S.E.X.-The all-you-need-to-know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through your Teens & Twenties PDF
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Praise for S.E.X. “S.E.X. is, literally, a lifesaving book: Corinna’s vast commonsense wisdom—especially on topics relating to gender roles, queer sexuality, and gender identities—has the potential to improve the physical and emotional health of anyone who reads it, and to help heal our culture’s unhealthy, conflicted approaches to sex, sexuality, and gender.” —Lisa Jervis, cofounder, Bitch “Sexpert Heather Corinna is the big sis you wish you’d had when you were a confused, pimply teen. . . . Geared towards 16–22-year-olds of any gender, S.E.X. covers the nuts and bolts of anatomy in a tone that’s conversational, not cutesy . . . it’s her holistic approach and deft handling of other heavy topics, from eating disorders to abuse, that make this book a must- read.” —BUST “If you’re a parent looking for an accurate and non-judgmental text for your blossoming adolescent, or a blossoming adolescent or twenty-something yourself, here it is.” —Toronto Star “S.E.X. is a positive and informative all-embracing guide to sexuality by a dedicated author. Heather Corinna challenges adolescents and young adults alike to be proactive in owning their sexuality by being true to themselves, all the while laying the foundation of knowledge and acceptance—key factors for the development of a healthy sexuality.” —DR. LYNN PONTON, author of The Sex Lives of Teenagers and The Romance of Risk Many of the designations used by manufacturers and sellers to distinguish their products are claimed as trademarks. Where those designations appear in this book and Da Capo Press was aware of a trademark claim, the designations have been printed in initial capital letters. Copyright © 2016 by Heather Corinna Illustrations by Isabella Rotman All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Printed in the United States of America. For information, address Da Capo Press, 44 Farnsworth Street, 3rd Floor, Boston, MA 02210. Designed by Jill Shaffer Set in 11 point Bembo and 9.5 point Helvetica Neue LT by Eclipse Publishing Services Cataloging-in- Publication data for this book is available from the Library of Congress. ISBN: 978-0-7382-1885-4 (ebook) Second Da Capo Press edition 2016 Published by Da Capo Press, an imprint of Perseus Books, a division PBG Publishing, LLC, a subsidiary of Hachette Book Group, Inc. www.dacapopress.com Note: The information in this book is true and complete to the best of our knowledge. This book is intended only as an informative guide for those wishing to know more about health issues. In no way is this book intended to replace, countermand, or conflict with the advice given to you by your own physician. The ultimate decision concerning care should be made between you and your doctor. We strongly recommend you follow his or her advice. Information in this book is general and is offered with no guarantees on the part of the authors or Da Capo Press. The authors and publisher disclaim all liability in connection with the use of this book. Da Capo Press books are available at special discounts for bulk purchases in the U.S. by corporations, institutions, and other organizations. For more information, please contact the Special Markets Department at 2300 Chestnut Street, Suite 200, Philadelphia, PA, 19103, or call (800) 810-4145, ext. 5000, or e-mail [email protected]. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 For young people: At Scarleteen, at the Spruce Street Inn Secure Crisis Residential Center, all the way back to the little preschool I ran in Rogers Park in the mid-1990s, and in many other settings and interactions, I have learned so much about not just this work but about life, love, and living itself from young people. My life has been more rich, meaningful, and unique for all of your places and parts in it than it ever could have been without all of you: thank you. I hope this book gives you back at least as much as all you’ve given me. For the Liams: Before you know it, it’ll be time in your lives for a book like this one. When it is, I hope you like it and only go “Eew!” as many times as it’s fun. Know that you can talk with your Aunt Heather about any of this stuff anytime: I promise to only be as silly about any of it as you are. Contents Thank You Foreword Judy Norsigian and Wendy Sanford, cofounders, The Boston Women’s Health Collective, and coauthors of Our Bodies, Ourselves Who’s This Book for, Anyway? A Foreword for Parents, Teachers, Mentors, and Other People Who Care About Teens and Emerging Adults 1 I Pledge Allegiance . . . to Myself and the United State of My Sexuality: An Introduction for Readers 2 Your Sexuality and Your Body: An Owner’s Manual What Is “Sexuality”? What Can Be Part of Sexuality? Circles of Sexuality Let’s Talk About Sex Mega-Metamorphosis: Puberty Braaaaaaaaiiiiinnns Tingly Bits Reproductive and Sexual Anatomy: What’s Up Down There? Every Body’s Got One You’ve Got Some Nerve! The Vulva, Vagina, and Uterus: From the Outside In Clit Lit Life on the Inside The Menstrual Cycle. Period. Where Can Aunt Flo Go? Menses Management When the Rag’s a Drag Breast Basics The Penis and Testes: From the Outside In The Foreskin (or Not) Life on the Inside Vasocongestion (aka Blue Balls) Too Loose/Too Tight! Too Long/Too Short! Too Large/Too Small! Or, What Goldilocks and the Three Bears Have to Do with Your Genitals What’s “Normal” Down There? 3 The Problem with Perfect: Body Image: Or, Why Appearance Isn’t All It Appears Body Image Ten Bodacious Ways to Boost Body Image Disordered Eating and Eating Disorders Don’t Make a Mate a Mirror Who’s at Risk of Disordered Eating, Body Image, or Self-Image Problems? The Ideal Spiel Whole Body/Whole Sexy Viva la Revolución! 4 Sex Starts with You: Arousal, Orgasm, Masturbation, and Fantasy Arousal and Orgasm: Human Sexual Response Coming and Going The Basics of Sexual Response Sexual Desire Arousal Plateau Orgasm Resolution Ejaculation How Do You Tell If You’ve Had an Orgasm? What If You Just Can’t Have One, Ever? Buzzkills Masturbation: A Sexual Solo False and True How Do You Masturbate? Keeping It Safe But Only Losers Masturbate! How Much Is Too Much? Fantasy Fodder: Sexual Fantasy Which Fantasies Are Okay, and Which Aren’t? And Your First Sex Partner Is . . .? 5 So Much More Than Either/Or: Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation Genderpalooza! A Sex and Gender Primer Beyond the Binary Trans-lation Transition Gender Confirmation Surgery Transphobia, Discrimination, and Bias Gendermending How to Be Transfriendly and Subvert Crummy Gender and Orientation Stereotypes in Five Easy Steps! The Rainbow Connection: The Spectrum of Sexual Orientation What Do All These Words Mean?
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