Seduction: One Mans Journey In The Land Of Women: Real Stories Of Failure, Experimentation & Success. Overcoming Social Anxiety & Fear. Flirting w Confidence

52 Pages·2016·0.44 MB·English

by  Chris Bale

MY JOURNEY

This book is dedicated to documenting very old blog posts from a few years
back, when I first began my Journey into becoming a better man, and an
equipped man for dealing with women and seduction. I was unhappy and
enough was enough.

There are random tales of seduction, getting my bearings, failing miserably, and
really trying every different mindset and way of being that I thought would fulfil
me. You will see me go through different exercises, using "direct" as a technique
(face palm), and general goings on. This is not in chronological order. More of a
Random collection.

Be aware that the below is not my current way of being or doing. But it IS how
I got here, through going down every route. You will see how some of my
ways of relating are toxic, unhealthy and completely detached from reality.

I do not encourage guys to fall so deeply into separate identities as I did, but I
do encourage you to push the boundaries of what you ASSUME to be right or
wrong for you. The concept of YOU, is a very fluid concept and one which
needs to be explored.

I laugh at some of the stories here, and I am proud of little ol’ me for showing
up, even when I was utterly clueless. I think that is what I had on my side. I
was prepared to risk it all. I was prepared to crash and burn. This edge is what
so many of the men I coach today are missing.

Now, I teach guys, and guide them to where I have eventually arrived, in a far
quicker manner. So take everything below with a grain of salt. But it does go to
show, that really, anything will work at least once! It's the vessel, not the paint
job!

You can see hints of where I finally evolved to, and the processes which took
me there.

Random Postings. Random thoughts. Random struggles. Random failures =
Consistent success.
Enjoy.

Find my work at www.masculineintent.com
GRASPING SEXUAL EXPRESSION

This was the first interaction, where I threw over thinking(for the most part) to
the wind, and focused on projecting clear, unapologetic sexual Intent. I learned
lots from this simple interaction.

In the last week, I have only approached 2 women, both in the same night.
Mainly as I was inside working most of the week, and I was out at a friend's gig
Friday night. I approached the sexiest chick there direct. She had a boyfriend
but loved it, I didn’t do the best job either. Although I did deal with her cock
block friend in a dominant and calm manner, which the chick I was hitting in
clearly was impressed by.

The second girl, we were in a different bar, nearing the end of the night. I came
back from the toilet, and saw all my friends leering at a blonde bohemian godly
figure perched at the bar. Without hesitation, I confidently strolled over, focused
only on the soles of my feet as they planted on the ground, whilst projecting a
heavy dose of sexual intent.

Me: Hello
Her: eh…hi

Me (silence, making hard eye contact)

Her: who are you (the pressure made her open me)
Me: Chris

Her: ok, and what do you want.
Me: what do you think I want
Her: ha-ha I'm not quite sure
Me: your gorgeous Her: ha-ha
thanks,
Me: (silence, just staring)

Her: I have a boyfriend you know
Me: what else do you have?
Her: your ability to make everything sound filthy is impressive.
Me: you look like an art student?

Her: oh really? Well bla bla bla(for a few minutes)

Fast forward: at this point which was about 5 mins later I kept taking and
holding her hand. She would leave me hold it stroking with fingers under the
bar while she started stroking back. She then would pull it away. I take it again
a minute or so later.

At this point we were talking incredibly slowly and seductively about absolute
bullshit. Such as, sandcastles, favourite colours and I think at one point granite
rock. It became enjoyable to bring up the most ridiculous of topics just so we
could bask in the sexual tension. I was basically saying nothing most of the
time, stroking her with intense sex eyes. This was all smack bang in the middle
of a busy bar.

Eventually I could see her getting really jittery and twitchy, closing her eyes a
little longer than was usual at times. I took this as a sign she was wet, so I
moved in to whisper some irrelevant shit in her ear, brushed her neck with my
lips, turned her chin and boom.

We made out for about 30 seconds REALLY slowly. I knew for anything to
happen I would have to get her somewhere more private. After the kiss she
started to get a little bit more uncomfortable every second. The icing on the turd
pie that was the situation…her boyfriend calls her phone as I’m telling her this
will be our little secret. She then has a mini meltdown and panics, says she has
to go.

End of!

Lots of mistakes made, but lots of progress too.

What I learned:
Discreetness is key!

Also I have finally grasped the concept of it does NOT matter what the fuck you
say, and challenging any answer she gives by moulding into a sexual
connotation is pure gold!

Oh news: I have purchased recording equipment so I can now record my
interactions and put them up. Saves a lot of writing and will help me learn much
quicker.
FINDING MY BEARINGS, LESSON, + SEX FAIL

I begin to get into the swing of things…

I went out last night in attempt to turn this week's progress around. Fuckin
smashed it!

I hit a club gig in the city to listen to some good music with a buddy of similar
musical taste, and out of nowhere, I realised, there were lots of women here…
HOT women!

Went to the bar, beside me, 2 very hot chicks, one brunette, one blonde, sisters.
Opened the brunette immediately telling her she was cute. I then introduced
myself to her sister and we all got talking. They were really eager. From out of
town, and only here for the one night. They intended on fucking some guy for
sure. They were both REALLY talkative and engaging. As it was early in the
night, I didn't want to stick to these girls, so I got brunettes number, and left
them. She kept telling me “I'm only here for the one night”…Yes, this was not
the last time in the night I walked away from sex. FAIL

We left the club, and went to a late bar which was FULL of hotties. I said fuck it
and started literally machine gun approaching every hot chick I saw. Opened
direct, along the lines of “hey, I know this is random, but I saw you, your
fucking hot/cute/stunning”. In general, it was always received with a
shocked/embarrassed/ appreciative smile or giggle. I would ask their name and
immediately take their hand to start some type of physical touch. As always, I
kept it low energy with solid eye contact. I feel once I connect with a chick with
eye contact, the intensity pulls them into the interaction with you, it's like they
don't even have a choice, and they are forced to adapt to my vibe, rather than
coming in like a clown.

Now, mainly it was all rejections in terms of having boyfriends or not being
interested. A few were definitely interested, but I fucked up by not knowing
what to say next, and giving her no option to sadly walk away.

A funny moment that let me know how fucking cool taking action is, was a
smoking hot leather bound girl I approached early in the night, who had
dismissed me, but I didn't leave till I got 2 kisses on each cheek and kissed her
cheeks back, walked straight up to me, pulled me to the side, and started to
make out with me without a word being said. This is confusing to me, but fuck,
that bitch is direct! After kissing a bit, I walked away (WTF), back to my friend
was standing there on his own. She looked over with a “where are you going
expression”, and then she walked off. I.AM.AN.IDIOT. It was the end of the
night…she wanted to fuck. Lesson learned…GO OUT ALONE!!

I always opened strong, but I am beginning to see a sticking point for me,
conversation.

The more girls I cold approach, I am starting to see some trends. In one category
the girl is REALLY responsive, clearly interested, will invest heaps and talk lots,
we will click, and conversation will flow naturally. Secondly, there is the girls I
approach and I must do ALL the work at the beginning of the interaction to try
and hook them in. These ones seem much more common. This is the area I must
work on. I open really strongly, and then after the introduction I don't know
where to go? Il ask “having a good night” “so what do you do” “why do you do
that” “what is it about X that makes you love it so much”.
Almost like an interview.

I may be putting too much pressure on this. I may just have to accept that I will
know very quickly weather I have a connection with this girl or not? It is really
frustrating trying to DRAIN conversation from a girl who answers with one
word answers, but she STILL doesn't leave. Maybe this is just a sign to walk
away, go find someone I vibe with.
FIRST "DIRECT" APPROACHES

This is a report of the very first time I broke down through many of my mental
negative barriers, and approached balls out direct in a very frantic way. It was
liberating, as it was the first taste I got of what was actually possible. Now
looking back, I smile, because I am so proud of where I have gotten to in this
area of my life. I was all over the place, like a horny monkey, but I needed to let
loose and do it full on! It was the start…

Wednesday night, I went out alone to a club, not drinking, and I went for it balls
out! I was on my own, as I don't know of any wingmen in my area, and my
friends don't get it. What helped me approach is a little weird, I pretended I had
someone with me when I saw a hot girl, and in my head id say “her, in the blue
top, GO!” It fucking worked! It's almost like I needed an excuse or something to
make me feel ok, plus this rapid decision did not allow me to over think. I didn't
think of what I was going to say or any shit like that, I just went up and threw
myself in front of her, and went direct, it was ALL about approaching. Once I
approach and screened her, I win the game, that's the way I was seeing it.

I am SO fuckin happy I finally did it! Words cannot even explain how I feel
now. In my head I had my AA cause me so much stress about how awful it will
all be. Once I started approaching, I quickly realised that NOTHING bad comes
from it. In fact it's the opposite. I approached about 10 chicks or so, it was a
Wednesday and I was only approaching hotties(I was completely sober), had
conversations etc, got numbers, and by the last girl, I was grabbing her by the
face and kissing her seconds after approaching. What stopped me in the past
was the belief that bad shit will happen, the girl will be disgusted, they won't
like it, I'll be annoying them, they obviously have boyfriends and they will kick
7 types of shit out of me etc.

What I learned…chicks fucking LOVE being approached direct! Even the ones
who had boyfriends APOLOGIZED for having boyfriends! WTF! Every time I
saw a girl I was attracted to, but thought “I can't approach her in that situation” I
started to make myself go into what I deemed to be really awkward situations,
such as pushing through a circle of Geordie Shore looking muscle bags to go
direct on the chick they were all clearly being indirect with and hovering around.
I nuzzled my way in, told her I haven't been able to take my eyes off her, “you're