The Dark Side of the Inner Child

196 Pages·1993·22.443 MB·English

by  Stephen H. Wolinsky, John Bradshaw

STEPHEN WOLINSKY
The inner child is not all precious
and wonderful. By grasping the
ways we continue to use the frozen
and outdated trances of survival, we
some
deprive ourselves of essential
areas of human experience.
Wolinsky calls this limiting function
the "dark side of the inner child."
John
Bracfshaoy
from the foreword

The Dark Side ofthe InnerChild
—
"AWAKENING" is a key word: It means we have
awakened from our personal vantage point or per-
spective. Everything looks totally different...to be
freed from that vantage point and awaken from that
vantage point so that you suddenly see everything
—
differently and the practical application ofthis
awakening...is that you change.
PirVilayatInayatKhan
SO
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The
Dark
Side of
the Inner Child
The Next Step
Stephen WoUnsky
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Dedication
To the memory ofJohn Lennon, Quantum Psychologies Poet and
Song-writer.
Acknowledgments
Kristi L. Kennen, M.S.W., Lynne Behnfield (copy editor), Donna
Ross and Bruce Carter (word processing), Jerald H. Grimson
(illustrator), Eric Marcus, M.D., Roberto Assagioli, founder of
Psychosynthesis anddeveloperofthe concept ofsubpersonalities,
Fritz Perls, M.D., founder ofGestaltTherapy, forhis idea ofparts
dialoguing with each other, and Eric Berne, M.D., founder of
TransactionalAnalysisandcreatoroftheunderstandingoftheinner
parent, inneradult, and innerchild. Alsothanks toDr. AlbertEllis,
the father of Rational-Emotive Thearpy, whose understanding of
thefifteen distortedthinking types were incorporated in this book,
andtoMathewMcKay,MarthaDavis,andPatrickFanningfortheir
book, ThoughtsandFeelings: TheArtofCognitiveStressInterven-
tion.Chapter3ofthisbookcontainsasummaryofDr.AlbertEllis's
fifteencognitivedistortions.Finally,specialthankstoNeilSweeny,
andhismemoryforhisconsultation,love,andfriendshipforalmost
20 years.
The Author
Stephen H. Wolinsky, Ph.D., began his clinical practice in Los
Angeles, California in 1974. A Gestalt and Reichian therapist and
trainer, he led workshops in Southern California. He was also
trainedinClassicalHypnosis,Psychosynthesis,Psychodrama/Psy-
chomotor, and Transactional Analysis. In 1977 he journeyed to
India, where he lived foralmost six years studying meditation. He
movedtoNewMexicoin 1982toresumeaclinicalpractice. There
he began to train therapists in Ericksonian Hypnosis, N.L.P. and
family therapy. Dr. Wolinsky also conducted year-long trainings
entitled: IntegratingHypnosiswithPsychotherapy,andIntegrating
Hypnosis with Family Therapy. Dr. Wolinsky is alsothe authorof
Trances People Live: Healing Approaches in Quantum Psychol-
ogy® (Bramble Books), Quantum Consciousness: The Guide to
Experiencing Quantum Psychology® (Bramble Books), and The
TaoofChaos: EssenceandtheEnneagram (Bramble Books). He
is the co-developer of Quantum Seminars™ and the founder of
Quantum Psychology®. Along with Kristi L. Kennen, M.S.W., he
founded the first Quantum Psychology Institute®. For more infor-
mation write: Quantum Psychology Institute®, c/o The Bramble
Company, PO Box 209, Norfolk, CT06058. To reach Dr. Stephen
Wolinskybyphone: ifyouareusingATTdialO(700)661-1993,for
non-ATT dial 10288 [phone].
Table Contents
of
Foreword ix
Prologue 1
Chapter 1 Where It All Began ForMe 7
Chapter 2 The Beginning ofthe End ofthe Dark Side
ofthe Inner Child 13
Chapter 3 Philosophy and Origins ofTrance 19
Chapter4 Age Regression:
Acting YoungerThan You Are 25
Chapter 5 Futurizing 39
Chapter 6 Dis-Connection: Feeling Separate from
Yourselfand Others 51
Chapter7 Inner Dialogue: The Voices in Your Head 65
Chapter 8 Blocking Out: Not Seeing What Is There 73
Chapter 9 Illusioning: Seeing, Hearing and
Feeling What Is NotThere 81
Chapter 10 Con-fusion: Getting Lost 93
Chapter 11 Trance Dreaming 103
Chapter 12 Amnesia Ill
Chapter 13 Sensory Distortion: "I can't feel".< 117
Chapter 14 Spiritualizing 123
Epilogue 153
Appendix I The Trigger: Changing the Button 157
Appendix II Advanced Self-Trancing,
Creative Uses ofTrance 167
Bibliography 173
Index 175