The Complete Dream Book of Love and Relationships: Discover What Your Dreams and Intuition Reveal about You and Your Love Life

255 Pages·2010·1.07 MB·English

by  Gillian Holloway

the

complete
dream book
of Love and R elationships
Discover What Your Dreams and Intuition
Reveal about You and Your Love Life
gillian holloway, phd
Copyright © 2010 by Gillian Holloway
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The complete dream book of love and relationships : discover what your dreams and
intuition reveal about you and your love life / by Gillian Holloway.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
1. Dream interpretation. 2. Love. 3. Man-woman relationships. 4. Interpersonal
relations. I. Title.
BF1091.H565 2010
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To everyone who dreams of love.

Contents
Acknowledgments ................................... vii
Introduction: How Dreams and Intuition Can Help You
Discover and Deepen Love ...........................ix
Chapter 1: Brilliant Sanity, Dreams, and Intuition .......... 1
Chapter 2: Your Romantic Personality Style. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Chapter 3: Beliefs about Love ......................... 57
Chapter 4: Relationship Patterns ....................... 73
Chapter 5: Must-Haves and Deal Breakers ............... 87
Chapter 6: Dreaming Your Future ..................... 95
Chapter 7: Signs of Love ............................ 107
Chapter 8: Warning Signs and Warning Dreams ......... 133
Chapter 9: Relationship Dream Themes and Symbols ..... 159
Chapter 10: Listening to Your Subconscious ............ 223
Conclusion ........................................ 231
About the Author ................................... 235

Acknowledgments
T hanks to Shana Drehs of Sourcebooks for her vision and
expertise in igniting this project.
Thank you to the entire team at Sourcebooks: you are fabulous,
fun, and ahead of the curve!
Special thanks to my publicist Eleanor Van Natta for her spirit
and hard work!
Thanks to the women and men who generously shared their
dreams, stories, and passions with me over the years. Your kind-
ness, guts, spirit, and belief in passion have deepened my faith in
life and love.
Thank you to my family, Pat, Doug, and Dev, for your support
and humor.
Thank you to Rich for your kindness and encouragement.
Thanks, as always, to my dream buddies—Tracy, Peg, Kendra,
and Norma Jean—for your ongoing brilliant sanity and huge,
huge hearts.
Thank you to Larry for keeping the Lifetreks.com website
research project on track and for generously offering technical
wizardry during critical junctures.
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Special thanks to Lea Sevey for teaching me so much about
intuition over the years and remaining my go-to resource on
the mysterious.
Introduction
How Dreams and Intuition
Can Help You Discover
and Deepen Love
I t is difficult knowing who is right for you and who is wasting
your time, who is trustworthy and who is unstable, unscrupu-
lous, or even dangerous. We try to apply logic to the situation,
and that helps. But most of us in the dating world find that we are
perfectly capable of making terrible mistakes and of caring quite
deeply about someone who has few redeeming features or who just
isn’t a good fit for us.
Friends can tell you what they believe about the situation and
what they find is true for them; a therapist can tell you guidelines
about relationships in general. Family members can tell you what
they hope you will find in life.
What you need, though, is someone who knows your secrets,
your emotional nature, your history of sabotage, your fear of inti-
macy, and your fear of winding up alone. You need someone who
is absolutely and unreservedly on your side, who agrees that a
solid, loving relationship is worth the quest.
In the pursuit of finding and nourishing love, you should take
advantage of all the advocates, advisers, and supporters you can
find, but the one resource you absolutely must take advantage of