The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting: Strategies and Solutions

346 Pages·2018·2.354 MB·English

by  Sarah Naish

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The A–Z of
Therapeutic
Parenting
Strategies and Solutions
Sarah Naish
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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First published in 2018
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Contents
Acknowledgements 7
Introduction 9
PART 1: THE BASICS 17
1 Why Our Children Do the Things They Do 18
2 A Word About Developmental Trauma and
Related Disorders 29
3 The Essential Foundations of Therapeutic Parenting 32
4 The P.A.R.E.N.T.S. Model of
Intervention for Therapeutic Parents 41
5 Summary and Explanation of
Other Therapeutic Parenting Strategies 51
6 Responses and Strategies to Avoid 59
7 Managing Our Own Feelings –
Compassion Fatigue and Self-Care 68
PART 2: A–Z OF BEHAVIOURS AND
CHALLENGES WITH SOLUTIONS 75
References, Further Reading and Websites 341

Acknowledgements
I would like to thank, from the bottom of my heart, all the staff of the
National Association of Therapeutic Parents (NATP) who support me
in our mission to provide effective support to all therapeutic parents
and change lives for children who have suffered trauma.
I would also like to thank the parents who contribute every day to
our Facebook group, and give us all such great inspiration and ideas.
I would particularly like to thank all the moderators and volunteers
who help to empathically support therapeutic parents in their journey
through the NATP, and our workshops, training and online for all the
wise words and encouragement they share so selflessly and voluntarily
every day.
Most of all, I would like to thank my husband, who became one of
the most patient, resourceful therapeutic parents I have ever met, and
my children, who are the joy of my life, for teaching me more about
therapeutic parenting than any expert ever could.
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