SNAP!: Change Your Personality in 30 Days

201 Pages·2018·1.52 MB·English

by  Gigi Vorgan

SNAP!
SNAP!
CHANGE YOUR
PERSONALITY IN 30 DAYS
GARY SMALL, MD,
AND GIGI VORGAN
Humanix Books
SNAP!: Change Your Personality in 30 Days
Copyright © 2018 by Humanix Books
All rights reserved
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Contents
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS v i i
PREFACE i x
CHAPTER 1:
Personality Can Change 1
CHAPTER 2:
Four Phases of Change 2 3
CHAPTER 3:
Assess Yourself and Defne Your Goals 35
CHAPTER 4:
Extraversion 101 4 7
CHAPTER 5:
Becoming More Conscientious 6 5
CHAPTER 6:
Learning to Agree 81
vi Contents
CHAPTER 7:
Taming Your Neurosis 9 7
CHAPTER 8:
Opening Up to New Experiences 1 1 7
CHAPTER 9:
Fast-T racking Your Change with Therapy 1 3 1
CHAPTER 10:
30 Days to a Better You 1 4 7
Bibliography 169
Index 1 8 3
Acknowledgments
e are grateful to the many volunteers and patients who
Wparticipated in the research studies that inspired this book
as well as the talented investigators who performed the studies.
Tank you to our colleagues, friends, and family members who
provided their guidance and input, including Howard Chang,
Stuart and Valerie Grant, Rachel Small, and Harrison Small.
Special thanks to our longtime agent and good friend, Sandra
Dijkstra, as well as Mary Glenn at Humanix Books and Chris
Ruddy at Newsmax Media.
Gary Small, MD, and Gigi Vorgan
Note: Many stories and examples contained in this book are
composite accounts based on the experiences of several indi-
viduals and do not represent any one person or group of people.
Similarities to any one person or persons are coincidental and
unintentional. Readers may wish to talk with their doctor before
starting any exercise or diet program.
Preface
hink of a person you admire. How would you describe her
Tpersonality? Is she outgoing, warm, or conscientious? Do you
think of her as funny, confdent, or generous? Perhaps you wish
you were more like her in some ways.
Consider someone you don’t care for. What is it about his
personality that bugs you? Is he anxious, short-t empered, or
unreliable? You probably don’t try to emulate that person.
Now describe your own personality. Are you extroverted and
popular? Would you say you are efcient and organized? High
strung or moody? Are there any qualities about yourself you
would change if you could? If your answer is yes, you are not
alone. Research shows that the vast majority of people do want
to alter certain aspects of their personality, and not just a lit-
tle bit. Most desire profound personal improvements but don’t
even know that change is possible.
Personality defnes who we are as individuals. It is a sum of
the relatively stable traits that make up our unique character and
is driven by our distinctive patterns of thoughts, feelings, and
behaviors. Each of us has a personality fngerprint that refects
who we are— our inner temperament that drives how we act and
react in the world.