gateway to Freedom” and are excited about making the second half of life the best yet, read on. This book was developed for you. The Joy of Retirement presents mind- and vision-expanding per- spectives for creating a lifestyle for your senior years that is meaning- ful, enjoyable, and rejuvenating. The book features process, content, and assessment tools that have helped hundreds of fifty-plussers rein- vent themselves and create fulfilling retirement lifestyles. The book evolved from my 30 years of career coaching and counseling experi- ences with adults, and, I hope, contains a large measure of the expert- ise and wisdom I’ve gained from working with so many individuals from so many different backgrounds. I’ve designed a structured approach for authoring a new chapter of your life because I’ve found that people who are in transition and in a quandary about their future appreciate having a step-by-step approach. They want to see a path through the woods. I therefore designed the book as an orderly process for helping you resolve six of the major life issues that confront most in our fifty-plus years: 1. What do I really want (vision)? 2. Who am I, and who am I becoming (identity)?

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Life after work no longer conjures up images of older couples stalking the malls, playing golf, and taking endless Caribbean cruises. As baby boomers reach their 50s and 60s, they are redefining what it means to retire. Many of them are still choosing to work or even create a whole new life entirely
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