✶ This research is dedicated to Ida Craddock and all who seek deeper contact with the denizens of extraordinary reality. SPIRIT MARRIAGE “Megan Rose offers a well-researched path to meaningful, long- term relationships in the unseen realm. This is the book to read if you are interested in developing intimacy with spirits close to you and being relationally well about it.” PAVINI MORAY, PH.D., SEX AND RELATIONSHIP EDUCATOR, FOUNDER OF WELLCELIUM, AND HOST OF THE BESPOKEN BONES PODCAST “Broadens our usual conceptions about romantic love to include the dimension of the more-than-human. In tending and nourishing these sacred connections we step into traditions long suppressed or ignored but vital to our rounder sense of what it means to love and be loved.” CRAIG CHALQUIST, PH.D., AUTHOR OF TERRAPSYCHOLOGICAL INQUIRY “An inspired and inspiring exploration of the phenomenon of the Hieros Gamos, and how it can contribute to the spiritual regeneration of human life on Earth. Regardless of whether you think you will ever enter into a spirit marriage—or are already in one—you will find Rose’s book to be a heartfelt and deeply engaging exploration of this widespread spiritual practice. Read it, and prepare for new and compelling insights into the spiritual destiny of humanity.” BRUCE MACLENNAN, PH.D., AUTHOR OF THE WISDOM OF HYPATIA “Have you heard the call of the Beloved? You are not alone. Megan Rose captures stories of people in loving relationships with spirits and provides a road map to enter into a relationship for those who have heard the call. She combines insights gained from these interviews with her extensive academic and magical training to arrive at a profound and nuanced understanding of the experience. Spirit Marriage is that rare book that grants voice to what has been hidden and encourages those who dare to follow the call to love.” BRANDY WILLIAMS, AUTHOR OF PRACTICAL MAGIC FOR BEGINNERS “There is a certain amount of intimacy in all forms of spirit contact, but for a small part of the community of practitioners the contact is as deep as that of a beloved spouse. Spirit Marriage is the first book to explore this phenomenon in depth. The book is particularly valuable because it contains stories from the lives of beings engaged in spirit marriages today.” IVO DOMINGUEZ JR., AUTHOR OF THE FOUR ELEMENTS OF THE WISE “Megan Rose’s exploration of this widely practiced but little-known phenomenon is illuminated with impeccable scholarship and a deep intuition born of her own experiences in this area. I know of no finer book on this important topic. It belongs in the library of anyone seeking to understand the emerging possibilities of connection and collaboration with allies in the realms of Spirit.” DAVID SPANGLER, SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR OF THE LORIAN ASSOCIATION AND AUTHOR OF APPRENTICED TO SPIRIT “Spirit Marriage is not only a guidebook to forming bonded relationships with Spirit, it is an invitation to awaken our own spiritual potential.” SALICROW, PSYCHIC MEDIUM AND AUTHOR OF THE PATH OF ELEMENTAL WITCHCRAFT “Megan Rose takes us on an engaging journey through the history of spirit marriage, from its ancient roots to contemporary accounts of its modern-day practitioners. An important and illuminating study of a fascinating subject!” VERE CHAPPELL, AUTHOR OF SEXUAL OUTLAW, EROTIC MYSTIC “It is through her embodiment of the three ‘keys’ of devotion, discernment, and discipline that the book becomes a catalyst for the reader’s own journey of divine or extraordinary embodiment. This book will phenomenologically alter you.” MONICA MODY, PH.D., POET, AUTHOR, AND ADJUNCT PROFESSOR AT THE CALIFORNIA INSTITUTE OF INTEGRAL STUDIES “This is a book that deserves careful reading with an open mind, not something to dismiss out of hand. It comes from the personal experience of the author and is not a new viewpoint—relationships between humans and other level beings have been recorded down the ages. An interesting and thoughtprovoking book.” DOLORES ASHCROFT-NOWICKI, AUTHOR OF THE RITUAL MAGIC WORKBOOK AND THE SHINING PATHS Acknowledgments I am deeply grateful to the friends, colleagues, and family who have supported the decades-long research that became this book. To Ryan Indigo Warman and Jonathan Jay Levine, for your love, support, and stalwart belief in me and my work. To Emily Shurr, for your friendship, encouragement, and vision for this project as well as your keen editor’s eye. To my coresearchers, for your openness and participation. To Orion Foxwood, for your continued love, wisdom, and power. To my early readers, Richard Power and Lillie Falco-Adkins, for your encouragement. To Brandy Williams, for your insightful suggestions and practitioner’s eye. To Rob Brezsny, for your belief in this work and timely connections. To Richard Grossinger for championing this project. To the team at Inner Traditions/Bear and Co. for your willingness to take on a first-time author who was dead-set on writing a tome! To the Albion 8 (Salicrow, Jewels Aradia, Pam Kimball, Henry Austin, Dennis Loreman, JJ, and Indi), my compatriots in the wyrd, for holding the container for me to go deep. To Lisa Christie, Craig Chalquist, David Spangler, Marguerite Rigoglioso, and Randy Conner for your skillful guidance and academic excellence which lay the foundation for this book. To Monica Mody, S. K. Thoth, Lila Angelique, and the Entheosis Institute, for your love and brilliance. To the House of Brigh, the Kali kula, Janice Craig, Elizabeth Bast, Cynthia Morrow, Ro Loughran, Patti O’Luanaigh, the Mystic Midway, the Reclaiming Community, the San Francisco Theosophical Society, the Seven Sisters Mystery School, the Quimera Tribe, the Temple of Awakening Divinity, the Temples of Ma’at and Thoth- Hathor, the Santa Cruz Wisdom Intensive, the Boat of Soul, the Yoga Kula Berkeley, the Damanhur Federation, and the Findhorn Foundation for teaching, training, and community-building with me. Contents Acknowledgments Foreword by Stephen Harrod Buhner Preface Introduction. Feminizing and Decolonizing Our Perceptions of Reality Part 1. The Past Chapter 1. Hidden in Plain Sight Chapter 2. History, Folklore, and Religion Chapter 3. The Occult and Psycho-Spiritual Practice Part 2. The Present Chapter 4. Contemporary Stories of Spirit Marriage Chapter 5. The Faery Seer Chapter 6. The Shakta Tantric Chapter 7. The West African Shrine Keeper Chapter 8. The Washington, DC, Witchdoctor Chapter 9. The New Orleans Voodoo Mambo Chapter 10. The Haitian Vodou Practitioners Chapter 11. The Ceremonial Magician Chapter 12. The Erotic Mystic: Journey to My Divine Self Chapter 13. The Erotic Mystic: Encounters with My Faery Beloved