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Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Awakening The Sacred Gate to Supreme Bliss: Tantric G-Spot Orgasm & Female Ejaculation by Somraj Pokras and Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D. Published by TantraAtTahoe.com Copyright © 2003 by Tantra At Tahoe ALL RIGHTS RESERVED No part of this publication may be stored, reproduced, forwarded via email, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying and recording, or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, without the written permission of the copyright owner and the publisher of this book. Bona-fide purchasers may print one copy of this document for personal use. Brief quotations may be used in reviews prepared for inclusion in a magazine or newspaper, or for broadcast. For further information, please contact...Tantra At Tahoe 11200 Donner Pass Road #146, Truckee, CA 96161 USA Phone (530) 587-1317, Fax (530) 587-9056, Email <http://www.tantraattahoe.com/connect/emailform.htm>. EDITION 0.9 June 5, 2003 ISBN 0-9721913-1-3 Contents Chapter 1: Introduction Chapter 2: Sacred Tantric Sexuality Chapter 3: Kundalini Energy Chapter 4: Tantric LovePlay Chapter 5: Sacred Landscape Chapter 6: Sacred Gate Massage Chapter 7: Yoni Healing Chapter 8: Ecstatic States Chapter 9: Kama Sutra Sex Positions Chapter 10: Female Ejaculation Bonus Chapter 11: Male G-Spot Chapter 12: Conclusion Dedication This book is dedicated to our beloved Tantric family, a continual source of Supreme Bliss through spiritual inspiration, sexual ecstasy, and expanded consciousness. Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Important Note The material in this book is for educational purposes and is intended to provide helpful guidance to lovers about human sexuality. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, dependable, up-to-date information. We believe what's presented here will be helpful and poses no risk to any healthy person. This_ding that neither the author nor the publisher is engaged in rendering medical, psychological, or any other professional service. If you have questions concerning the application of the material and advice described in this book and its affect on your health and well-being, it is your responsibility to consult a qualified professional first. Any use of the techniques used in this book are at your own risk. This book is not intended to serve as medical treatment, psychological counseling, psychotherapy, or any other services best performed by a health professional. No part of this book should be used as a means of self-treatment or as a viable substitute to or for medical evaluation by a physician. If you suspect you have a condition requiring such treatment, we encourage you to seek professional help before engaging in the practices included. Absolutely no part of the program should cause pain or unusual symptoms. Should such arise during or after doing the practices within, the affected party is advised to seek medical evaluation to identify possible causes. If you have knowledge or suspicion that you have contracted a sexually transmitted disease, we urge you to consult with a qualified health professional before engaging in any partner practices in this book. The authors and publishers cannot be held responsible for any error, omission, professional disagreement, or outdated material in this book. The authors and publishers are not liable for any upsetting reaction, damage, injury, infection, fatal disease, or other adverse outcome as a result of applying the information or engaging in any activities suggested in this book. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 2 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Chapter 1: Introduction "The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself." ----- Ben Franklin 1.1 Opening Section This is what you have to look forward to... "As I lay here with my legs spread and my beloved's head bowed, worshipping at the door of my secret garden, I give great thanks for the pleasure I'm about to feel. "With his soft tongue on my most sensitive outer trigger, and his two longest fingers inside, I writhe, scream, and come and come and come. Orgasmic energy engulfs me and soon all he has to do is breathe on me and I shower him with my divine nectar. It goes on and on, over and over again for about 30 minutes. "My beloved is grinning and I am, oh, so blissful. He asks if I want more. Not a hard question to answer. I say YES! "When I reach the continuous Orgasm Zone, I simply want more, More, MORE!" Purposes The purposes of this chapter are to... • Help you understand what's in this ebook. • Orient you to what is where and how to proceed. • Introduce you to how Tantra fits in. Welcome When you read the introduction above, did you say to yourself, "I want that?" Whether you're a woman or a man, young or old, gay or straight, you want to know the depth and breadth of your sexuality. You want to feel great pleasure and amazing sexual ecstasy. You want to pass through the Sacred Gate Of Supreme Bliss, our Tantric name for the G-Spot. You want it all. You want to have full-body orgasms, multiple orgasms, extended orgasms with maximum energy that blow your mind. You want to know all there is to know about the female and male G-Spots and female ejaculation. Regardless of your gender, you want to be all you can be sexually. You want to feel totally confident as a lover -- as the receiver of peak pleasure and the giver of untold ecstasy. We wholeheartedly agree. We believe fervently that you deserve it all. Your sexual self is the very essence of who you are. If this sounds like anything you want, you're in for a real treat. Even if you're not sure, this ebook was designed just for you. Sex Positive Aim Our aim is to support you in being totally sex positive. That means you know that sexual ecstasy is a divine gift and any way you get it is good for you. We want you to love filling your pleasure balloon, that imaginary bubble inside you that expands with good feelings when you let it. Awakening The Sacred Gate will show you how to... • Expand your capacity for pleasure • Bring spirit and awareness into your sexual play • Routinely reach supreme sexual ecstasy Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 3 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 • Build confidence that you can give maximum pleasure • Achieve your full sexual potential • Fully and proudly embrace your sexual birthright. To achieve this, you're going to learn to give and receive Sacred Gate (G-Spot) Orgasms of incredible power and emotional sweetness. You're going to learn to supercharge your sexual play with female ejaculation and relish being bathed in the Goddess's sweet ejaculation fluid. With the latest scientific findings, you're going to discover a whole host of new ways to exchange pleasure. Just as there are many ways to create beautiful music, there's more than one way to make love. We're sure you already know how to play some of the instruments in your sexual orchestra. In the coming pages, you'll learn to play those instruments in creative new ways, to play new instruments, and to expand your play list with both. Soon you'll become the master of ecstatic alternatives to sexual union (our Tantric name for intercourse). Not to mention ways to make sexual union supremely blissful. But we have to warn you. If you play music like this once, neither of you will ever want to stop. Especially For Women (Partners, you can read this too) If you're a woman, please know that we wrote Awakening The Sacred Gate mostly for you. And so your lovers could give you maximum pleasure. Which is still for you. Though this ebook ends with a bonus chapter about the male G-Spot, it's mostly about female anatomy, female arousal, female ecstasy, and female orgasm. If you wonder why, a few statistics can make this crystal clear. Less than half the women who have sex reach orgasm during sexual union (intercourse). Some estimate 75% of women can't reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation. Sadly, 10 to 15% of women have never had an orgasm. Somebody has to do something about this. We nominate you. Do you accept? Maybe you feel that you're not a very sexual person. Maybe you don't particularly like sex the way you've had it. Maybe you've had negative or painful experiences. Maybe you think you don't have a G-Spot or you have one that doesn't feel particularly good. Together, we're going to change all that. We want you to enjoy sex. We want you to believe it's good for you. We want you to release your inhibitions, let go of control, and stop holding back. We want you to remember that being alive means feeling desire. We want you to know that sexual play is good for you. We want you to celebrate that your orgasms make you healthier, more awake, and closer to God. Whew! Do you get the idea that we really care about your sex life? You're right, we really, really do. Sex Negative Culture Unfortunately, most of the so-called civilized world disagrees with the above views. We don't live in cultures that encourage us to explore our bodies, our orgasmic triggers like the G- Spot, and their spiritual connection. Religions frown on it. Few of our parents talked about it. You can't even think about it at work without a lawsuit. Even worse, health professionals are as hung up as the rest of the population. We regularly receive referrals from highly trained therapists who are too shy to deal with sexual issues. In fact, too many medical doctors scoff at proven sexual realities like female ejaculation. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 4 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Partly, this sad story explains why the average lover doesn't know more about their own orgasmic pathways. Never fear, in the coming pages we're going to help you change all that. Forever! Tantra can help you drop these limiting beliefs and create the kind of sex life you crave deep inside. Tantra is the ancient spiritual practice of sacred sexuality that uses sexual energy to raise consciousness. Not only will you learn how Tantra can enhance every aspect of your love life, along the way you'll undoubtedly discover how to make your whole life better. It's OK if you don't know much about Tantra, because we'll fill in the gaps shortly. If you do know a lot about Tantra, we're confident that you'll discover a whole new practical side before mastering our version, Supreme Bliss Tantra. 1.2 Tantric Ebook Section "Sex really is a physical expression of a whole lot of stuff that has no physical existence: love and joy, deep emotion, intense closeness, profound connection, spiritual awareness, incredibly good feelings, sometimes even ecstasy....We free our animal selves by opening our intellects to awareness of our bodies, and when we are no longer stuck in our intellects we become more like spirit: intuitive, experiencing the joy of life for the sake of experiencing, in communion with ourselves, with each other, and beyond" ----- Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt in The Ethical Slut Supreme Bliss Tantra Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy which transforms orgasmic energy into expanded consciousness. Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path that uses sexual energy practices to... • deepen love and intimacy, • extend lovemaking, and • create continuous full-body mind-altering Tantric Orgasms. By opening your senses of the present moment, embracing all of life and all of your being, and focusing on pleasure as a divine gift, Supreme Bliss Tantra... • heals your mind, body, and spirit, • connects you passionately with your deeper self and your beloved, and • immerses you deeply into the untold joys of sacred sexuality to reach cosmic peaks of pleasure ultimately making life an ecstatic journey in total communion with all that is. Our Starting Place & Yours Here are just a few of the key questions that we'll answer for you in the coming pages... • Can you find your own and your lover's Sacred Gate (G-Spot)? • Do you know how to give a G-Spot orgasm? • Women, can you release your inhibitions and open to your Goddess nature? • Men, can you orgasm without ejaculating from G-Spot play? • Women, do you know how to ejaculate when you climax? We know you're reading this because you want to know more of the answers to questions like this. When we started on the path of Supreme Bliss Tantra during the mid-90s, neither of us were multi-orgasmic. Like many other women, Jeffre's orgasms required effort. She was never aware Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 5 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 of ejaculating. Like most men, Somraj couldn't separate orgasm from ejaculation. So he usually came pretty quickly. Realizing how much we were missing gave us strong motivation to learn about pleasure, ecstasy, and orgasm through Tantric practice. We've changed so much and had so much fun that we just had to share our journey with courageous intelligent folks like you. What's In Our Ebook Awakening The Sacred Gate is chock full of frank, accurate, up-to-date information about your sexual landscape, including a detailed description of male and female sexual anatomy. What's more important, we've richly punctuated it with hands-on exercises and practices you can use to quickly teach yourself these powerful sexual skills. Along the way you'll undoubtedly discover how Tantric healing helps you drop negative sexual attitudes, release unwanted inhibitions, and awaken dormant responses. Isn't it great news that practices which teach you to fill your pleasure balloon make you feel fantastic along the way? Sexual learning isn't so different from strengthening your body by work-outs at the gym. They both follow the old maxim...use it or lose it. The more you exercise, the easier it gets and the better it feels. Through practice, you heal the weak parts to make your sexual system healthy and whole. We've created an ebook that is both comprehensive and user friendly. Though it has a little of everything we've learned and how we learned it, it's not an academic volume, exhaustive listing of references, or lengthy survey responses. It's a practical program that reveals all you need to know. Awakening The Sacred Gate shows you step-by-step how to put Tantric Sex into practice immediately in your sex life. In the coming chapters, you will find powerful techniques to master you own sexual forces. You'll learn how to use these techniques to give your beloved exquisite pleasure only imagined in you most erotic dreams. We hope you get the idea that we very much want you to become the lover you want to be. Sexual Exploration Journal When Somraj was a chemist, he learned to document everything about scientific experiments in laboratory notebooks. You might want to use a similar approach while reading Awakening The Sacred Gate. To raise self-awareness, many readers find great benefit in recording their thoughts, reactions, and discoveries in a personal journal dedicated to sexual exploration. We suggest you get one right away. Then, as you read this ebook, you can jot down what you agree with, what makes a strong impact on you, and what doesn't jive with your experience. When you do the practices sandwiched throughout this ebook, you're bound to learn lots about your body, your sex, and yourself. Capturing your adventures offer valuable insight as you progress and help you remember important discoveries. Journalling becomes an invaluable tool when you choose to communicate to a lover what you've learned about pleasuring your Sacred Gate. During all the practices in this training program, we don't expect or encourage complete instant transformation. So writing down what happened can help you pick up where you left off next time. Further, the G-Spot and female ejaculation often push emotional buttons and raise issues buried deep inside. You'll want to take some breaks to process what comes up, clear the decks, and integrate what dawns on you. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 6 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Journalling can help with all that. To energize your journalling, you'll find discussion questions similar to the following spread throughout your ebook. You can write your answers or close your eyes and look inside at your own situation. If you're anything like the average couple, talking about sex isn't the easiest thing to do. Those who go through this program with a partner find that these questions are great stimulants for honest intimate communication. EXERCISE: Journal Discussion Questions Here are some questions to journal, reflect on, or talk about... • How big is your capacity for pleasure? • How much spirit do you bring into your loveplay? • What are your orgasms like? Difficult? Full-body? Multiple? Continuous? • How much of your sexual potential have you realized? Tantric Sex Tantric Sex is making love reverently, sacredly, and consciously to maximize and circulate orgasmic energy. It's much more than technique. It's an amalgamation of attitude and emotion, awareness and approach. To be sure, this ebook will teach you lots of specific sexual how-tos that will give you enormous confidence. Just remember, when you combine them with the Tantric attitude, voila, you'll become every woman's dream lover. Awakening The Sacred Gate includes expansive and exciting solo and partner practices to enable you to understand, first-hand (pun intended), the nature of Tantra and the experience of Tantric Sex. Before you're done, you'll know exactly how to find, excite, and create maximum pleasure from the G-Spot. You'll know how to ejaculate if you're female, or make your female partner's waters flow regardless of your sexual preference. More importantly to students of Tantra, you'll know how to interweave mind, body, and spirit to create powerful, ecstatic and long lasting sexual experiences, with or without sexual union. (That's one of our names for intercourse.) You'll learn to muster your inner fire, couple sexual energy with physical touch, and exchange orgasmic magnetism with your beloved. By the way, everything here applies to women giving to women as well as men giving to women. Except of course in the chapter devoted to maithuna, sexual intercourse. Everywhere else, we've done our best to use language that honors whatever your sexual preference is. Kundalini To The Rescue Before going further, we should explain what we mean when we refer to a key target of Tantric Sex, Kundalini energy. There's a dormant life force inside all of us that few tap into fully. When you're turned-on sexually, you can feel this nervous stimulation and physical excitation, alive, bubbling, vibrating inside you. Even when you're not, you can probably feel it trickling and tickling inside. This is sexual energy, which most lovers feel most strongly right before orgasm. So sometimes we call it orgasmic energy. Kundalini is the old Sanskrit name for this normally latent psychosexual power. The ancients pictured Kundalini like a coiled snake that lies sleeping at the base of the spine. When awakened through Tantric practice, Kundalini energy can ascend through the subtle body, creating powerful ecstatic experiences and heightened cosmic consciousness. Know how to do that for yourself, and exchange Kundalini with a partner and, virtually, the sky's the limit. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 7 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 Being a great lover is a learned art and science. If you grew up the way most of us did, you weren't born into a society fully aware of this knowledge. Now you can enter the Sacred Gate of Supreme Bliss. The path is great and wide. Welcome to expanded Tantric sexuality. Why Is It Important For You To Learn About Tantra? Tantra is the ancient art of transforming the Kundalini energy awakened by orgasm into spiritual connection and cosmic consciousness. Its roots are very old, as long as 7,000 years ago. Tantra shows us how to open fully to our sexual nature and, in the process, learn to love all of who we are. As we practice more ways to feel pleasure and consciously experience ourselves as sexual beings, we're able to more fully realize our spiritual nature. Sadly, we live in an anti- ecstatic society that doesn't promote joy, pleasure, and ecstasy as worthwhile pursuits. Tantra says these are the only worthwhile pursuits. As part of your Tantric exploration into the depths of your sexuality, it is only natural that you explore the capacity of the Sacred Gate and the phenomenon of female ejaculation. Tantra says be all you can be, experience everything, enjoy. Know yourself sexually, and the truth will set you free. We'll fully explore the nature of Supreme Bliss Tantra so you'll learn how to be the blissful, playful, energetic lover you were born to be. That's a lover who has the desire and capacity to make lovemaking last through multiple orgasms of multiple kinds, regardless of your sex. We'll teach you ancient Tantric secrets about how to relax, awaken your senses, and use your breath to increase your sexual pleasure. We'll demonstrate how to move your body to enhance your orgasms. We'll offer you everything you need to know, to practice, to experience and to fly emotionally and spiritually on the wings of sexual bliss. Why We're Qualified To Write This Ebook Jeffre and Somraj started Tantra At Tahoe in 1998 to teach lovers the ancient art and science of sacred sexuality. Our combined 53 years of teaching and counseling experience created the backdrop to help singles and couples integrate the secrets of Supreme Bliss Tantra into their lives. Our strong sexual appetites and willingness to experiment ourselves and with others provide the personal experience that allows us to write with conviction. Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D. is a SkyDancing Tantra Teacher with over 30 years of clinical psychology experience specializing in relationships and human sexuality. Jeffre is co-author of Intimacy: The Green Light for Red Hot Sex and A Lifetime Of Loving. She is a shaman, healer, counselor, workshop leader, columnist, artist, and avid skier whose advice is highly sought after. Somraj Pokras is the author of countless articles about Tantra, over 50 workshops, and 4 books including the best-selling Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. During his 30 year career as a counselor, group facilitator, and trainer, Somraj has guided more that 20,000 people to lead more effective lives. Somraj is a private pilot, avid skier and mountain bike rider, website designer, and worshipper of the Goddess. We derive great joy from assisting others to release their sexual inhibitions. By unblocking their pleasure, they learn to make lovemaking last and last and last. We live in the mountain paradise near Lake Tahoe, California with our two golden retrievers, Shiva and Shakti. Our Tantric lifestyle allows the four of us to celebrate the beauty of nature during all seasons. With all the stress, disease, and unhappiness in today's world, somebody has to demonstrate that it's possible to enjoy life to the fullest. We're making that our ecstatic life purpose. That's our story and we're sticking to it. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 8 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 EXERCISE: Energy Discussion Questions Here are some questions to journal, reflect on, or talk about... • Why do you think Tantra can help you? • How relaxed are you during sex? • How open do you feel you are to Kundalini energy? • When and where can you feel sexual or orgasmic energy in your body? 1.3 Sexual History Section "Ultimately, your definition of sex or sexuality is limited only by your imagination and willingness to explore." ----- from Intimacy: A Green Light For Red Hot Sex And A Lifetime Of Loving by Jeffre TallTrees and Orv. Fry The Sacred Gate The G-Spot is a highly sensitive area on the front or upper wall of the yoni (Tantric for vagina). G-Spot a modern term, coined by Ladas, Whipple, & Perry in their 1982 book The G- Spot And other Discoveries About Human Sexuality. They named it after Ernst Gräfenberg M.D. who first wrote about this "new" orgasmic trigger in a scientific journal in 1950. By the way, Gräfenberg didn't call it a spot and rightly so. It's an area in different places in different women. And it moves. We call the G-Spot the Sacred Gate, partly because all of sex is sacred to a Tantrika (a Tantra adept) and partly because it truly is a doorway to profound love, deep emotional intimacy, and sexual ecstasy. The Sacred Gate contains the power to unleash hidden emotions, generate deep orgasms, and trigger ejaculation when aroused enough. Before you're done reading this ebook and doing its many juicy practices, we can assure you that you'll be able to find and excite your beloved's Sacred Gate. You'll learn anatomy, massage strokes, and more pathways to G-Spot orgasm than you can imagine. We expect that some of you have had negative experiences with G-Spot stimulation. You may have felt little, nothing, burning, or other discomfort. Let us assure you that, by following our program to awaken your Sacred Gate, this will never be the case again. We should warn you that we use the terms G-Spot and Sacred Gate interchangeably. Hopefully that won't confuse you. A Brief Sexual History Lesson Though G-Spot is a modern term, undoubtedly the ancients were aware of the super sensitive parts inside yoni (vagina). They were certainly aware of one the Sacred Gate's primary sexual functions, female ejaculation. There are references to the female expulsion of fluid with orgasm as early as Aristotle in ancient Greece. The Kama Sutra mentions in clearly. Shakespeare called it "the water of my love." It wasn't until about 400 years ago that a Dutch anatomist, Regnier De Graaf, clearly defined the glands and ducts that make up the Sacred Gate. He said they were analogous to the male prostate. This started a scientific trend of referring to the G-Spot as the female prostate. In 1880 Alexander Skene, M.D., extensively studied and illustrated the glands and ducts that comprise the female prostate. To this day, some refer to this part of a woman's anatomy as Skene's glands. It wasn't until 1953 that a urologist named Samuel Berkow concluded that this tissue was erectile. More current research beginning in the 80s concluded that the Skene's glands are small, functional organs that produce female prostatic secretion and possess cells comparable to the male prostate. Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 9 Awakening The Sacred Gate June 2003 When you feel the G-Spot, or Sacred Gate, you're feeling these glands beneath the skin of yoni's upper wall. More Research, More Arguments About the turn of the 20th century, Freud was generating his own revolution about the nature of sexuality. He said there were two kinds of orgasm: clitoral and vaginal, or in Tantric terms clio and yoni. Freud convinced many that clio (clitoral) orgasms were immature. According to him, it took a real woman to have a yoni orgasm. In contrast, pioneering sex researchers, like Kinsey in the 50s and Masters & Johnson in the 60s, believed that only clio was responsible for women's orgasms. The good news was that these findings spurred vibrator-wielding feminists to teach women that they could develop their orgasmic potential. The bad news was that, depending on who they listened to, many people ignored a valuable source of female sexual pleasure. (Don't worry, we're not going to take sides in this silly debate.) Fortunately, the pendulum began to swing back in 1982 when the G-Spot book was published. Public consciousness, fueled by scientific research and growing comfort with the sexual revolution, opened to other orgasmic triggers. Make Love Not Controversy Don't expect your family doctor, or even your OB/GYN to know very much about sex. In most medical schools, the training devoted to sexuality is either non-existent or minimal. A few medical schools increased their emphasis on sexuality in the 70s and 80s, but many of them have cut back since then. So it's no surprise that the controversies over the existence of the G- Spot, different kinds of orgasms, and female ejaculation continue to this day in the medical community. It's only been since the late 90s that medical research began to take seriously the notion that women's sexuality operates differently than men's. At last, serious investigation is underway into the unique sexual anatomy and physiology of the female that will ultimately support women in leading joyful sex lives. What you'll read here is based on the most recent findings. Women Are Different, Duh We understand the frustration of male-dominated sciences being unable to describe female sexuality with simple linear models and reproducible formulas. The fundamental fact that keeps appearing in our reading, research, and client work is that each woman is different. Although there are some general commonalties, each woman will have her proclivities, her preferences, and her own kind of orgasms. Her pleasure, her sensitivity, and her climaxes will differ based on factors within and without: her mood, her hormones, her level of arousal, her connection to her partner, her openness to passion, and her acceptance of her own sexuality. Those of us who honor the Goddess and specialize in the study and practice of sex know without a doubt that the Sacred Gate exists. As does clio. It doesn't take an expert to prove that they both can help you explode with passion if you want. Never fear, your G-Spot is alive and well and living inside. When you discover exactly what it wants, it can shower you and your lover with delicious peaks of pleasure and sweet female ejaculate. Thank the Goddess for big favors. EXERCISE: History Discussion Questions Here are some questions to journal, reflect on, or talk about... Copyright © 2003 Tantra At Tahoe 10