Self-Improvement 2016 44 Techniques to Find Your Purpose, Reach Your Goals, Master Your Emotions and Improve Your Relationships PDF
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Self-Improvement 2016: 44 Techniques to Find Your Purpose, Reach Your Goals, Master Your Emotions and Improve Your Relationships Dan Amerson Copyright 2015 by Dan Amerson-All rights reserved. This document is geared towards providing exact and reliable information in regards to the topic and issue covered. The publication is sold with the idea that the publisher is not required to render accounting, officially permitted, or otherwise, qualified services. If advice is necessary, legal or professional, a practiced individual in the profession should be ordered. - From a Declaration of Principles which was accepted and approved equally by a Committee of the American Bar Association and a Committee of Publishers and Associations. In no way is it legal to reproduce, duplicate, or transmit any part of this document in either electronic means or in printed format. 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Table of Contents I - The Big Picture 1) You're Going to Die; Design Your Life Off of That Fact 2) Pure Positivity is for Wussies; Face Reality on its Terms for Greater Peace of Mind and Success 3) Spend a Great Deal of Time Learning the 'Status Quo'; Decide Whether to Go Along 4) Challenge the Assumptions You've Taken for Granted 5) You Don't Have to Do Anything II - Your Purpose 6) Your Purpose is Not Special; You're Just Selfish (and That's OK) 7) Finding Out What Matters In Life 8) The Price to Pay 9) Your Budgets: Money, Time, and Energy 10) The Power of Gradual Improvement 11) You Can't "Have It All" (Right Now) 12) The Way You Do Anything Is the Way You Do Everything 13) You Are Never Above the Process III - Fulfilling Your Goals 14) How to Properly Set Goals 15) How to Accomplish Your Goals 16) The Power of Your Environment 17) The Power of Focus 18) The 10X Rule for Managing Your Expectations 19) Get a Teacher for Everything That Matters to You 20) Learn How We Learn 21) How to Learn a Language IV - Tether Yourself to Reality and Learn About the World 22) The Reality Principle 23) Figure out the Nexus First; Learn the Axioms, the Building Blocks, and then the Branches 24) Learn the Meaning for Every Word You Use 25) Learning Logic Brings More Peace of Mind Than Meditation 26) Learn to State Your Arguments with Logic and Clarity (Rhetoric) 27) Learn Both Sides of the Arguments and Express Them Eloquently 28) Understand the Nature of Evidence; What Leads to Truth and What Doesn't? 29) Every One Is Biased, Even You 30) Avoid Television and Mainstream Media Outlets for Sources 31) Even When You're Right, Some Won't Listen 32) On Mysticism V - Emotions and Their Link to Success 33) Presence is NOT a Thing You 'Do; It's a Way of Being 34) Presence and Emotions 35) If Your Emotions are Too Powerful and Uncontrollable 36) Your Reality is Most Influenced by the Last 16 Seconds 37) The Case for a Morning Routine 38) You're Always Getting Brainwashed; Choose Your Soap V-Relationships 39) Pick Relationships that Maximize Positive Feelings and Minimize Negative Feelings 40) Shame is Not an Argument; Cut From Your Life Those Who Use It 41) Many People are Bored, Unhappy, Dull, and Negative, But... 42) Learning Human Psychology Doesn't Put You Above People 43) 1 in 17 are Narcissists, 1 in 25 are Sociopaths, and What to Do About It 44) No Body is a Mind Reader Conclusion Resources Introduction Hello! Thank you very much for downloading this book. This book contains concepts which I have developed, contemplated, stolen, and refined over the course of many years. Typically, one forms their ideas about the world from pondering, mistakes, past failures and successes. If you apply these concepts, your inner landscape will become all the much richer. Some of these concepts do require effort, some require facing uncomfortable feelings, or challenging assumptions, but if you take these new paradigms, think about them, and put them in place, you will experience great success in the year 2016! The book is divided into subgroups to help organize the material. The first is the big picture, a more general scope of concepts that overlap into several areas of life. The second is on determining your life purpose, or clarifying it if you aren't 100% about it. The third is about setting and attaining your goals, which is the most important skill there is., The fourth is about treating reality on its terms; how to look at the world in an objective way in order to draw all the benefits that the world can offer. The fifth is about dealing with emotions; since emotions are always running in the background and affecting your decisions, learning to harness these emotions and aligning them with your goals and purpose will be of great benefit. The sixth is about improving your relationships; this section contains some lesser-known advice about improving your relationships; people play an important role in your life. It is best that you learn to maximize the benefit you receive (and contribute) in every interaction. Are you ready? Let's begin. I - The Big Picture This section covers concepts that will give you an over-view of your life. These concepts are general to the extent that they could not fit into any specific section. They are also universal, so it's useful to learn them first. These concept will apply to the other sections of this book. Keep referring to these concepts while reading the following sections (purpose, goals, reality, etc.) in order to benefit from them. 1) You're Going to Die; Design Your Life Off of That Fact Golly! We're already diving into death when it comes to a book on self- improvement. Death is a concept that is crucial to contemplate. You should try to think about death often ,despite the fact that people want to avoid it whenever possible. This concept was covered in depth in Stephen Covey's book "7 Habits of Highly Effective People". His second habit, intitled "Begin With the End in Mind", was a mental exercise that was designed to help people get a big picture view of their life. When Covey says to keep "the End in Mind", the message would carry more meaning if it were called "THE END". Our death. The chapter begins by asking you to visualize your own funeral; you are in your casket, presumably dead, and the rest is up to you. Who is attending? What are they saying about you and your life? What is the emotional setting; filled with memories and well-wishes, or people who've met you, but didn't really get to know you? Additionally, you will have four people speaking at your eulogy; one is your spouse or significant other, one is your boss or employer, the other two are close members of the community. What do they say about you? Which of your values do they mention? If these values differ from how you'd like to be remembered, what do you make of that? This exercise serves a purpose, which is to shake you out of the mundane day-to- day habits that you run through in your life, and to focus on the big picture. The mental trap that we fall into is that we have high and worthy ideals, but we wind up living an alternate life that actualizes none of those ideals due to short- term practicality. Do you consider love and care as a high ideal, but stew over trivial matters and gossip? Do you claim to value learning, but waste hours in front of the television? Do you consider yourself disciplined, but check your email thirty times a day? Do you value tolerance, but discriminate by race? Living with a deep incongruence leads to enormous wastes of energy by having to reconcile the differences. Justifying one or the other means that you'll be jumping from your ideals to your actions and applying them differently for each idea at your convenience. This exercise has a second feature which serves to remind you that you live only once, and that you have the opportunity to live the life you want. Ask yourself earnestly: "What do I want to accomplish in my life?". Also, "Am I currently taking steps to accomplishing it?". If you are not clear, then there is some inner work that you must do. Don't waste your life with things that don't matter to you. Exercise - Sit down with a pen and paper, and write a list of values that you would like to embody and how you'd like to be remembered. - Ask yourself: "If I could accomplish one thing before I die, what would that thing be?". You may have multiple answers to this question. This is similar to a bucket list.
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