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Sexual Anorexia : Overcoming Sexual Self- title: hatred author: Carnes, Patrick.; Moriarity, Joseph. publisher: Hazelden Publishing isbn10 | asin: 1568381441 print isbn13: 9781568381442 ebook isbn13: 9780585318653 language: English subject Sexual aversion disorders. publication date: 1997 lcc: RC560.S45C37 1997eb ddc: 616.85/83 subject: Sexual aversion disorders. Page i Sexual Anorexia Page ii "In Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred, Patrick Carnes explores more of the continuum of human sexual dysfunction. With all the moral injunctions about sex that most of us received during childhood, it is difficult to see a lack of, or even revulsion of, sexual desire as a serious problem. In comparing these areas of difficulty with the anorexic and bulimic eating disorders, Carnes masterfully presents an easily understood structure of the disease process and a recovery regime that offers real hope for comfort in relationships." Pia Mellody, R.N., addictions and codependence consultant, author of Facing Codependence, Breaking Free, and Facing Love Addiction "A valuable resource for men and women who have been afraid and confused about sex. Patrick Carnes has made another remarkable contribution that fosters sexual recovery and sexual healing. Using his trademark blend of wisdom, practical strategies, and personal stories, Carnes takes readers through a step-by-step program to discover the meaning and joys of healthy sexual intimacy." Wendy Maltz, M.S.W., sex therapist, author of The Sexual Healing Journey and co-author of In the Garden of Desire Page iii Sexual Anorexia Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. with Joseph M. Moriarity Page iv Hazelden Center City, Minnesota 55012-0176 1-800-328-0094 (Toll Free U.S., Canada, and the Virgin Islands) 1-651-257-1331 (24-hour Fax) http://www.hazelden.org (World Wide Web site on Internet) ©1997 by Patrick Carnes. Printed in the United States of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Carnes, Patrick Sexual anorexia: overcoming sexual self-hatred/Patrick Carnes. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 1-56838-144-1 1. Sexual aversion disorders. I. Title. RC560.S45C37 1997 97-12610 616.85'83dc21 CIP 00 99 654 Book design by Nora Koch/Gravel Pit Publications Cover design by David Spohn Typesetting by Nora Koch/Gravel Pit Publications Editor's note Hazelden offers a variety of information on chemical dependency and related areas. Our publications do not necessarily represent Hazelden's programs, nor do they officially speak for any Twelve Step organization. All the stories in this book are based on actual experiences. The names and details have been changed to protect the privacy of the people involved. In some cases, composites have been created. The Twelve Steps are reprinted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that AA has reviewed or approved the contents of this publication, nor that AA agrees with the views expressed herein. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism onlyuse of the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after AA, but which address other problems, or in any other non-AA context, does not imply otherwise. Page v This book is dedicated to the couples who participate in Recovering Couples Anonymous. Page vii CONTENTS List of Illustrations viii Preface ix Acknowledgments xii Introduction 1 Part I Chapter 1: Sex as Fundamental 9 Chapter 2: Sex as Deprivation 37 Chapter 3: Sex as Extreme 55 Chapter 4: Sex as Healing 75 Chapter 5: Sex as Health 89 Part II Chapter 6: Nurturing 103 Chapter 7: Sensuality 135 Chapter 8: Self-Image 159 Chapter 9: Self-Definition 177 Chapter 10: Sexual Comfort 195 Chapter 11: Knowledge 217 Chapter 12: Relationships 249 Chapter 13: Partners 271 Chapter 14: Nongenital Sex 305 Chapter 15: Genital Sex 321 Chapter 16: Spirituality 335 Chapter 17: Passion 349 Appendix A: The Twelve Dimensions, Strategies, and 367 Principles of Healthy Sexuality Appendix B: The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous 375 The Twelve Steps of Sex Addicts Anonymous 376 The Twelve Steps of Sexaholics Anonymous 377 The Twelve Steps of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous 378 The Twelve Suggested Steps of Sexual Compulsives 379 Anonymous Notes 381 Recommended Resources 387 Index 391 About the Author 401 Page viii ILLUSTRATIONS Figures 1.1 The Sexual Curve 16 2.1 The Interior World of the Sexual Anorexic 48 2.2 Anorexia Cycle 49 2.3 The Sexual Anorexic System 51 2.4 Sexual Anorexia and Sexual Addiction Compared 53 3.1 Shame Cycle 57 3.2 Core Beliefs for Three Obessional States of Mind 72 5.1 The Paradigm Shift 92 6.1 Examples of Nurturing 104 6.2 The Core Beliefs and the Sexual Anorexic-Sexual 107 Addiction Cycle 6.3 Continuum of Behaviors 109 6.4 Addictive Sexuality and Healthy Sexuality 123 11.1 A Sample Sexual Response Cycle 222 11.2 Preparation of New Sexual Imagery 230 17.1 Seven Levels of Feeling 353

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A first-time examination of sexual anorexia, an extreme fear of sexual intimacy and obsessive avoidance of sex, by the acknowledged leader in the treatment of compulsive sexual behavior and recovery. Author Dr. Patrick Carnes begins by defining sexual anorexia and demonstrating how it and its parall
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